Good friend married 20 years. Her husband may be cheating but she's not sure.

[Anonymous]

Is she fat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like none of your business and you should stay out of it.

She told me and wanted my feedback so yes I will give her suggestions. Like I said I would have gotten to the bottom of it right away. To the other poster, he doesn't have a job where he reports every day to his boss. Independent and travels from one site to the other during the day.

I'm going to suggest the phone location idea.

[Anonymous]

Yes he's cheating (especially given your followup info), but she should just let it go. At this stage of life, the companionship and stability marriage provides is so much more important than whether he's having orgasms on the side.

[Anonymous]

If she's truly concerned she should take the day off from work and check it out. It's not like she can't call in sick or say she has an appt or something.

[Anonymous]

On an iPhone, go Settings>Privacy>Location Services>System Services>Frequent Locations. Assuming he has it on, and I think that's the default, they'll be list and map showing frequently visited locations.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes he's cheating (especially given your followup info), but she should just let it go. At this stage of life, the companionship and stability marriage provides is so much more important than whether he's having orgasms on the side.

She should NOT just "let it go". If a man wants stability, he should think about that before having sex with someone other than his wife. Marriage is based on trust and if there is no trust, it's over. Marriage is not simply a financial or economic arrangement.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused as to how they can be set financially (so much so that divorce would be a big hit) yet not be able to afford a PI which is only $100 or $200 and likely worth the money to put the issue to rest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds like none of your business and you should stay out of it.

+1 Friend needs to ask her husband directly why his sexual interest has dropped off so dramatically, and why, after all these years, he is now shaving his pubes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused as to how they can be set financially (so much so that divorce would be a big hit) yet not be able to afford a PI which is only $100 or $200 and likely worth the money to put the issue to rest.

Good question.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes he's cheating (especially given your followup info), but she should just let it go. At this stage of life, the companionship and stability marriage provides is so much more important than whether he's having orgasms on the side.

She should NOT just "let it go". If a man wants stability, he should think about that before having sex with someone other than his wife. Marriage is based on trust and if there is no trust, it's over. Marriage is not simply a financial or economic arrangement.

It's not about whether HE wants stability, it's whether she does. He can go find someone else, she probably can't. And I agree marriage is not simply a financial arrangement -- it's also about family and friendship and support, in other words much more than sex.

[Anonymous]

A PI is around $100/hr plus they have wised up and stipulate a 4 hr minimum. Not only that if you talk to them they want to use two people in 2 cars with radios. Mainly because it's too easy to lose with one. She'll pay at least 2k. She can afford it but wants to do a cheaper way. If the phone location doesn't work it then I would say pay the money, and have a PI involved. Or take some time off here and there to scope it out.

[Anonymous]

What does he do for work? It sounds like she might be paranoid and didn't fully get over his prior cheating. Why was she even going through his phone/phone records? That's not normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:On an iPhone, go Settings>Privacy>Location Services>System Services>Frequent Locations. Assuming he has it on, and I think that's the default, they'll be list and map showing frequently visited locations.

Wow. Just turned that off. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On an iPhone, go Settings>Privacy>Location Services>System Services>Frequent Locations. Assuming he has it on, and I think that's the default, they'll be list and map showing frequently visited locations.

Wow. Just turned that off. Thanks!

LOL!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does he do for work? It sounds like she might be paranoid and didn't fully get over his prior cheating. Why was she even going through his phone/phone records? That's not normal.

Are you serious??? lol

Maybe...because he cheated before. Once you cheat and decide to stay you agree to be a open book.