NCS impressions

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing toxic about the social environment at NCS. Very supportive community and the girls are generally happy (although stressed, as most high schoolers in this area are). Stop perpetuating rumors that may have been true years ago but bear no resemblance to the current reality.

Please. it is totally true now. Why do you think many of the 28 girls applying out for highschool want to leave. One is even willing to go to Wilson rather than return to NCS after not getting into the school she wanted.

NCS's current environment is utterly toxic and the behavior it breeds amongst the girls is awful.

You have no idea why anyone did anything and if you took the time to find out the details of the specific case you cited, you'd know why this post makes you look like a horrible person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our daughter loves everything about NCS and has many friends at STA.

Mine, too.

But if someone says that their DD doesn't like NCS, I believe them. I don't understand why people on DCUM can't see that it is equally foolish to say "NCS is utterly toxic" as it is to say "NCS is utterly wonderful." It is wonderful for my DD. Maybe it's not for yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing toxic about the social environment at NCS. Very supportive community and the girls are generally happy (although stressed, as most high schoolers in this area are). Stop perpetuating rumors that may have been true years ago but bear no resemblance to the current reality.

Please. it is totally true now. Why do you think many of the 28 girls applying out for highschool want to leave. One is even willing to go to Wilson rather than return to NCS after not getting into the school she wanted.

NCS's current environment is utterly toxic and the behavior it breeds amongst the girls is awful.

You have no idea why anyone did anything and if you took the time to find out the details of the specific case you cited, you'd know why this post makes you look like a horrible person.

+100

[Anonymous]

It looks like some girls really have a good time there: those who are socially advanced, well-connected, well-moneyed, "in" girls, who are not bullied, who have been always getting along with the "in" girls, who don't rock the boat, ...

And some girls have tougher time there: those who are not socially that advanced, introverted, or isolated, on the low social-economical end, who are not so close to the "in" girls, and not so much an academic star either, who have been bullied, or mocked, or frequently slighted by the other girls, or teachers/officials, ...

And some are just coasting along: those who are quiet, reserved, moneyed, academically average or above average, ... not in the "in" crowd but do not get slighted or looked down on either.

[Anonymous]

Interesting conjecture, but doesn't really fit our experience. DD was not particularly moneyed, connected or used to being in the "in" crowd, but thrived at NCS. Came in as a fairly shy 9th grader, from a normal family (not at the top or bottom rungs of the economic ladder), and gained so much in confidence and independence. It gave her an opportunity to blossom into the poised, confident young woman she is today. She found the girls very supportive and encouraging and enjoyed her experience immensely.

[Anonymous]

Barron might fit in very well here with all the other priveledges individuals.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It looks like some girls really have a good time there: those who are socially advanced, well-connected, well-moneyed, "in" girls, who are not bullied, who have been always getting along with the "in" girls, who don't rock the boat, ...

And some girls have tougher time there: those who are not socially that advanced, introverted, or isolated, on the low social-economical end, who are not so close to the "in" girls, and not so much an academic star either, who have been bullied, or mocked, or frequently slighted by the other girls, or teachers/officials, ...

And some are just coasting along: those who are quiet, reserved, moneyed, academically average or above average, ... not in the "in" crowd but do not get slighted or looked down on either.

One of the most insightful posts I've seen regarding NCS. Crystalized and put into words what I've observed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It looks like some girls really have a good time there: those who are socially advanced, well-connected, well-moneyed, "in" girls, who are not bullied, who have been always getting along with the "in" girls, who don't rock the boat, ...

And some girls have tougher time there: those who are not socially that advanced, introverted, or isolated, on the low social-economical end, who are not so close to the "in" girls, and not so much an academic star either, who have been bullied, or mocked, or frequently slighted by the other girls, or teachers/officials, ...

And some are just coasting along: those who are quiet, reserved, moneyed, academically average or above average, ... not in the "in" crowd but do not get slighted or looked down on either.

LOL. This is COMPLETE speculation. "It looks like..."???? Nothing in this thread mentions the socio-economics or personality types or any of these qualities of their daughters when discussing whether their daughters liked it or not. What stake do you have in perpetuating these rumors??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Strained relationship with STA the last few years.

That's cause so many of the boys are proud chauvinists.

Nice way to deflect and totally untrue. My son is at STA and neither he nor his classmates in the upper school are chauvinists. NCS is an utter crap show compared to STA. It is common knowledge that STA is a better envirnment for students in every way. Its no surprise that many STA boys' sisters go to Holton, Potomac, SR, Visi, and other schools with better balance and morals and behavior. The ONLY thing about NCS that makes it a top school is its rigorous and greuling academics. Its social enviroment is toxic.

Shows that you don't actually have a daughter at NCS.

