People who have chronic loneliness
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Anonymous
| You have to teach yourself to enjoy being alone. I am never lonely or bored, and I have never felt that way. I have enough inside of myself to fill my mind, books to read, my piano to play, my motorcycle....I have so much to occupy my time. I can get lost in a book and find that two hours have passed. Learn to zone out and chill. I do not have friends because I've never needed them. I'm happy the way that I am. That's when you know that you are truly content with yourself. |
Anonymous
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OP - I understand. Also an only child now w 2 kids, good (enough) marriage. I've lost a lot of my old friendships from leaving town, it's been a slow grind to find any friendships I would want - moms just aren't interesting people who I'm around and it's mostly men at work. I've always gotten around better w boys actually - many old boyfriends are friends - married or not but I can't talk to them often for obvious reasons lol my family is non existent with divorced parents who don't talk and are dysfunctional to not want a relationship with either. Not close to my husbands family either.
I'm going to tell you my secret to getting by: I do my best to get through and remember good times in my life from past. I remind myself that life is of moments stringed together some god awful and some fab. It's all just moments. I wish I had the relationships of others socially, I wish it were easy to enjoy people, I wish I had a family, etc. but I am close to my kids, DH and I can read, watch movies and TV and live in the little world that's mine. You will never stop feeling alone if you have all your life as I have. Accept and stop questioning cause people who don't get it never will and you'll never figure it out. Know that we all have moments and remember the good ones. As a good friend used to always tell me - the beautiful stand alone. I know what you are talking about and you aren't alone. But realistically you have to find your peace that in this life it is what it is. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| I also grew up as an only child. I always figured the reason why I am not desperate to have other people around me 24/7 like so many people seem to be, was because I learned to entertain myself growing up. This thread blows that theory. |
Anonymous
| Sorry you are feeling this way, but I'm so encouraged by your honesty about it. How about a faith family? Do you have a church you go to? My experience, is that we all have a need that is only filled when we are connected to our faith (mine is Christ). I've heard the phrase multiple times that 'we all have a God sized hole in our heart that only He can fill'. Just a thought. This has been true for me. |
Anonymous
| I'm a loner by nature yet I feel lonely the most when I'm surrounded by people. |