please help- bad daycare

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your concern of losing the money is silly. You would lose it even if they stayed there so withdraw the children and lose the money.

Maybe the need the desposit back from Place A to pay for the deposit they now need to pay for Place B.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for all the feedback. I have decided that if I'm not able to resolve it with the provider I will speak to an attorney and determine my options rather than just lose the substantial deposit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you for all the feedback. I have decided that if I'm not able to resolve it with the provider I will speak to an attorney and determine my options rather than just lose the substantial deposit.

How much was the deposit? Wouldn't it be more expensive paying the attorney?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you for all the feedback. I have decided that if I'm not able to resolve it with the provider I will speak to an attorney and determine my options rather than just lose the substantial deposit.

How much was the deposit? Wouldn't it be more expensive paying the attorney?

Lol agree. OP makes no sense at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would recommend that you see if your checks have cleared - if they have not, put a stop payment on them.

I they have cleared, I would schedule a meeting in person tomorrow morning with the director and say that it is not working out and you need to withdraw and you are requesting your deposit back.

If the director refuses, continue .... my observations are that the staff is aggressive with the children. My children breakdown when we approach the building. Clearly it is not a good fir for our family. We would like out deposit back and think it is best that we do not continue here.

If the director refuses, escalate. I observed _____ on ______ grapping a child such that the child ________. I would prefer not to report this to ________.

If it is "JUST" yelling - it is how things are.

What? Please report!

[Anonymous]

Usually parents that say stuff like this are the ones who are just looking to get $ back and there aren't actually any problems.

[Anonymous]

OP here. The situation was resolved amicably and without needing to resort to threats (while I appreciate the suggestion of a pp that said that I could threaten to report it, that's just not how I roll). Regarding why I would have considered speaking to an attorney, this would have been free due to the attorneys in my family. There would have been costs and unpleasantness related to going to small claims court, but I also felt like it might be worth it-- luckily the center was very reasonable. There are different styles of child care and it seems that it might not actually be against the regulations to yell at children. I think that this is an iffy situation in which one parent may see it as normal to interact with kids this way, but other parents don't-- this is highly subjective as to whether this is, as 16:56 opines, actually problematic. I learned my lesson about large deposits and also about what to ask regarding discipline. So any other parents out there who object to harsh discipline, learn from my mistake and ask the question directly-- don't assume that people share your values.

[Anonymous]

I know it's already been resolved but I don't know why you feel entitled to the deposit. It serves a purpose, you signed a contract, it is a sunk cost. That's probably what your lawyer friend would have told you.

[Anonymous]

Oh my god are you serious? You've seen kids being manhandled and your child trembles when you approach the building and you're worried about your deposit? Please remove your kids TODAY. As in, go there right now and remove them. Figure out your deposit later.

[Anonymous]

1. Remove them
2. Call licensing
3. Make a complaint to CPS via the hotline

[Anonymous]

This sounds suspicious. You are saying that these teachers are YELLING at kids and that the directors are seemingly OK with it (not against regulations)? Maybe they are speaking to the kids sternly and not with a sweet voice or maybe they are speaking loudly to be heard over the kids? I think you said it best, there are different styles of childcare and it was not a good fit for you (and that's OK) but they may not be evil like you said because if they were you would bet another parent would have called licensing or the authorities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell them to release your deposit or you will cal the news and do an expose on them.

That's dumb, and not enough proof they are doing something seriously wrong. Plus the expose will also be on them, lol.

Just change and find a good home daycare with less kids and revolving babysitters.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. The situation was resolved amicably and without needing to resort to threats (while I appreciate the suggestion of a pp that said that I could threaten to report it, that's just not how I roll). Regarding why I would have considered speaking to an attorney, this would have been free due to the attorneys in my family. There would have been costs and unpleasantness related to going to small claims court, but I also felt like it might be worth it-- luckily the center was very reasonable. There are different styles of child care and it seems that it might not actually be against the regulations to yell at children. I think that this is an iffy situation in which one parent may see it as normal to interact with kids this way, but other parents don't-- this is highly subjective as to whether this is, as 16:56 opines, actually problematic. I learned my lesson about large deposits and also about what to ask regarding discipline. So any other parents out there who object to harsh discipline, learn from my mistake and ask the question directly-- don't assume that people share your values.

If you are in DC metro area it is prohibited in DC Maryland and Va. OMG you are so selfish. Where is this center and what is the name.

[Anonymous]

Is it a religious daycare?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually parents that say stuff like this are the ones who are just looking to get $ back and there aren't actually any problems.

And the sad part about it, possibly ruining a good providers name in the process. Amazing what some parents will do to get out of a contract/get deposits back/etc.