What to do when you don't like the smell of your SO

[Anonymous]

My brother used to smell awful. His ex girlfriend made him start eating more yogurt and it went away. His new wife is grateful

[Anonymous]

I had a long term boyfriend whose smell I disliked. It took me a while to realize it and act on it.

I feel neutral towards my DH's smell.

My DD actually smells like the beach and she always has, since she was born. She is 14 now.

DS I don't note any smell.

[Anonymous]

Change his food, increase probiotics, make sure he eats a ton of fiber. Eliminate meats. No alcohol and tobacco.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a long term boyfriend whose smell I disliked. It took me a while to realize it and act on it.

I feel neutral towards my DH's smell.

My DD actually smells like the beach and she always has, since she was born. She is 14 now.

DS I don't note any smell.

So you're not attracted to it but not turned off by it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh - maybe you should try going on it! (...mostly kidding, I think.) But no, I don't have an answer unfortunately except to say pheromones are strongly influential - there's a biological component with whose smell we're attracted to and thus reproduce with. I can relate to having an ex whose smell I CRAVED. With my husband it's weird - sometimes I love his smell and sometimes I can take it or leave it. I'm not sure what changes...maybe diet? Maybe my hormones?

You said he won't wear cologne, but what about deodorant? Could you have him switch to a different brand? I know for me sometimes certain brands of deodorant seem to almost make my b.o. Worse

No, I'd try the birth control. Something to change her perspective.

Does he shower before bed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Change his food, increase probiotics, make sure he eats a ton of fiber. Eliminate meats. No alcohol and tobacco.

He's not a baby alive doll - you can't just do this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:shower gel and one of those puffy lufa things so he can scrub his chest and body good. Hair traps smells.

Shower before bed, change the sheets as much as you can. Every night?

[Anonymous]

Nothing you do will help - it's pheromones. Just accept it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

OP, what's your question?

[Anonymous]

OP, how often doesn't your husband shower? I realize this is his natural smell you're taking about and it can't be washed away, but maybe it can be supressed a little if he showers 2x day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is it everywhere, or does it come mostly from his head? I have a hard time with DH and figured out its from his head. He uses a sulpher soap now for his hair and scalp and when he uses it, I have i issues with the smell. I can tell when he doesn't.

PP, I'm in the same boat! My husband's partially bald head smells (and he's not using any special soaps, it's his scalp's natural smell). Ugh. I've replaced so many pillows and pillowcases.. He does shower regularly, but whenever the room gets slightly warm, his scalp just begins to reek.

[Anonymous]

OP this is serious business. Ive been there and feel for you. Two things worked to get rid of my husband's stink. A deodorant and soap change. For soap he uses Nubian Heritage's honey and black seed soap. You can get it at whole foods. It's the only thing that truly gets the stink off him. For deodorant I learned it's best for him to rotate brands regularly. If he sticks with anything more than 2 months the stink comes back. Hope this helps. Good luck!