Would you respond (ex-friend related)

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Anonymous wrote:You're not over it clearly so let it go. I'm sure she has no interest in hashing out an 8 year old fight, just seeing if maybe you all had reached a life stage to naturally reconnect.

Considering she never acknowledged her behavior (to me), yeah we aren't just going to reconnect like nada happened. However, at one point she was an awesome person - she just morphed into this person that was not an awersome person.

And, before everyone jumps on me, we have a couple mutual friends that also dropped her about 6/7 years ago, for the same behavior. Sooo, it isn't just me. An acquaintance did tell me that ex-best friend admitted about five years ago she had lost like all her friends.

I'm not judging you for not wanting to reconnect or saying you have an obligation to do so. Just pointing out that someone reaching out tentatively after 8 years is likely just putting a toe in the water and uninterested in a deep dive into a old fight.

You seem SUPER defensive about the whole thing which mean imo you're still carrying around a lot of resentment and should do both of you a favor and not respond

I am not resentful, but I think the whole thing is weird. If I decide to respond, there will be a line that if she can't acknowledge past mistakes and say she is different - then, I am not interested. I don't considered what happened a fight - I one day just told her I wasn't interested in being friends with someone of her character and when she wants to treat me and our mutual friends better, then we can be friends. I haven't spent the last 8 years waiting for an apology - I have filled it with people who are awesome to be around. She is the one that reached out to me and is now stalking my social media after I didn't respond to her last message.

You sound EXTREMELY immature.
Like, I broke up with her, she didn't break up with me...

Disagree with PP. It's not immature to ruminate a bit on a lost friendship when provoked, no matter the circumstances or how long it's been.

I think the issue is that OP seems to think that normal inclination is wrong and nefarious that her ex best friend is basically doing exactly that