35 y/o Women - How long did it take you to conceive?

[Anonymous]

first pregnancy 37, second pregnancy 41 (one miscarriage). Both times (actually all three) I just counted 14 days since the beginning of my last period and BOOM.

[Anonymous]

First pregnancy, at 36: hadn't started TTC, total surprise

Second pregnancy, at 38: 3 months, but I had a chemical pregnancy the month before

[Anonymous]

At 35/36 it took me about 3 years - which included two early miscarriages, then finally after 2 years we were successful with Ivf (1st round with pgd tested fet). No fertility issues were found, & no apparent reason for miscarriages, just couldn't afford to wait anymore since every year the chances decrease. The miscarriages each set me back a few months while my body got back in cycle. I would expect about 2 years at that age if it's your first.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever gotten pregnant before? That's the best indicator (though of course no guarantee) you have of what it might be like. I got pregnant in about 3 months at 32 and in about 4/5 months at 36. I have friends who have gotten pregnant on the first try and others who are on multiple rounds of IUI or IVF and are not pregnant yet. I don't think age alone can be your only predictor...you won't know until you try. At 35, the biggest thing is to know your chances are lower each month than they were at younger ages, and your chances of something causing a problem are higher. But you could get pregnant in 1 try...or you could have underlying issues and be TTC 3 years from now...it's really impossible to know until you get into it.

[Anonymous]

I'm 35 and I got pregnant after about 1 month of sex with my boyfriend. No interventions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:3 cycles at 33 (timed sex)
1 time at 36 (had sex once during fertile period)

Wow, you're a rockstar!

[Anonymous]

2 months at 35
First cycle at 38

charted religiously for several months beforehand each time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, anecdote time - based on the experiences of my friends and me, it's all down to whether your cycles are regular.

I have 4 friends with varying degrees of fertility struggles - all 4 have a history of irregular periods.
#1 Took over a year to conceive the first time, used Clomid 4x, had 2 m/c and 2 heathy kids
#2 was about to start Clomid but conceived after a year of trying. Subsequently got pregnant 2 more times very quickly, no m/c, 3 heathy kids.
#3 Got pregnant easily 4x, 2 m/c and 2 healthy kids
#4 Is pregnant now through IVF (first IVF) officially her diagnosis is "unexplained" (she ovulates) but history of irregular cycles

The rest of us who've always had clockwork periods - no losses, never took more than 3 or 4 months of trying

This is actually really inaccurate and bad advice.
I have perfectly regular 28 day cycles and I am completely infertile (have TTC for about 10 years). My only conceptions have been through IVF but all my testing is normal.
I've spent a lot of time on infertility/IVF message boards and most of us have regular cycles.

[Anonymous]

Was 35 1/2 when I got pregnant. Took 2 years of trying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, anecdote time - based on the experiences of my friends and me, it's all down to whether your cycles are regular.

I have 4 friends with varying degrees of fertility struggles - all 4 have a history of irregular periods.
#1 Took over a year to conceive the first time, used Clomid 4x, had 2 m/c and 2 heathy kids
#2 was about to start Clomid but conceived after a year of trying. Subsequently got pregnant 2 more times very quickly, no m/c, 3 heathy kids.
#3 Got pregnant easily 4x, 2 m/c and 2 healthy kids
#4 Is pregnant now through IVF (first IVF) officially her diagnosis is "unexplained" (she ovulates) but history of irregular cycles

The rest of us who've always had clockwork periods - no losses, never took more than 3 or 4 months of trying

This is actually really inaccurate and bad advice.
I have perfectly regular 28 day cycles and I am completely infertile (have TTC for about 10 years). My only conceptions have been through IVF but all my testing is normal.
I've spent a lot of time on infertility/IVF message boards and most of us have regular cycles.

yeah, the regularity of cycles helps you predict when you may be fertile, but doesn't guarantee you actually are fertile. I have irregular cycles but I conceive really easily despite that -- OPKs and charting have been key. Yet although I have conceived 5 times each within 3 months of trying, I have only one child and am in third trimester with another. I've had 3 miscarriages and have had to deal with infertility issues. Regularity of cycles does not guarantee either conception or an actual baby!

[Anonymous]

1 month at 36, 2 months at 39. Of my close friends (the ones I talk to about this stuff) who are in this age range, all were able to get pregnant without outside assistance within a year of beginning to try.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thank you, everyone, for posting. I just got "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" ... but I find that it's such an overwhelming book. Guess I need to buckle down and read it.

Fertility Friend has a free e-book that was very easy to understand. I recommend it. I never used TCYF. I just tracked ovulation using Fertility friend (I'm the pregnant within 1 month at 36 and 2 months at 39 poster).

[Anonymous]

1 month each at 34, 36, 38. All healthy babies born at term.

[Anonymous]

First month.

[Anonymous]

4 cycles @ 33. Gave birth at 34