Turning 40 next week and feeling depressed

[Anonymous]

40 is the new 30 really. Liberating for me. Don't have to put on pretenses or put up with B S.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People get happier as they get older as they don't have to work. I would be happier if I didn't have to.
I am turning 32 soon and dreading it. I hate birthdays, find them very hard and depressing.

Also you aren't responsible for as much as your children are grown adults who you have to accept as they are.

I don't have kids....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People get happier as they get older as they don't have to work. I would be happier if I didn't have to.
I am turning 32 soon and dreading it. I hate birthdays, find them very hard and depressing.

Also you aren't responsible for as much as your children are grown adults who you have to accept as they are.

Doesn't work like that always.
1. I don't have kids but it isn't always the case that they are 'Off your hands' by age 18, many grown adults still live with parents.
2. My mom will never accept my childless status or me as a person

[Anonymous]

I've never minded any age. Since my younger brother died tragically at age 30, every day I live is a blessing. I enjoy the hell out of my life. I do everything that I want to do, I never let anything stop me, and I am never hindered by any worries of "what would people think?" Life is as happy and as fulfilled as you choose to make it, no matter what age you are. I'll be 45 in June, and I have outlived my brother by 15 years. When I ride my motorcycle, he rides with me. When I work on it, he's right there covered in grease. When I travel, I see everything through his eyes, too. I live life to the fullest, because he cannot.

[Anonymous]

Read these stories & you will count every one of your blessings with the most intense sense of gratitude:
http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_5919b2c1e4b0fe039b36209a

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People get happier as they get older as they don't have to work. I would be happier if I didn't have to.
I am turning 32 soon and dreading it. I hate birthdays, find them very hard and depressing.

Also you aren't responsible for as much as your children are grown adults who you have to accept as they are.

Doesn't work like that always.
1. I don't have kids but it isn't always the case that they are 'Off your hands' by age 18, many grown adults still live with parents.
2. My mom will never accept my childless status or me as a person

NP here.

1. Totally. I don't have children (long story), but I've met so many people who have failure to launch kids still living with them in late 20s and early 30s. And then there are those who have kids who don't live with them but have sucked money from them (needed money for mortgage, down payment, or divorce situation). That's why I get irritated when someone says, "You don't have kids? What will happen to you when you're old?" The only people I know who are being "taken care of" by their adult kids are people who are essentially supporting their adult kids. In exchange, the adult kid drives them to an appointment every once in a while. And there is very much the sense that the adult kid is really only doing it in the hopes of inheriting a house and some money.

[j2415]

I’m sorry that you’re going through this. I also experienced 2 years of trying to get pregnant, countless Clomid, shots and 1 surgery. God strengthened me as I go through all the process of infertility, it’s not an easy experience because I have to deal with the pressure from family and friends and frustration every cycle, expecting I will conceive that child but always turned out negative. God gave me a child in his perfect time. Praying for you that you will have that child #2 and He will guide you in which path to choose as you trust Him.

I’m sorry that you are feeling depressed about turning 40. Depression happens when you believe that there is no hope in reaching your goal. I would like to encourage you that you can still have beautiful career at the age of 40 and meet new friends. There are many popular people that became successful after they turned 40. Never stop trying. There is always hope and nothing is impossible if you don’t give up no matter what happens. Praying for a beautiful future ahead of you. Thank you for sharing.

[Anonymous]

OR you could look at it as you're turning 40, an age many people didn't live to see, and you have a loving family, something many others don't have and so on.

That said, I deal with depression and anxiety and the best thing that ever happened to me was admitting I needed help, getting it and now I see a therapist and I also take a pill every day and life is not the big gloomy cloud it once was. It doesn't have to be this way, there is help for you too, if you seek it and want it. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I hate the phase 'failure to launch'. Being a 30 something who still lives at home (Not out of choice) always makes me feel ashamed and crap

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheer up OP, you could be turning 50 instead.

Seriously -- I am turning 50. Enjoy your 40s OP!!

Congrats, PP! I'm turning 49 - and second your advice to OP to enjoy the hell out of her 40s!