Pansexual 6th grader

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with a 6th or 7th grader exploring identities. Particularly since it is probably (not definitively) just words.

Even if it is not just words, think back to when you were 12...my guess is a lot of it is a lot of hormones and no idea what to do with it.

I am guessing, at 13, I (male) may have ID'd as something other than straight, as my friends and I did talk about things. And at 13, anything would get me turned on....An attractive girl, a boy talking about masturbation, a gust of wind, and more than once getting called to the black board to do a math problem....(um...no thanks, I will take the zero).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:what does pansexual mean?

They like Peter Pan?

So like a pedophile?

I JOKE. I AM JOKING.

[Anonymous]

PP here. I should add, the thing to do is nothing. It is not your business.

Feelings happen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s probably spending a lot of time reading about gender/orientation issues on Tumblr. She likes the idea of being able to love anyone, regardless of gender, cis/trans, etc. She also probably likes being the “woke” kid in her grade when most of her peers don’t know what pansexual even means. So a little attention seeking and a lot of good intentions, most likely. It may or may not stick. She’ll be fine.

-6th grade teacher who sees one of these kids every year or so.

This.

[Anonymous]

This LGBT shit has gone too far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I tend to agree with the "make nothing of it" idea. Adults shouldn't shame the child in ANY way but don't need to make it out as a big, life-altering deal. An 11 year old is allowed to explore their romantic preferences (and by saying this, I don't mean dating or sex of course) as much as anyone else. Pansexual means they're open to loving any person. As long as they aren't harming anyone by telling them this (and I'm not sure how) then this is perfectly fine! They will solidify how they identify when they grow up and enter the dating world.

They are harming themselves. Thus it is not "perfectly fine."

How?

Most likely, this is a horribly insecure child (as many MSers are) with a lack of loving but firm parental guidance at home. She is feeling a bit like a misfit, again as many in MS do from time to time. Taking this route will only stigmatize her now and probably lead to a lot of embarrassment in the future. Not exactly what an insecure type needs for mental well-being.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This LGBT shit has gone too far.

Why, because it makes you feel uncomfortable? Honestly, now that kids know that there are options on the table and they won't get beaten up for trying them out, they're doing so. It's actually liberating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This LGBT shit has gone too far.

Why, because it makes you feel uncomfortable? Honestly, now that kids know that there are options on the table and they won't get beaten up for trying them out, they're doing so. It's actually liberating.

Options? Try them out? Wait, so being gay is now a "try it, you'll like it" kind of thing? I was finally coming to terms with the "this is who we are" thing, and now you're telling me that being gay is now an option? Sheesh, make up your minds! Frankly, I don't want my kids "trying it out."

[Anonymous]

Had an argument with a friend about a pansexual colleague a few weeks ago. I'd never encountered a pansexual person before and quite honestly, I think it's ridiculous. Now we can't even subscribe gender pronouns at all? I agree that the LGBT crap has gotten way out of hand. It would appear that we're now completely ignoring science/biology/anatomy because it makes some people uncomfortable in their skin. Um, ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This LGBT shit has gone too far.

Why, because it makes you feel uncomfortable? Honestly, now that kids know that there are options on the table and they won't get beaten up for trying them out, they're doing so. It's actually liberating.

Options? Try them out? Wait, so being gay is now a "try it, you'll like it" kind of thing? I was finally coming to terms with the "this is who we are" thing, and now you're telling me that being gay is now an option? Sheesh, make up your minds! Frankly, I don't want my kids "trying it out."

Np: I don't think one's sexuality is something to be "tried out." If so, then the whole argument of "born this way" is false. Just as girls kissed girls to be "edgy" when I was in school, this is some new way to be controversial and I find it ridiculous.

Note: I'm pro LGBTQIA for those who know they are, but trying out things to be "cool" is nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This LGBT shit has gone too far.

Why, because it makes you feel uncomfortable? Honestly, now that kids know that there are options on the table and they won't get beaten up for trying them out, they're doing so. It's actually liberating.

Options? Try them out? Wait, so being gay is now a "try it, you'll like it" kind of thing? I was finally coming to terms with the "this is who we are" thing, and now you're telling me that being gay is now an option? Sheesh, make up your minds! Frankly, I don't want my kids "trying it out."

Too bad it's out of your control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This LGBT shit has gone too far.

Why, because it makes you feel uncomfortable? Honestly, now that kids know that there are options on the table and they won't get beaten up for trying them out, they're doing so. It's actually liberating.

Options? Try them out? Wait, so being gay is now a "try it, you'll like it" kind of thing? I was finally coming to terms with the "this is who we are" thing, and now you're telling me that being gay is now an option? Sheesh, make up your minds! Frankly, I don't want my kids "trying it out."

Then you should tell them that. But they might do it anyway, either now (without telling you) or later, when they're out of the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This LGBT shit has gone too far.

Why, because it makes you feel uncomfortable? Honestly, now that kids know that there are options on the table and they won't get beaten up for trying them out, they're doing so. It's actually liberating.

Options? Try them out? Wait, so being gay is now a "try it, you'll like it" kind of thing? I was finally coming to terms with the "this is who we are" thing, and now you're telling me that being gay is now an option? Sheesh, make up your minds! Frankly, I don't want my kids "trying it out."

Np: I don't think one's sexuality is something to be "tried out." If so, then the whole argument of "born this way" is false. Just as girls kissed girls to be "edgy" when I was in school, this is some new way to be controversial and I find it ridiculous.

Note: I'm pro LGBTQIA for those who know they are, but trying out things to be "cool" is nonsense.

They're middle schoolers no one said they were logical. You are all looking at this through your 40-year-old brains.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had an argument with a friend about a pansexual colleague a few weeks ago. I'd never encountered a pansexual person before and quite honestly, I think it's ridiculous. Now we can't even subscribe gender pronouns at all? I agree that the LGBT crap has gotten way out of hand. It would appear that we're now completely ignoring science/biology/anatomy because it makes some people uncomfortable in their skin. Um, ok.

And if a pansexual person asks you about your opinion of their sexuality, then you can tell them that. But otherwise, how is their sexuality (either as they perceive it, or as you think they ought to perceive it) relevant to your life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had an argument with a friend about a pansexual colleague a few weeks ago. I'd never encountered a pansexual person before and quite honestly, I think it's ridiculous. Now we can't even subscribe gender pronouns at all? I agree that the LGBT crap has gotten way out of hand. It would appear that we're now completely ignoring science/biology/anatomy because it makes some people uncomfortable in their skin. Um, ok.

And if a pansexual person asks you about your opinion of their sexuality, then you can tell them that. But otherwise, how is their sexuality (either as they perceive it, or as you think they ought to perceive it) relevant to your life?

When I can't use "he" or "she" to speak to them because although they look like a "he" or "she" it's somehow offensive to refer to them that way. See the ridiculousness?