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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Some people really ARE ugly.  When you like someone, that makes them seem better-looking to you.  I too, am very ugly.  40 and been on one date in my whole life.  My picture ID for work was terrible - but I told myself "Well, I was very nervous that day, I wasn't prepared to have to take a picture, etc."  They recently re-did the IDs and took new pictures.  I got my hair blown out straight. I wore the shirt that makes my eyes look extra good. I did my makeup.  And when the pictures came out and I saw mine, I literally physically recoiled in horror.  At seeing myself.  I have a dynamic personality - I'm funny and smart and super compassionate, a great friend, etc.  But ... ugly.

It happens.  It's nice that you feel bad, but if you want to be a good friend, the best thing you could do rather than saying "No you're not!" is to LISTEN.  If you know of specific things she could easily do to make a difference, tell her.  Acknowledge what she's saying rather than trot out platitudes.  [/quote]

That is sad you see yourself in that light. Please seek therapy for your issues. [/quote]

I don't need therapy.  I have some really great qualities.  Looks simply isn't one of them. [/quote]

I really respect your response, and it resonates with me. I am an objectively handsome, fit man. But I'm quite short. Many (actually most) women find me unattractive as a result of my height. I have other qualities, and some people see value in those qualities. Others don't. While ugly/pretty/handsome is somewhat more subjective than height, there are still some people who are simply ugly. Kudos to you for being able to accept yourself and appreciate what you have to offer. The original poster needs to do the same. [/quote]

I agree with PPs.  Unattractiveness, for whatever reason, is no reason to need therapy.  Kindness, a good attitude, a pleasant disposition are all so much more important.  And we all age eventually and lose our looks, it's better to not put so much self worth in looks.  I prefer the company of unattractive people to attractive ones that are mean or have bad attitudes.[/quote]

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