any bank employees here? question about cashing check from wife in abusive relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all for your help, I will open a bank account with it. I wonder if they would let me use my work address. I'd feel much safer that way.

Use a friends address (someone you trust! or a parent/sibling you trust - TELL THEM what you are doing, not necessarily why, and ask them not to say anything) and use a DIFFERENT bank. Find a credit union.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all for your help, I will open a bank account with it. I wonder if they would let me use my work address. I'd feel much safer that way.

Use a friends address (someone you trust! or a parent/sibling you trust - TELL THEM what you are doing, not necessarily why, and ask them not to say anything) and use a DIFFERENT bank. Find a credit union.

Even better (sorry, same PP posting again) set it up to only have electronic notifications, no mail. More banks are letting people do this, and then use a different address just in case.

Good luck OP, I'm rooting for you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this is probably a strange question, but if I cash a check (not deposit, just bring into our bank and get cash), will it show up on our bank statement, or will my husband get any sort of notification that I cashed a check on our joint account? Could he see it if he's looking at our online account? He uses Mint and gets real time notifications of all finance related things.

I know it's a crazy question, but I'm in an abusive marriage and I'm not allowed to have any money other than what he decides to give me in cash, although I am joint on our bank account. I have been selling some stuff to save up my own emergency/leave money, and I sold something to a co-worker who gave me a check, and I'd like to cash the check and stash the money, but I CAN NOT take ANY chance that my husband would find out that I cashed a check at our bank.

Please help. Does anyone know the answer?

Do you have kids? If not start moving your personal stuff ou
Of the house. Then take half the money in the account and get the
Fuck out.

[Anonymous]

Good luck to you OP, you are very brace. If you don't have to worry about him seeing your web history, this link seems helpful: http://nnedv.org/projects/ecojustice/allstate/financialtips.html

I'll try and paste the content here but on my phone:
Financial Tips for Victims and Survivors
Six tips for domestic violence victims and survivors that are seeking to secure their financial future:
Plan for your safety by contacting your local domestic violence program to discuss your options and learn about the community resources you can access for support (i.e., emergency assistance funds, shelter, utility and/or rent assistance, public benefits and affordable housing). To locate a program in your community, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE. Language translation is available.

Obtain a copy of your credit report and monitor your credit regularly. Most financial institutions provide credit monitoring services such as Privacy Guard at a low cost. You can get a copy of your credit report by contacting one of the three credit bureaus: Equifax (1-800-685-1111), Experian (1-866-966-1067) or TransUnion (1-877-680-7275), or from FREE Annual Credit Report (1-877-322-8228).

Open a post office box for mail and any financial information you may receive before you leave or immediately after you leave an abusive situation. You can obtain a post office box from the United States Postal Service or vendors such as Parcel Plus, Mail Boxes Etc. or The UPS Store.

Call your utility companies, wireless telephone service and financial institutions to secure your private financial information with special PIN codes and passwords. Be sure to do the same on all new credit, wireless and/or utility accounts. Ask these companies to use identifiers other than your Social Security Number, date of birth or mother's maiden name to authenticate your identity.

Change all ATM and debit card PIN codes, online banking passwords and online investing passwords. Also be sure to change the password on your email account(s).

Be sure to make necessary changes to your insurance plans, will or trust beneficiaries to appoint a new person if your partner is your current designee.

For more information check out Nerdwallet http://www.nerdwallet.com/blog/advice/finance-tips/domestic-violence/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thank you all for your help, I will open a bank account with it. I wonder if they would let me use my work address. I'd feel much safer that way.

Use a friends address (someone you trust! or a parent/sibling you trust - TELL THEM what you are doing, not necessarily why, and ask them not to say anything) and use a DIFFERENT bank. Find a credit union.

They are going to ask to see an ID/proof of residency. They really tightened this stuff up after 9/11.

OP, keep your money in cash.

[Anonymous]

If you need to get more cash, you could do the "cash back" option when you purchase groceries or other items. Unless you need to give him the receipts, he'll never know you got $10 or $40 back every time. 4 0r 5 times a week

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

No advice but I'm rooting for you, too, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you need to get more cash, you could do the "cash back" option when you purchase groceries or other items. Unless you need to give him the receipts, he'll never know you got $10 or $40 back every time. 4 0r 5 times a week

Good luck.

My bank shoes cash back in the credit line of our online account. But you could by visa gift cards.

[Anonymous]

The visa gift cards usually have a fee - $4.95 or so. What about buying yourself gift cards to actual stores like target, Safeway, giant with some of your leftover grocery money? Or does he check your receipts?

[Anonymous]

If you were my friend, you could store your shoebox of money at my house. Heck, bring it over here anyway. I will only add to it.