Sex after a baby?

[Anonymous]

Your perception that all men want sex all the time is pretty sexist. A man just like a woman can say no to sex and that doesn't mean they are cheating.

Maybe he is really stressed, maybe he has PPD, maybe he is more sleep deprived or tired than you realize, maybe he just doesn't want sex as often.

Your post is all about you so I don't know if you actually care about him or if you just want sex when you want it regardless of what he wants but you sound very self centered.

I don't think someone saying no to sex twice warrants a conversation. Men have people too. No need to make accusations or treat him like he is broken because he turned down sex.

[Anonymous]

It honestly sounds like to me that he's not attracted to you anymore because of your weight. If you get back down to your pre-baby size, I bet you'd see a change in his behavior.

[Anonymous]

Look, we can not predict why your husband is not sleeping with you. Just ask him! And then believe him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did he see your vagina during childbirth? That is a huge turnoff for some men

If that were the case, the marriage would be over for me. I could never be attracted to such a delicate man.

It's not the sight, it's the horrible smell.

The smell? The smell of what? Now I am terrified. I had our first baby a few months ago and didn't notice a smell. DH hasn't mentioned anything but now I'm worried lol.

[Anonymous]

He's probably not cheating. There's a good chance he's masturbating to online porn. Started during the 8-week drought and now he's hooked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's probably not cheating. There's a good chance he's masturbating to online porn. Started during the 8-week drought and now he's hooked.

DH here. How is this a thing? I have a low libido DW so do my fair share of online stuff to keep the edge off, but I vastly prefer the real thing.

I mean maybe if you have VR goggles and some kind of robot? But vids on a laptop?

I would worry about him looking elsewhere 8 weeks after daily may have made him act rashly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did he see your vagina during childbirth? That is a huge turnoff for some men

If that were the case, the marriage would be over for me. I could never be attracted to such a delicate man.

It's not the sight, it's the horrible smell.

The smell? The smell of what? Now I am terrified. I had our first baby a few months ago and didn't notice a smell. DH hasn't mentioned anything but now I'm worried lol.

This is not a thing. PP is a troll - there is no smell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's probably not cheating. There's a good chance he's masturbating to online porn. Started during the 8-week drought and now he's hooked.

He didn't start as a teen?!

And yes, if any man prefers his hand and a screen to a real woman, the woman is doing it wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe you are stretched out and it’s not the same anymore?

Except this isn't true at all. I guess you don't have a wife and haven't had kids.

NP. : Hello ? Well after 2 kids I can assure things were different down there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you are stretched out and it’s not the same anymore?

Except this isn't true at all. I guess you don't have a wife and haven't had kids.

NP. : Hello ? Well after 2 kids I can assure things were different down there

another NP. Honestly, my vagina will never look the same. That thing took a beating. Worth it, of course, our kids are amazing. But it ain't pretty. However, the changed look does not seem to have caused my husband to become disinterested in me or my body.

[Anonymous]

News flash: women are human beings.

[Anonymous]

Stop coming on to him until you get into a better routine. Be receptive and super into it whenever he approaches.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Wow this thread has taken off. To respond to some of the replies

- No he isn't cheating on me. I fully trust him and it's not in his nature to cheat. We are very much in love. He doesn't have the time to cheat anyway.

- He likes porn as much the next guy, but not more than sex. I am wild in bed and I know our sex if good. We usually watch porn together. I initiate as much as he does.


We talked and he said he's tired and doesn't want me to feel I need to say yes. He knows I'm tired and doesn't want to ask for it all of time. He wants it everyday but knows it's not that possible with a young infant. I think a couple of times a week is good for now.

[Anonymous]

2x per week is VERY good in your situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:News flash: women are human beings.

What? The f'uck if I knew that!