I'm Too Ugly To Date..

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Anonymous wrote:If this ugly foul mouth troll looking thing can get not one but two women to love him (shudder) anyone can find a mate.

Women age like milk while men age like fine wine.

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Harry weinstein has a Beautiful wife whom he cheated on forever. Is he attractive?

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Work out. Shape your body. Men will respond accordingly.

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Anonymous wrote:Work out. Shape your body. Men will respond accordingly.

You can do that but be shy also

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Anonymous wrote:Work out. Shape your body. Men will respond accordingly.

I'm a PP. I'm not going to do that just so men will respond. I don't care if men respond. I have my own life, and I would not give it up even if some man did respond. I'm not interested in marriage or kids, I have my own money and houses, and if I meet a man, fine. If I don't, also fine.

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Well heaven forbid she have to...shudder...ask men out!

Well if she gets turned down then she will feel uglier

Yup. Welcome to the party

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Anonymous wrote:Some people really ARE ugly. When you like someone, that makes them seem better-looking to you. I too, am very ugly. 40 and been on one date in my whole life. My picture ID for work was terrible - but I told myself "Well, I was very nervous that day, I wasn't prepared to have to take a picture, etc." They recently re-did the IDs and took new pictures. I got my hair blown out straight. I wore the shirt that makes my eyes look extra good. I did my makeup. And when the pictures came out and I saw mine, I literally physically recoiled in horror. At seeing myself. I have a dynamic personality - I'm funny and smart and super compassionate, a great friend, etc. But ... ugly.

It happens. It's nice that you feel bad, but if you want to be a good friend, the best thing you could do rather than saying "No you're not!" is to LISTEN. If you know of specific things she could easily do to make a difference, tell her. Acknowledge what she's saying rather than trot out platitudes.

You know what, some people just don't take good photos. You may be one of those people. I can take a great picture, but the best parts of me are not what you see but what you experience -- I'm funny and kind and generous and loving.

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Anonymous wrote:If this ugly foul mouth troll looking thing can get not one but two women to love him (shudder) anyone can find a mate.

Women age like milk while men age like fine wine.

I won't go so far as to call him a troll, as I think he is funny and probably has a cool personality which is why women are attracted to him, but this man is aged and that is not wine he's serving up in that picture.

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Anonymous wrote:Some people really ARE ugly. When you like someone, that makes them seem better-looking to you. I too, am very ugly. 40 and been on one date in my whole life. My picture ID for work was terrible - but I told myself "Well, I was very nervous that day, I wasn't prepared to have to take a picture, etc." They recently re-did the IDs and took new pictures. I got my hair blown out straight. I wore the shirt that makes my eyes look extra good. I did my makeup. And when the pictures came out and I saw mine, I literally physically recoiled in horror. At seeing myself. I have a dynamic personality - I'm funny and smart and super compassionate, a great friend, etc. But ... ugly.

It happens. It's nice that you feel bad, but if you want to be a good friend, the best thing you could do rather than saying "No you're not!" is to LISTEN. If you know of specific things she could easily do to make a difference, tell her. Acknowledge what she's saying rather than trot out platitudes.

That is sad you see yourself in that light. Please seek therapy for your issues.

I don't need therapy. I have some really great qualities. Looks simply isn't one of them.

I really respect your response, and it resonates with me. I am an objectively handsome, fit man. But I'm quite short. Many (actually most) women find me unattractive as a result of my height. I have other qualities, and some people see value in those qualities. Others don't. While ugly/pretty/handsome is somewhat more subjective than height, there are still some people who are simply ugly. Kudos to you for being able to accept yourself and appreciate what you have to offer. The original poster needs to do the same.

I agree with PPs. Unattractiveness, for whatever reason, is no reason to need therapy. Kindness, a good attitude, a pleasant disposition are all so much more important. And we all age eventually and lose our looks, it's better to not put so much self worth in looks. I prefer the company of unattractive people to attractive ones that are mean or have bad attitudes.

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Anonymous wrote:Work out. Shape your body. Men will respond accordingly.

I'm a PP. I'm not going to do that just so men will respond. I don't care if men respond. I have my own life, and I would not give it up even if some man did respond. I'm not interested in marriage or kids, I have my own money and houses, and if I meet a man, fine. If I don't, also fine.

A good lesson here gentleman. For her, a relationship with a man is about "money and houses".

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Go to the gym, eat healthy, get laser treatment for any acne scars, go to a hair salon. Get a change you would like, wirk on yourself honey, be tge one you would like to be.

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Theres a dating website for ugly people.
I checked them out and theres attractive people there and not ugly lol, maybe you think too much your ugly but i people doesnt seem to see it

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I know a woman who is probably the most fugly woman I have ever met. And she is chubby too. But she is a very smart, funny and caring person. She has a devoted husband and they seem very happy.

Your friend needs therapy. Self esteem goes a long way.

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Anonymous wrote:Beauty is only a light switch away.

NP, and I'm too ugly, too. My ex used to say "All cats are grey in the dark."

PP, I hope you realize that your ex is saying sh1t like that to on purpose to put you down. Else, why did your ex marry you if your ex always thought you were ugly?

We weren't married. He was my last long-term boyfriend, 18 years ago. I had one boyfriend since then, for 2 months in 2003. I told you, I'm too ugly.
Thank you for the support though.

Well, why did he stay with you LT if you were that ugly? I'm telling you.. he said that to bring you down. Please don't let him. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

I had for years felt ugly because of what someone said to me. I didn't date. It really did a number on my self esteem. I finally started to feel better about myself in my late 20's and married at 34 to a wonderful man who makes me feel beautiful everyday. But, the low self esteem is still there deep down. I honestly do know how ingrained that kind of low self esteem can be.

Go get a makeover. Exercise. Go out with your GF. Make yourself feel beautiful. It really is about how you feel about yourself. Self confidence goes along way.

He moved here for grad school, and didn't know anyone. We knew each other prior. After he had friends and was established, he didn't need to be with me anymore. I actually haven't thought about him in many years, until this thread.

He's just a sh1tty person, then.

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Well heaven forbid she have to...shudder...ask men out!

Well if she gets turned down then she will feel uglier

Yup. Welcome to the party

Oh poor babies! Men endure this with every proposition. Grow up.