I think I gave my SO an STD..what to do

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've been together for 14 years. I have always been very careful to ensure I'm not having an outbreak before any type of activity. I can always tell the pre-signs and make up reasons to not be intimate. On Friday night we had sex (oral too), and then Saturday afternoon when I took a shower I felt a sore area. I'm devastated! I had a gf that had cold sores and he always said how nasty she was. I knew he would leave me if he knew the truth. Now I just hate myself, because I may have hurt the one person that has always been in my corner and who genuinely loves me. Do I just confess now,even though he might not have been infected, or wait until the symptoms start and then pretend I didn't know? I could have just been a carrier all these years and now with my recent immune system problems, it just appeared. There is no cure so it's not like waiting will make it worse. The thought of losing him is too much to bear.

Just wait and see and NO don't admit anything.

[Anonymous]

If you're under stress, you can have a flare-up. If you are immunocompromised, you can have a flare-up. That should be common knowledge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait. He may be already carrying. Chances are he's been exposed over 14 years. If he notices new symptoms, you are shocked, get checks, and low and behold have it too.

This is what you should do.

Ugh, I hope neither of you is my DW. That is a really shabby way to treat one's life partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait. He may be already carrying. Chances are he's been exposed over 14 years. If he notices new symptoms, you are shocked, get checks, and low and behold have it too.

This is what you should do.

Ugh, I hope neither of you is my DW. That is a really shabby way to treat one's life partner.

She took it this far, what else can she do? Someone who keeps this information from a partner in the first place is not a good, honorable person. The advice provided is intended to help a liar.

[Anonymous]

OP I'd find a therapist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just wait. He may be already carrying. Chances are he's been exposed over 14 years. If he notices new symptoms, you are shocked, get checks, and low and behold have it too.

This is what you should do.

Ugh, I hope neither of you is my DW. That is a really shabby way to treat one's life partner.

She took it this far, what else can she do? Someone who keeps this information from a partner in the first place is not a good, honorable person. The advice provided is intended to help a liar.

Man, that's a "Friends from college " level lie.

[Anonymous]

OP here. We use to be swingers. During that time, I had many infections and problems with constant soreness, swolleness, and once we even had to go to the ER because it was so bad. I was thinking of having him remember that time,and tell him I think I'm having problems again. This way I can head it off before he thinks I cheated on him (I haven't).

[Anonymous]

Now I'm just confused.

[Anonymous]

Unethical.

And swinging is gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unethical.

And swinging is gross.

Agree. Many infections??? Did you not use protection when you were swingers?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. We use to be swingers. During that time, I had many infections and problems with constant soreness, swolleness, and once we even had to go to the ER because it was so bad. I was thinking of having him remember that time,and tell him I think I'm having problems again. This way I can head it off before he thinks I cheated on him (I haven't).

You are gross.

[Anonymous]

Now we know OP is a troll. You shouldn't have added the super fake swingers bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now we know OP is a troll. You shouldn't have added the super fake swingers bit.

Exactly.

Either way, there may be nothing grosser in the world than herpes or an STD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now we know OP is a troll. You shouldn't have added the super fake swingers bit.

Yup. OP messed the while game up. Anyone who believes this is a moron.