Give Me Hope Past 30

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A ton of my friends met good guys after 30, but often it was through online dating. So you need to get comfortable with that.

Also, make sure your standards aren't unrealistic. I have a bunch of unhappily single friends. They are ALL looking for: a tall (over 6'0"), fit, handsome white guy with good hair, who is successful, educated, articulate, not weird, has friends, has a nice family, has socially acceptable hobbies and treats them like a queen. (i.e. pays for every date, plans romantic dates), etc.

This guy is a f*cking unicorn. There's like 3 guys who fit that description after a certain age, and they have their pick of women. So if this is what you are looking for, you may need to relax your standards a bit.

This is PP who traded up after divorce, after age thirty, with kids. My husband fits your description - there are plenty of men out there with these qualities.

Agreed! I just turned 29 and, admittedly, am sometimes worried about this too, OP. I'm in business school now and have to keep reminding myself that there are actually so many wonderful guys out there who are also single. Sure, many of my classmates are already married or taken. But even if it doesn't work out with anyone in grad school, I've made some incredible male friends and they have friends and those friends have friends- so whatever city I end up in, I'm just not too worried (yet..) that I won't be in the right circles to meet this non-unicorn "unicorn" above.

Short version- I know tons of great guys who fit that description and are single post 30+. You really have nothing to worry about (at least for the next few years!) = what I keep telling myself

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you're hot, it will happen.

I was able to trade up in terms of spouses after my divorce (at 32). I also had two kids. My current husband is better looking, makes more money, and is just a better all-around person than my XH was.

That said, I am very beautiful. [/quote

How do you know you're beautiful? Most people are average attractive, with only 10% of the population being model hot.

Correction 5 percent are date-able 2percent are model hott.


Seriously walk around the mall count the first 100 people you see. It's awful.

Nobody goes to malls anymore. It's really all about the circles you run in. Like meets like...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Met my husband when I was 34. We met at a bar. Got married at 36, kids at 38 and 40. People (mainly men) try to scare women so they'll settle for less. Don't buy the lie. You'll be fine regardless.

+1. My 30 year old girlfriend recently broke up with a guy (Stanford MBA, works in PE, thinks he's god's gift to women) and he just couldn't wrap his head around it. They'd been dating pretty seriously for 6 months or so. Eventually, after pushing and pushing, she told him that she just didn't feel a strong emotional connection and that was that.

He came back at her with some absurdly long tirade about how she'll be single forever, will always regret the day she turned him away. How he knows SO many women who wish they hadn't been so picky and now they're "washed up" at 32, yada, yada, yada. Just total fear mongering bs. Also, nice way for him to show his true colors. Don't settle for less than you're worth.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am about to be 31 and single. I haven't found that " one" or anyone I can seriously see myself marrying. I have standards, but I don't think they are exceptionally high. I haven't dated that much, and admit I am more of a homebody. I spent most of my 20's in advanced schooling. I have a good career, smart, funny, cute next-girl-door type, and a good personality ( I've been told). I know it's common now to marry or divorce and marry after 20's, but most of my friends are about to settle down. Can anyone share their experience of meeting their spouse past 30+? I am starting to think it may never happen for me.

I was 35, he was 41. First marriage for both. Both attractive, good jobs, etc., just not willing to settle for the wrong person. Met each other and were married in less than a year. Seventeen years in we are still happy, still best friends, still having a lot of fun together.

Just like Clooney and Amal <3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Met my husband when I was 34. We met at a bar. Got married at 36, kids at 38 and 40. People (mainly men) try to scare women so they'll settle for less. Don't buy the lie. You'll be fine regardless.

+1. My 30 year old girlfriend recently broke up with a guy (Stanford MBA, works in PE, thinks he's god's gift to women) and he just couldn't wrap his head around it. They'd been dating pretty seriously for 6 months or so. Eventually, after pushing and pushing, she told him that she just didn't feel a strong emotional connection and that was that.

He came back at her with some absurdly long tirade about how she'll be single forever, will always regret the day she turned him away. How he knows SO many women who wish they hadn't been so picky and now they're "washed up" at 32, yada, yada, yada. Just total fear mongering bs. Also, nice way for him to show his true colors. Don't settle for less than you're worth.

"Don't settle"? Don't give her that advice and just leave it at that. There is no shortage of single women who won't settle. If you're going to offer that opinion, tell her, tell us where the guys that meet her standards actually are. Be specific. Does she have to move to Boston? Can she meet the guy she wants in Georgetown if she goes blonde?