My DS11 with ADHD said...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you, OP for your thoughtful response. Really good advice about remaining neutral and pragmatic... even somewhat detached while problem-solving and resisting the tendency to catastrophize about the future.

As for the support network you build up, did you tell the other mom about the ADHD diagnosis? I am tempted to explain it to the moms of the kids my DD tries to play with, but am worried they will gossip, misunderstand, judge, blame, etc.and it will make the situation worse.

Thanks

I would not share it. Honestly, the moms that are understanding and knowledgeable about ADHD will likely guess. Sometimes you sort of drift into conversations where it becomes obvious. If your kid gets accommodations or pull-outs at school, that also makes it a bit more obvious. But I don't ever share the diagnosis. I'm having trouble getting my 8 year old to stop announcing it to every single person. I don't think he understands the stigma.