Why does my ex all of a sudden want to hit on me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you have absolutely NO interested in hooking up with him again, right?

No, no interest. None. I'm ignoring the advances, just curious as to why he is making them all of a sudden, what is motivation is or what is going on in his head.

I am still the same weight. My hair is longer but not any longer than it used to be.

The only thing I can say has changed is his relationship with the woman he was seeing. Only thing.

don't think he is doing it based on some sort of rational thought process. he wants sex, no strings attached sex. you "maybe" available and he is fishing it. you are really over-thinking this. we men are simple.

You misspelled dumb.

[Anonymous]

Why are you giving him the opportunity to hit on you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you have absolutely NO interested in hooking up with him again, right?

No, no interest. None. I'm ignoring the advances, just curious as to why he is making them all of a sudden, what is motivation is or what is going on in his head.

I am still the same weight. My hair is longer but not any longer than it used to be.

The only thing I can say has changed is his relationship with the woman he was seeing. Only thing.

don't think he is doing it based on some sort of rational thought process. he wants sex, no strings attached sex. you "maybe" available and he is fishing it. you are really over-thinking this. we men are simple.

You misspelled dumb.

Men maybe simple but they are not necessarily dumb.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't mind another shot at my ex. She was a dirty girl.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you have no kids, why are you seeing your ex so frequently?!?!?!?!?!

I think this is question 1. The fact you are seeing him (for whatever reasons) is sending him signals you maybe "open." So, can you answer pp's question? Why are you seeing him?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you have no kids, why are you seeing your ex so frequently?!?!?!?!?!

I think this is question 1. The fact you are seeing him (for whatever reasons) is sending him signals you maybe "open." So, can you answer pp's question? Why are you seeing him?

Yes, it's weird. We work in the same circles and often run into eachother because of work. This is mostly in crowded situations. His mother and sister are very close with me, I went to college with his sister, so I do see his family a few times a month. He just happens to be there at times.

This is too much.

[Anonymous]

Is there anything really amazing about you in the sack that he can't get anywhere else? I had an ex who had a skill that was irreplaceable. That kind of kept me in her gravity for a while.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Look, you know him well enough to just ask him. Next time he does, just stop and say "larlo" what's the deal. You are dating someone. Why do you touch me like that or flirt with me? Is this regret? Is it wanting what you can't have? Or are you hoping that because I'm not attached that I might just be up for a little horizontal reminisce? If he says the quickie, laugh and tell him he wasn't that good the first time around.

Sure, you can ask him, but take his answer with a giant bag of salt.

And do a serious look at yourself and why you're still so connected to his family. Be sure you're being honest iwth yourself that you don't have any interest in getting back with him. Cuz it kind of is confusing as to why you're dealing with all this if you don't want anything to do with him romantically and he's been cold to you until now?

It's not so much asking him as it is a call out/confrontation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why did you get divorced?

I want an answer to this.

Did he leave you?

Did you leave him?

Was the split mutual?

[Anonymous]

ABC. Always be closing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: I know this is impossible to answer accurately, but from a male perspective what could be going on in his head.

Here's my experience for your male perspective. Before DW, I was in a LTR with a great woman. We were great friends and good together. The sex was fine, but at the time I considered it to be pretty boring and vanilla. I certainly wished for more (variety and adventure, not necessarily frequency) during the time we were together. We split for other reasons.

Fast forward 15 years and now I've been with DW for 10 years. After all this time, my ex GF still pops into my brain while masturbating occasionally. Not often, but maybe once every month or two I'll relive something we did together in bed (or that time in the limo). Stuff that I previously considered boring and vanilla but now doesn't happen with DW and I kind of miss those small things. If you had asked me 15 years ago if I'd miss the sex with her I'd say no chance.

Maybe something similar is happening with your ex?

[Anonymous]

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My question is for men, I guess. Is he doing this because he's just horny and trying to get laid

Yes.

-- A man.

[Anonymous]

Are you not bathing as frequently? He may be picking up phermones he wasn't before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there anything really amazing about you in the sack that he can't get anywhere else? I had an ex who had a skill that was irreplaceable. That kind of kept me in her gravity for a while.

+1 My ex was the only three-holer I ever slept with. Why did I screw that up?

[Anonymous]

Be proud of yourself. Maybe you were the best lay he ever had. But ignore him!