please help- bad daycare

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The situation was resolved amicably and without needing to resort to threats (while I appreciate the suggestion of a pp that said that I could threaten to report it, that's just not how I roll). Regarding why I would have considered speaking to an attorney, this would have been free due to the attorneys in my family. There would have been costs and unpleasantness related to going to small claims court, but I also felt like it might be worth it-- luckily the center was very reasonable. There are different styles of child care and it seems that it might not actually be against the regulations to yell at children. I think that this is an iffy situation in which one parent may see it as normal to interact with kids this way, but other parents don't-- this is highly subjective as to whether this is, as 16:56 opines, actually problematic. I learned my lesson about large deposits and also about what to ask regarding discipline. So any other parents out there who object to harsh discipline, learn from my mistake and ask the question directly-- don't assume that people share your values.

SO you are now defending (or so it seems) the daycare by saying perhaps it is a different style of childcare. Let me ask, was the provider really yelling at the kids? Or did she speak with a loud voice in order to get their attention while they are doing an activity? Does snowflake tremble simply because they arent used to someone raising their voice a little to get the attention of the child?

Something Smells Fishy here. IF you indeed SAW a child "manhandled (can you DEFINE manhandled/what you saw?) then why all of a sudden are you not reporting it?

This all makes it sound like you put a hefty deposit and either found the daycare didnt meet your standards, wasnt right fit or you found someone else "better" by your standards and just wanted your money back!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The situation was resolved amicably and without needing to resort to threats (while I appreciate the suggestion of a pp that said that I could threaten to report it, that's just not how I roll). Regarding why I would have considered speaking to an attorney, this would have been free due to the attorneys in my family. There would have been costs and unpleasantness related to going to small claims court, but I also felt like it might be worth it-- luckily the center was very reasonable. There are different styles of child care and it seems that it might not actually be against the regulations to yell at children. I think that this is an iffy situation in which one parent may see it as normal to interact with kids this way, but other parents don't-- this is highly subjective as to whether this is, as 16:56 opines, actually problematic. I learned my lesson about large deposits and also about what to ask regarding discipline. So any other parents out there who object to harsh discipline, learn from my mistake and ask the question directly-- don't assume that people share your values.

SO you are now defending (or so it seems) the daycare by saying perhaps it is a different style of childcare. Let me ask, was the provider really yelling at the kids? Or did she speak with a loud voice in order to get their attention while they are doing an activity? Does snowflake tremble simply because they arent used to someone raising their voice a little to get the attention of the child?

Something Smells Fishy here. IF you indeed SAW a child "manhandled (can you DEFINE manhandled/what you saw?) then why all of a sudden are you not reporting it?

This all makes it sound like you put a hefty deposit and either found the daycare didnt meet your standards, wasnt right fit or you found someone else "better" by your standards and just wanted your money back!!


Totally agree with this post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The situation was resolved amicably and without needing to resort to threats (while I appreciate the suggestion of a pp that said that I could threaten to report it, that's just not how I roll). Regarding why I would have considered speaking to an attorney, this would have been free due to the attorneys in my family. There would have been costs and unpleasantness related to going to small claims court, but I also felt like it might be worth it-- luckily the center was very reasonable. There are different styles of child care and it seems that it might not actually be against the regulations to yell at children. I think that this is an iffy situation in which one parent may see it as normal to interact with kids this way, but other parents don't-- this is highly subjective as to whether this is, as 16:56 opines, actually problematic. I learned my lesson about large deposits and also about what to ask regarding discipline. So any other parents out there who object to harsh discipline, learn from my mistake and ask the question directly-- don't assume that people share your values.

SO you are now defending (or so it seems) the daycare by saying perhaps it is a different style of childcare. Let me ask, was the provider really yelling at the kids? Or did she speak with a loud voice in order to get their attention while they are doing an activity? Does snowflake tremble simply because they arent used to someone raising their voice a little to get the attention of the child?

Something Smells Fishy here. IF you indeed SAW a child "manhandled (can you DEFINE manhandled/what you saw?) then why all of a sudden are you not reporting it?

This all makes it sound like you put a hefty deposit and either found the daycare didnt meet your standards, wasnt right fit or you found someone else "better" by your standards and just wanted your money back!!

She says her older child saw another child being aggressively manhandled, she didn't see it herself. I don't know how old her older child is but that child's version may have been something the daycare provider was ale to explain in a way that was more discipline related.