If you married “on time”

[Anonymous]

I’ll play. I was the last of my female friends to get married (round one), the first to divorce, and right on time to remarry (round two). I did feel social pressure to marry, but it was from my ex’s family and friends, not my own. I wish we’d shacked up another year. 9/11 gave a good picture of what he was really made of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It felt stupid once I got divorced and realized I should’ve waited for a guy I was crazy about, rather than settling because it was “the right time” according to society.

+1 me too

[Anonymous]

I married "ahead" of schedule at 23. It felt a little lonely because no one else was married. But the marriage is happy and thriving 25 years later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:9/11 gave a good picture of what he was really made of.

What?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
If you were one of the lucky girls who got married “ on time” what did that feel like?

One of the dumbest, most self absorbed questions ever posed here, and that's saying something.

This is all meant to be taken with a grain of salt. It's a prevalent unspoken mindset in society, and there's nothing wrong with discussion it and its implications in real life.

[Anonymous]

I met my DH at 25, married a few months shy of 28.

I have mixed feelings right now at 32. On paper, he's a good man, good career, good father.. but the romance has died over time. Maybe that's part of having young kids and while we generally get along, it's more like as friends than lovers.

I probably could have waited until I found someone more romantically compatible but I wasn't confident at all something "better" would come along.

[Anonymous]

A bunch of my friends (not friends with each other) all married at around the same time -- four in the same year, when I was about 27. I just went to weddings -- I certainly didn't find and marry someone just to be "on time." After awhile, I stopped going to weddings because I had had enough.

And then I got married, at 33. Still married to the same wonderful guy almost 20 years later. And three of those four girlfriends who got married when I was 27 are still married too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does this 27-30 apply to age or number of friends?

Ohhh, that makes more sense, around the ages of 27-30 ... that explains what "on time" means ... not that the OP had around 27-30 girl friends. Because that is a lot of girl friends.

OP is just a "girl." She didn't study the use of commas yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I met my DH at 25, married a few months shy of 28.

I have mixed feelings right now at 32. On paper, he's a good man, good career, good father.. but the romance has died over time. Maybe that's part of having young kids and while we generally get along, it's more like as friends than lovers.

I probably could have waited until I found someone more romantically compatible but I wasn't confident at all something "better" would come along.

Interesting... I'm in the opposite situation. Hot passionate relationships makes for a lot of ups and downs and a lot of crazy make up sex. Maybe all the "nice" guys are duds in bed.

[Anonymous]

Im an outlier. I have a small group of friends from HS. Im 39. There are 7 of us. 2 of us married early and had kids early and 5 remain unmarried, no serious boyfriends, but a major trail of tears. The only way I feel lis lucky. In 2 years, i will have spent over half my life with my husband. We are all local, Arlington. The common denominator with my 5 unattached friends is that they date losers wayyy below their grade. However, i think at this time they are carrying around so much baggage and hurt, who knows if the future will ever hold "the one" for ajy of them. I think only one is happily single.