DD thinks she has OCD, lays in bed all day?

[Anonymous]

This older friend is male, I presume?

This is what's bothering you, OP. Not the claims of being OCD.

[Anonymous]

OP, please google OCD and read up. It will take 5 minutes and you will learn that repetitive behaviors and counting things are indeed symptoms of OCD. Regardless, I understand you're worried dick about your DD but telling her to take her mental illness "like a woman" isn't going to help her in any way - it will make things much worse.

I can't believe this therapist advised getting a "supportive apartment" - WTF does that mean? They don't exist for 19 year olds who flunked out of college so that advice is completely useless.

What you need to do is LISTEN to your DD, and empathize. FInd a better counselor and psychiatrist and start from there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, please google OCD and read up. It will take 5 minutes and you will learn that repetitive behaviors and counting things are indeed symptoms of OCD. Regardless, I understand you're worried dick about your DD but telling her to take her mental illness "like a woman" isn't going to help her in any way - it will make things much worse.

I can't believe this therapist advised getting a "supportive apartment" - WTF does that mean? They don't exist for 19 year olds who flunked out of college so that advice is completely useless.

What you need to do is LISTEN to your DD, and empathize. FInd a better counselor and psychiatrist and start from there.

Oh geez, I meant sick, not d**k!!

[Anonymous]

OP. She's got something. Lying in bed all day and begging for medication....

You should show nothing but empathy, and she needs a therapist. STAT.

Doesn't matter if it is depression, anxiety, or whatever. She needs a pro. One day in bed, fine. Nothing but bed is not.

[Anonymous]

OCD issue is irrelevant.

Who is this "older friend"? How long has she known him and how old is he? Are they having sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OCD issue is irrelevant.

Who is this "older friend"? How long has she known him and how old is he? Are they having sex?

Of course they're having sex, pp. Bareback sex, probably.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. My depression was not mild. It was severe. But I dealt with it like a woman. The psychiatrist didn't think DD needed meds. He said the same thing she needs to be independent. He asked to speak to me and I told him DD sleeps all day and I want her out of the house. DD was mad at me. I told her this is important information the doctor needs to know. I am not controlling. Controlling would be not letting her out of the house. She always had a reasonable amount of freedom. DH blocked the door when she wanted to move in with her friend but the police said that is kidnapping. My 17 y/o DD unplugged the phone to prevent her from calling the police. Neighbor called after she heard screaming. I had not had contact with her in 3 months. She has no education, no well paying job. What is she going to do in case anything happens to him. Be homeless? My blood pressure is raising because of this. My health is being effected and she doesn't care. She just eats junk food. I told her if I ate all that junk food I would also have OCD. She got mad.

This is all about you -- how she affects you, how you feel, why you're worried, why you're disappointed.

I suspect if we talked to DD, she'd say she can't breathe in your house. That there's only one way to be in the world according to you.

And she's 19. She's allowed to make stupid relationship decisions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not saying this girl does have OCD, but OP is grossly misinformed about what it is. My husband has OCD. He obsessed about certain things, to the point that he become paralyzed by his thoughts and fears. None of this has anything to do with cleanliness (he's a slob) or hand-washing or anything of that sort.

When I was finishing college in the mid-90s I realized I was suffering from depression and asked for help. My parents didn't take me seriously, nor did the primary care doctor I went to see. I sought out help on my own and have learned to manage it - sometimes with meds, sometimes without. My parents eventually came to understand that I truly did have an illness, but it took some time.

I think there's a fear of stigma in the Jewish community that leads parents to pooh-pooh their children's pleas for help in these situations. I know that's what happened in my family. OP, don't make the same mistake my parents did.

I could have written your post, PP! My husband has OCD and his mother's pretended he's 'oh-so-fine' his entire life. It was me, when we first started dating, who pointed out his red hands which he used to wash to the point of bleeding. He's also was - and still is, to some degree - a slob. And it took him going to the doctor at the good old age of 29, getting officially diagnosed and put on fluvox to actually get better. Ten years later his OCD is still there, but its symptoms are manageable now.

I also am at a loss what the deal is in the Jewish community with psychiatric illnesses. Ugh.