Remember the Google doc kept by the now-senior class a couple of years ago, in which they detailed all the sexual harassment and chauvinism that they had experienced from boys at STA?

You clearly don't have any knowledge at all. That doc was started and kept by NCS girls, one of whom gave an STA boy access so he could refute what a girl had written about him. There was more than enough guilt on both sides there too, the girls and the boys.

I am pretty sure that I made it clear it was generated by NCS girls. As for "guilt on both sides" - you are delusional. The girls started the document to vent about bad behavior by STA boys. They were into well within their rights to do so. It was the school administration that stopped it - not doubt due to the lobbying of STA parents in denial (like you) of the very entitled behavior displayed by many STA boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It looks like some girls really have a good time there: those who are socially advanced, well-connected, well-moneyed, "in" girls, who are not bullied, who have been always getting along with the "in" girls, who don't rock the boat, ...

And some girls have tougher time there: those who are not socially that advanced, introverted, or isolated, on the low social-economical end, who are not so close to the "in" girls, and not so much an academic star either, who have been bullied, or mocked, or frequently slighted by the other girls, or teachers/officials, ...

And some are just coasting along: those who are quiet, reserved, moneyed, academically average or above average, ... not in the "in" crowd but do not get slighted or looked down on either.

One of the most insightful posts I've seen regarding NCS. Crystalized and put into words what I've observed.

My daughter doesn't resemble any of the caricatures listed above and enjoys NCS and the friends she has made there. I think there are about seventy different types of student experiences in each class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It looks like some girls really have a good time there: those who are socially advanced, well-connected, well-moneyed, "in" girls, who are not bullied, who have been always getting along with the "in" girls, who don't rock the boat, ...

And some girls have tougher time there: those who are not socially that advanced, introverted, or isolated, on the low social-economical end, who are not so close to the "in" girls, and not so much an academic star either, who have been bullied, or mocked, or frequently slighted by the other girls, or teachers/officials, ...

And some are just coasting along: those who are quiet, reserved, moneyed, academically average or above average, ... not in the "in" crowd but do not get slighted or looked down on either.

LOL. This is COMPLETE speculation. "It looks like..."???? Nothing in this thread mentions the socio-economics or personality types or any of these qualities of their daughters when discussing whether their daughters liked it or not. What stake do you have in perpetuating these rumors??

+1. That was my reaction too--this thread by itself does nothing to justify these sweeping conclusions. I, too, wondered about PP's motives. I say this as the parent of a DD who turned down NCS for a magnet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our daughter loves everything about NCS and has many friends at STA.

Mine, too.

But if someone says that their DD doesn't like NCS, I believe them. I don't understand why people on DCUM can't see that it is equally foolish to say "NCS is utterly toxic" as it is to say "NCS is utterly wonderful." It is wonderful for my DD. Maybe it's not for yours.

I agree with your point but I didn't make any generalizations about the environment. I only commented that my daughter loves it. In my opinion, all of the generalizations on this thread are unsuportable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It looks like some girls really have a good time there: those who are socially advanced, well-connected, well-moneyed, "in" girls, who are not bullied, who have been always getting along with the "in" girls, who don't rock the boat, ...

And some girls have tougher time there: those who are not socially that advanced, introverted, or isolated, on the low social-economical end, who are not so close to the "in" girls, and not so much an academic star either, who have been bullied, or mocked, or frequently slighted by the other girls, or teachers/officials, ...

And some are just coasting along: those who are quiet, reserved, moneyed, academically average or above average, ... not in the "in" crowd but do not get slighted or looked down on either.

This sounds like the social environment at all school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It looks like some girls really have a good time there: those who are socially advanced, well-connected, well-moneyed, "in" girls, who are not bullied, who have been always getting along with the "in" girls, who don't rock the boat, ...

And some girls have tougher time there: those who are not socially that advanced, introverted, or isolated, on the low social-economical end, who are not so close to the "in" girls, and not so much an academic star either, who have been bullied, or mocked, or frequently slighted by the other girls, or teachers/officials, ...

And some are just coasting along: those who are quiet, reserved, moneyed, academically average or above average, ... not in the "in" crowd but do not get slighted or looked down on either.

This sounds like the social environment at all school.

Agreed. My SIL is a NCS grad and had a terrible experience there but she certainly fits the profile of the 'tougher time' girls. However, there is a girl down the street, who greatly resembles the third group, and she seems very happy. She has found her niche and is comfortable. Unless a girl is being actively bullied I think that almost any girl could settle in nicely at any of the top all-girls schools (NCS, Holton, Visi, Holy Child, SR) in the area but the happiness she needs to thrive must come from within.

[Anonymous]

Should have stayed public