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09/29/2017 10:06

Subject: Spouse raised by single parent

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Anonymous wrote:I can relate to you, OP.

My DH is actually the son of a man who had a long term affair with his mom. He has a full brother as well in the same situation. The mom was the dad's mistress for over 30 years.

I think this is really the worst situation because my DH up with a mom who was happy with a man who was rarely actually present and gave only financial support. In his mind, that is all a man really has to do.

It has been an uphill battle to communicate my needs in a husband. I will say that I believe it has been helpful for us to have him witness my own parents in action, as he respects them. He has become better as time goes on, but he is always somewhat grumbly about what he views as the restrictive role of husband from the point of view of chores etc.

I never would have married that guy. Such a huge red flag.

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09/29/2017 10:58

Subject: Spouse raised by single parent

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I married a man raised by a single mom who vilified his father. While the absent dad was constantly vilified, the mom was abusive to my husband. He has PTSD, a tremendous amount of emotional damage, anger control problems, and I think borderline personality disorder. Had I realized the extent of the damage and had I known the truth of his upbringing, I would not have married him. He admittedly has no respect for women, and this confession came out after 10 years and two kids.

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09/29/2017 12:18

Subject: Spouse raised by single parent

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Anonymous wrote:Barack Obama was raised by a single parent and has what appears to be a great marriage.

I was raised by two parents but am a mess in relationships.

No correlation as long as you have at least one loving, supportive parent.

Mrs. Obama has been extremely candid that it wasn't always roses and took a lot of work, especially early on when he was broke. Major respect to them for holding on until things improved.

She sounds like a gold digger when she complained about how hard it was when he was broke - uhh, lady you have a Princeton degree and went to hls, you could make big law bucks and support the fam when Barack was broke without any issues