Good friend married 20 years. Her husband may be cheating but she's not sure.

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Anonymous wrote:What does he do for work? It sounds like she might be paranoid and didn't fully get over his prior cheating. Why was she even going through his phone/phone records? That's not normal.

Are you serious??? lol

Maybe...because he cheated before. Once you cheat and decide to stay you agree to be a open book.

Once you're cheated on and decide to stay, you're a moron.

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I think it would be really difficult if it truly was sporadic and no electronic trail.

She has to see a pattern so she can put a PI/friend on him, otherwise they are wasting time/money.

The location thing is smart, but only if he doesn't know about it.

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If your sex life is so bad that some amount of hygienic maintenance downstairs is a "red flag" then it's really just time to throw in the towel.

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Anonymous wrote:What does he do for work? It sounds like she might be paranoid and didn't fully get over his prior cheating. Why was she even going through his phone/phone records? That's not normal.

Sure it is. I get our phone bill and see all the calls. We have our grown daughter on our plan to get a family discount. Not normal is the spouse that is secretive or is living a double life.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it would be really difficult if it truly was sporadic and no electronic trail.

She has to see a pattern so she can put a PI/friend on him, otherwise they are wasting time/money.

The location thing is smart, but only if he doesn't know about it.

I think so. I looked at my phone and I would never know it was on. Actually it's a good feature if you lose your phone, or want to keep track of minor kids. Or a elderly person.

If he doesn't have anything to hide it shouldn't matter.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does he do for work? It sounds like she might be paranoid and didn't fully get over his prior cheating. Why was she even going through his phone/phone records? That's not normal.

Are you serious??? lol

Maybe...because he cheated before. Once you cheat and decide to stay you agree to be a open book.

Once you're cheated on and decide to stay, you're a moron.

I can see people giving that person "maybe" one more chance. It all depends, but often the pattern repeats itself.

The cheater has to agree to zero secrecy. If they can't do that it's because they are cheating, or plan to cheat imo. And have no desire to change.

If there's a moron I'd say it's the cheater. I've seen too many throw away spouses, kids, finances, a better retirement over what typically amounts to garbage.