Feel that I was advised badly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was told that my value and worth stems from developing my intellect and my mind. Those girls who focused on their beauty and chased boys were shallow and inferior. It was stupid to care about my acne or learn how to put together an outfit. I was to forgo trying to fit in and focus on school.

Where fast forward a decade and I am in a decent relationship and a crappy job from which I'll never be able to retire. Those girls who focused on looks at dating are now happy SAHM with beautiful children and carefree lives while I am following the rat race.

I wish someone told me to abandon feminism and focus on intellect and academics. I wish I learned to use my beauty when I was younger.

If you were advised that looks and fitness don't matter to men, you were advised badly. Most women who land great men are both attractive and fit and educated. It's not either or.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jesus, people. This is an MRA troll.

Definitely. Thus all the misogynistic follow-up posts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand how you ended up in a dead-end job if you really focused on you, your intellect and school? Is there a career change you can make given that it sounds like you have a good education (and I'm not just talking about money - I'm talking about generating real satisfaction from your job and career). If you are energized and feel like you are making a difference, it can really affect your overall well-being and make you feel better in other areas of your life. Sounds like you are in a bad place in terms of your career and your relationship. Rather than thinking the grass is greener for others, work on trying to fix what you have control over. Good luck.

Because (s)he is a troll. This is made up. If (s)he had been a good troll, (s)he'd be lamenting her loneliness from the corner office. Instead, (s)he mixed her tragic feminist stories, and the message got mixed up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was told that my value and worth stems from developing my intellect and my mind. Those girls who focused on their beauty and chased boys were shallow and inferior. It was stupid to care about my acne or learn how to put together an outfit. I was to forgo trying to fit in and focus on school.

Where fast forward a decade and I am in a decent relationship and a crappy job from which I'll never be able to retire. Those girls who focused on looks at dating are now happy SAHM with beautiful children and carefree lives while I am following the rat race.

I wish someone told me to abandon feminism and focus on intellect and academics. I wish I learned to use my beauty when I was younger.

everyone has a miserable job at some point. this can breed depression. Get a new job, you'll feel better and have a better outlook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was told that my value and worth stems from developing my intellect and my mind. Those girls who focused on their beauty and chased boys were shallow and inferior. It was stupid to care about my acne or learn how to put together an outfit. I was to forgo trying to fit in and focus on school.

Where fast forward a decade and I am in a decent relationship and a crappy job from which I'll never be able to retire. Those girls who focused on looks at dating are now happy SAHM with beautiful children and carefree lives while I am following the rat race.

I wish someone told me to abandon feminism and focus on intellect and academics. I wish I learned to use my beauty when I was younger.

OP - I agree with you. Feminism is poison that made women unhappy, men not wanting to commit or care, and made many children grow up in single parent households. Feminism sold to women the idea of "having it all" without a consideration what makes women truly happy and fulfilled. Feminism is social engineering. Luckily, in America the tide is turning and the society still has a chance to be salvaged. http://observer.com/2016/05/five-ways-feminism-has-made-women-miserable/

I agree with you completely. Feminism brain washed women into abandoning and ignoring their natural biological and social desires. They got tricked into spending their youth and peak fertility shuffling papers making some silly business owner rich. At 40 they wake up alone sans children and husband and mourn their wasted time.

All women truly want is to submit to a powerful masculine male and be bred by him. All this girl power act is then thrown out the window.

OP with the triple sock puppet posts. Nice! Hows that solo three-way convo going?

[Anonymous]

Bad advice.
No one told me what to focus on as a kid, but I quickly saw studying and academics as the path to success. However, you have to fit in too. Doesn't mean you have to be a girly girl with makeup and short dresses, just means you have to present yourself well (exercise, good haircut, clean clothes that fit well) and be able to talk to a multitude of people.

I'm happily married now to a guy who also values intellect and depth of character. We have 4 great kids. I have a great job.
I'm 45 now and see the marriages of some of my SAHM moms acquaintances unravelling as they and their husband grow farther apart intellectually. Or, so sad, they've discovered their traveling husbands have younger mistresses. I would have never guessed it at age 35, but it happens.

Honestly, I think you need to shake off the pity party and reinvent yourself. If you are a smart woman, get a better job, more education if necessary, take care of yourself, sharpen your image. All these things are not mutually exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I agree with you completely. Feminism brain washed women into abandoning and ignoring their natural biological and social desires. They got tricked into spending their youth and peak fertility shuffling papers making some silly business owner rich. At 40 they wake up alone sans children and husband and mourn their wasted time.

All women truly want is to submit to a powerful masculine male and be bred by him. All this girl power act is then thrown out the window.

Ha ha ha ha ha.... Steve Bannon, is that you?

[Anonymous]

I agree that it is never too late to make a change! You don't have to stay in a dead end job. Find another job that will bring out the best in you! Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents made me focus on intelligence and school. I was a biglaw lawyer. Now I stay home with the kids.

My parents helped me focus on intelligence and school. I was a biglaw lawyer. Now I am in house counsel with a happy marriage and family.