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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Scenario: Person A is very particular and must have things done perfectly. Person B is tired of criticism from Person A. A glass is broken in the kitchen (beither person A nor B is responsible). Person A asks Person B to clean it. Person B says why bother since it will not be done to your satisfaction and you will end up redoing it anyways. Person A suggests Person B clear the big pieces and then Person A will vacuum as a compromise. Person B agrees and clears the big pieces. While vacuuming, Person A holds up a piece of glass and says “this is the second piece like this I have picked up, FYI”.

Person B says, “see, i knew you would criticize”

[b]Person A gets angry and says informing of a mistake is not criticizing and Person B has set an impossible standard of what constitutes criticizing. [/b]

Who is right?[/quote]

In this scenario it sounded like the jobs should have been switched and person A with the more exacting standards should have picked up the big pieces and person B vacuum.  The way the jobs were divided it was inevitable if there was any subjectively involved in what person B did, that person would think it was fine while person A would not.  The other option would have been to work together to pick up the big pieces and someone steps up to vacuum.  Having been around broken glass before, it is very easy to miss a piece and it is helpful to have more than one person looking.

Given the way the assignment was divided the gracious way is to assume the person didn’t see it and go to pick it up yourself and keep it moving 
, not point it out for them to pick it up and make a big deal.  Would you be comfortable if you were at a PTA meeting and as you were jointly cleaning up broken glass from the kids another parent said to you  “this is the second piece like that I’ve picked up FYI”?  If you said that to me, we would not be friends.
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