Do I bring it up or let it go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op Again:

So DD decided to text them and said: How was the food there? It seemed like you guys had fun.

N19: The fries were great! You should come with us next time!!

DD: I texted you guys a few days ago asking to go together and everyone said they'll let me know what day works

N14: We thought you wouldn't wanna come so we didn't ask

N24: Next time we'll take you!!

DD: Oh okay.

DD showed me their texts earlier today and I was pretty confused, why would they say 'we thought you wouldn't want to come?'

DD just shrugged her shoulders and said 'I don't know.'

DD is thankfully over all of this, and I'm not going to say anything to anyone, I just found the whole interaction weird.

I find it weird, too, especially N14's response, which makes no sense, and you are wise to encourage her to make plans with others, especially until this temporary teenage weirdness (SO many flashbacks to my high school years!) runs its course. Although can I just say you'd think a 24 year old would be able to read between the lines and understand that your daughter's feelings were hurt. Again, better for her to reach out to other friends (for now) when there are things she wants to do!

[Anonymous]

I suspect that N14 didn't want to include your DD for whatever reason (my guess is because she's 14, and that's a 14 year old thing to do?) and N19 and 24 didn't think too much about it because they were either babysitting or she reached out to them separately. Despite my advanced age I can remember my group of friends at 13-14 being sort of awful about excluding various members of the social circle for no good reason at various times.

[Anonymous]

I think the 14 yr old wanted to be mean for some reason. Or maybe they just wanted sister time. Encourage your daughter to hang with others. I would drive her and friends to the diner this weekend. Stay way in the background though.