Lesbian friends

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

The first amendment protects people from the government punishing them or keeping them from expressing their opinion. It does not give someone immunity from being called out for spouting off some stupid shit.

I totally agree with you.

[Anonymous]

I have one lesbian friend who is older. I somehow get the feelings most lesbians don't like me. They often get along much better with my husband.

[Anonymous]

OP here - Thank you everyone for your responses (well, except the troll - I ignored you.)

It is nice to know that most people wouldn't be weirded out by hanging out with me! When my co-worker (who isn't young!) made the comment I replied with, "Well, S (DP) will be very glad to hear that!" My co-worker giggled nervously. We did end going to happy hour and it was fine and fun - but not going to be an outside of work friendship (she is single/childless and older) but it was still nice to something social!

Thanks again to know there are more open minded moms out there who don't think I am trying to lure them away from their husbands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just because grandma doesn't agree it doesn't mean that she's a troll. people cannot disagree anymore? where did the 1st amendment go?

The first amendment protects people from the government punishing them or keeping them from expressing their opinion. It does not give someone immunity from being called out for spouting off some stupid shit.

Or being called out for deliberately answering a question that wasn't asked.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Thank you everyone for your responses (well, except the troll - I ignored you.)

It is nice to know that most people wouldn't be weirded out by hanging out with me! When my co-worker (who isn't young!) made the comment I replied with, "Well, S (DP) will be very glad to hear that!" My co-worker giggled nervously. We did end going to happy hour and it was fine and fun - but not going to be an outside of work friendship (she is single/childless and older) but it was still nice to something social!

Thanks again to know there are more open minded moms out there who don't think I am trying to lure them away from their husbands.

Glad to hear it worked out ok, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Thank you everyone for your responses (well, except the troll - I ignored you.)

It is nice to know that most people wouldn't be weirded out by hanging out with me! When my co-worker (who isn't young!) made the comment I replied with, "Well, S (DP) will be very glad to hear that!" My co-worker giggled nervously. We did end going to happy hour and it was fine and fun - but not going to be an outside of work friendship (she is single/childless and older) but it was still nice to something social!

Thanks again to know there are more open minded moms out there who don't think I am trying to lure them away from their husbands.

Glad to hear it worked out ok, OP!

I'm glad too, OP. Next time you get that response, if you do, you could just tell her "that's okay, I already earned my toaster!"

[Anonymous]

Tsk. I thought it used to be a toaster oven. The economy's hitting everyone, I guess.

[Anonymous]

I am friendly with several lesbian moms at my DC's school. It never occurs to me to wonder if they might be hitting on me when they're friendly (and no, I don't think they are)... Interestingly, I would think twice if any of the straight dads asked me to go out sans kids. Hmm. Thought-provoking thread, this.

[Anonymous]

I'm a straight woman with lesbian women within my playgroup, though not in my closer circle of female friends - which is mostly a result of geography, as the Moms I see most happen to be the ones within Little Red Wagon distance of my front door

But while I respect that the sexuality issue could be a complicating factor, I really think it's probably more just the fact that making new female friends at this age is HARD. And especially hard to move into the hanging out one-on-one territory (as opposed to hanging out with kids.) For instance, I have made a number of new Mom friends since my 19 month old was born, but I'm having trouble thinking of many situations where I've done stuff with these friends without it involving our kids. Maybe that's a factor of our kids still being little, but I also think it's because of the nature of the beast with making friends.

But I feel you OP on the feeling lonely bit. And I really hope you're able to make / develop some new friends.

[zumbamama]

I am married and have lesbian friends. I never assume they are trying to be something more than friends. DH also has gay friends and feels the same way. Many of my professors were gay/lesbian in college, as are two of my cousins, my ex-neighbors and my acupuncturist.

I was friends with a bisexual girl in college, but I didn't know she was for the whole 2 years we hung out. She didn't tell me she wanted to get with me until I was getting ready to move away. I was shocked that I had hung out with her for so long and never knew how she felt (she had a boyfriend the whole time). But even after she told me we still remained friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

But while I respect that the sexuality issue could be a complicating factor, I really think it's probably more just the fact that making new female friends at this age is HARD. And especially hard to move into the hanging out one-on-one territory (as opposed to hanging out with kids.)

This is so true. For my partner and I, we have the added loss of some of our very best friends who moved out of Virginia to escape draconian laws that effect our families. So, instead of sharing in this next stage of life with people I've known since college, we're only able to see one another every few months. Our babies probably won't be best friends like we always hoped they'd be. My family is still in VA (with a stack of legal documents) and we're struggling at meeting new folks. I do think it's more about the awkwardness of making friends at this stage in life than it is about sexuality.