Addressing children kicking seatback on airplane

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's tough to fly with kids! The kids put their feet on the seat not to be annoying most of the time, but because they are too short and their feet don't touch the ground. Then their parents give them toys to play with that often involve the tray table and it turns out the people in front of them can feel the tray table. And, you're giving them this stuff to do because people complain if they are too noisy! Ha.

Once someone in front of us asked me/my kid to stop kicking. The kid wasn't kicking but I guess doing something with the tray table that I didn't realize she could feel. I am a non confrontational person and I suppose I would have been annoyed at anyone who asked me or my kid to stop. We were not trying to be discourteous in the first place. I just said - oh sorry and then freaked out the rest of the trip any time my child moved an inch.

Huh? YOU would be annoyed at anyone who asked you or your kid to stop. Wow, you are a piece of work.

Yes, because we were trying not to bother them in the first place so I felt pressure like anything we do will bother you and I wanted to get off the flight ASAP. I didn't say anything to them, other than "oh, sorry!" I wasn't like - F U! If the latter, then you could say I'm a piece of work

So passenger paying the same amount of you should sit silently while kid behind is bothering him/her so you (the parent) doesn't feel pressure. Get outta here.

I'm just saying the person on the receiving end isn't always going to be thrilled no matter how you do it. I personally err towards not saying anything to avoid confrontation but to each his own I guess. Once I was also on a train and someone behind me was playing with their phone loudly. It was annoying but I didn't say anything. Someone in front of me turned around and screamed at me because they thought I was doing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's tough to fly with kids! The kids put their feet on the seat not to be annoying most of the time, but because they are too short and their feet don't touch the ground. Then their parents give them toys to play with that often involve the tray table and it turns out the people in front of them can feel the tray table. And, you're giving them this stuff to do because people complain if they are too noisy! Ha.

Once someone in front of us asked me/my kid to stop kicking. The kid wasn't kicking but I guess doing something with the tray table that I didn't realize she could feel. I am a non confrontational person and I suppose I would have been annoyed at anyone who asked me or my kid to stop. We were not trying to be discourteous in the first place. I just said - oh sorry and then freaked out the rest of the trip any time my child moved an inch.

Huh? YOU would be annoyed at anyone who asked you or your kid to stop. Wow, you are a piece of work.

Yes, because we were trying not to bother them in the first place so I felt pressure like anything we do will bother you and I wanted to get off the flight ASAP. I didn't say anything to them, other than "oh, sorry!" I wasn't like - F U! If the latter, then you could say I'm a piece of work

So passenger paying the same amount of you should sit silently while kid behind is bothering him/her so you (the parent) doesn't feel pressure. Get outta here.

I'm just saying the person on the receiving end isn't always going to be thrilled no matter how you do it. I personally err towards not saying anything to avoid confrontation but to each his own I guess. Once I was also on a train and someone behind me was playing with their phone loudly. It was annoying but I didn't say anything. Someone in front of me turned around and screamed at me because they thought I was doing it.

I have similar anxiety as you. Please dont pass it on to your kid. Teach your kid to speak up for themselves. The last thing I want my kids to be is a door mat like I was growing up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's tough to fly with kids! The kids put their feet on the seat not to be annoying most of the time, but because they are too short and their feet don't touch the ground. Then their parents give them toys to play with that often involve the tray table and it turns out the people in front of them can feel the tray table. And, you're giving them this stuff to do because people complain if they are too noisy! Ha.

Once someone in front of us asked me/my kid to stop kicking. The kid wasn't kicking but I guess doing something with the tray table that I didn't realize she could feel. I am a non confrontational person and I suppose I would have been annoyed at anyone who asked me or my kid to stop. We were not trying to be discourteous in the first place. I just said - oh sorry and then freaked out the rest of the trip any time my child moved an inch.

Huh? YOU would be annoyed at anyone who asked you or your kid to stop. Wow, you are a piece of work.

Yes, because we were trying not to bother them in the first place so I felt pressure like anything we do will bother you and I wanted to get off the flight ASAP. I didn't say anything to them, other than "oh, sorry!" I wasn't like - F U! If the latter, then you could say I'm a piece of work

So passenger paying the same amount of you should sit silently while kid behind is bothering him/her so you (the parent) doesn't feel pressure. Get outta here.

I'm just saying the person on the receiving end isn't always going to be thrilled no matter how you do it. I personally err towards not saying anything to avoid confrontation but to each his own I guess. Once I was also on a train and someone behind me was playing with their phone loudly. It was annoying but I didn't say anything. Someone in front of me turned around and screamed at me because they thought I was doing it.

I have similar anxiety as you. Please dont pass it on to your kid. Teach your kid to speak up for themselves. The last thing I want my kids to be is a door mat like I was growing up.

That's an interesting take. I thought I don't want them to be like the person who turned around and yelled! But there is probably a medium and I shouldn't take the person on the plane personally either .

[Anonymous]

I would address it to the child--but very kindly and a little vaguely--kind of to the parent and the child. But, be polite. The child should know that it is disturbing--but may not realize it. Parent is probably distracted.

[Anonymous]

I have to say that I've logged a ton of air miles, and this has never, never happened to me. People complain A LOT about kids on planes, but there are far greater annoyances (I'm talking about you, seat recliner -- if it's not a redeye, check behind you first! Even if it is a redeye, check behind you first!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's tough to fly with kids! The kids put their feet on the seat not to be annoying most of the time, but because they are too short and their feet don't touch the ground. Then their parents give them toys to play with that often involve the tray table and it turns out the people in front of them can feel the tray table. And, you're giving them this stuff to do because people complain if they are too noisy! Ha.

Once someone in front of us asked me/my kid to stop kicking. The kid wasn't kicking but I guess doing something with the tray table that I didn't realize she could feel. I am a non confrontational person and I suppose I would have been annoyed at anyone who asked me or my kid to stop. We were not trying to be discourteous in the first place. I just said - oh sorry and then freaked out the rest of the trip any time my child moved an inch.

Huh? YOU would be annoyed at anyone who asked you or your kid to stop. Wow, you are a piece of work.

Yes, because we were trying not to bother them in the first place so I felt pressure like anything we do will bother you and I wanted to get off the flight ASAP. I didn't say anything to them, other than "oh, sorry!" I wasn't like - F U! If the latter, then you could say I'm a piece of work

So passenger paying the same amount of you should sit silently while kid behind is bothering him/her so you (the parent) doesn't feel pressure. Get outta here.

I'm just saying the person on the receiving end isn't always going to be thrilled no matter how you do it. I personally err towards not saying anything to avoid confrontation but to each his own I guess. Once I was also on a train and someone behind me was playing with their phone loudly. It was annoying but I didn't say anything. Someone in front of me turned around and screamed at me because they thought I was doing it.

I have similar anxiety as you. Please dont pass it on to your kid. Teach your kid to speak up for themselves. The last thing I want my kids to be is a door mat like I was growing up.

That's an interesting take. I thought I don't want them to be like the person who turned around and yelled! But there is probably a medium and I shouldn't take the person on the plane personally either .

Okay, but I don't think there's anything wrong for speaking up for yourself. Yes, there is a medium and it involves saying something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have to say that I've logged a ton of air miles, and this has never, never happened to me. People complain A LOT about kids on planes, but there are far greater annoyances (I'm talking about you, seat recliner -- if it's not a redeye, check behind you first! Even if it is a redeye, check behind you first!)

yeah, I dont get this..

the seat reclines, unless you are against a bulkead. for most people a 90* seat angle is not comfortable. you have to expect ALWAYS the the person in front of you is going to recline their seat. to get that slightly more comfortable 85* recline.

this is the kind of crap I really hate to see... bare feet, hair flopped over the head rest, BO, the larger person who get the middle seat and want to have the armest up so they can flow over into my seat (yes I get it that the middle seat gets both armrests, but they gotta stay down), folk whol refuse to wear headphones...

[Anonymous]

On the opposite end of someone kicking your seat, I was recently very pleasantly surprised by my 14 hour flight from JFK to Guangzhou. There were at least 3 babies/toddlers in my cabin and I didn't hear a peep from any of them during the flight. It was a very peaceful experience, and the passengers around me were all polite and courteous and I felt like I won the jackpot!

[Anonymous]

IMO, whether you ask the mom or child depends on the age of the child. Older kids (like maybe 8 or 9 and older), I would ask the child directly (and politely) to stop kicking my seat. Younger kids, I'd ask the parent.

[Anonymous]

I had an opposite experience. When my dd was little some angry man accused her of kicking his seat and she wasn't doing anything. Some people just freak out at the site of a kid.

Flying is terrible anyway...there is no space on domestic flights. I have never had problems with kids. My problem is people reclining when there is no space to begin with.

I had a guy who was bald reclining in my face. Very gross to look at.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have to say that I've logged a ton of air miles, and this has never, never happened to me. People complain A LOT about kids on planes, but there are far greater annoyances (I'm talking about you, seat recliner -- if it's not a redeye, check behind you first! Even if it is a redeye, check behind you first!)

yeah, I dont get this..

the seat reclines, unless you are against a bulkead. for most people a 90* seat angle is not comfortable. you have to expect ALWAYS the the person in front of you is going to recline their seat. to get that slightly more comfortable 85* recline.

this is the kind of crap I really hate to see... bare feet, hair flopped over the head rest, BO, the larger person who get the middle seat and want to have the armest up so they can flow over into my seat (yes I get it that the middle seat gets both armrests, but they gotta stay down), folk whol refuse to wear headphones...

Please don't recline your seat unless you have checked that the person behind you will be able to fit in the space when your seat is reclined.

[Anonymous]

Your excessive size is not my issue.