Elementary age brother and sister sharing a room!

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Holy hell 16:28. Get some therapy for your issues.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read the entire thread...maybe someone suggested these already? http://www.everblocksystems.com/

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Anonymous wrote:So what advice do you need? Done almost everywhere else in the world. They will learn privacy and how to manage it. My cousins, brother and sister, two years apart, shared a room until 20. There was no issue ever. Separate beds, they worked it out on their own.

+1. Oddly enough, most families aren't living in 2400 sq. ft houses in pretty much any other country in the world.

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Anonymous wrote:Jack and Diane share a cute room on Blackish on ABC.

Jack and Diane are twins. OP's kids are 5 years apart.
LOVE Blackish!

Does it matter?

They don't have privacy curtains.

Just use the room for sleeping and storing clothing.

Two beds, two dressers, split the closet and put a nightstand between the beds.

What do you think families in NYC do? Europe? Anyplace where families squeeze into tiny apartments?

Except we are not in NYC or Europe.

I'm Swedish and never shared a room with siblings. Neither did any of my friends. Not all europeans live in London, Instanbul, or Madrid.

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Anonymous wrote:Is there a way to cordon it off with a room divider or sheets so each get a private space?

LOL

If someone has to have their kids sharing a room you can just assume off the bat that they don't have space to do what you are suggesting.

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Anonymous wrote:I haven't read the entire thread...maybe someone suggested these already? http://www.everblocksystems.com/

So cool!!

(Someone suggested these but didn't have a link or the product name.)

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Anonymous wrote:I shared a room with 3 brothers. My sister came every other weekend. Honestly, it wasn't that big of a deal. We had bunk beds and the only thing the room was used for was sleep. This idea of kids needing their own rooms is a luxury of an affluent society. We found ways to have privacy when needed. Doesn't matter if it's same sex siblings sharing a room or opposite sex. My 3 kids (2 boys/1 girl) share a room. The oldest is in HS, younger two in MS.

For our kids, we got bunk beds (same beds my brothers and I used!). I got some sheer curtains, some PVC pipe and I 'curtained' the bunk beds. Kinda looks like mosquito netting. Each kid has shelf/table that holds a clock/tissue/water bottle. Each kid has a bed lamp clamped to the headboard, similar to this https://www.google.com/search?q=clamp+light+for+headboard&rlz=1CAHPZY_enUS572US572&espv=2&biw=1366&bih=678&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiEju7p88HRAhUC5SYKHVYJAYcQ_AUIBygC#imgrc=se8Qk3wGeJek7M%3A. The lamp is such that it shines only on the kid who wants it - it doesn't disturb the other kids.

The kids will lay on their beds, listen to music (thru headphones) or read a book on their bed but not much else. They've figured out how to get 'space' in our house that's not necessarily a bedroom. We have a homework table elsewhere in the house, kids aren't allowed to have laptops in their bedrooms, we have a cubby/staging area next to the homework table where backpacks, etc. go. That helps cut down on the clutter/junk. Definitely no TVs in the bedroom.

Do my kid wish they had their own rooms? Sure, they do. So did I growing up but it just wasn't going to happen. You know what was worse than sharing a room? Sharing a single bathroom! My kids have it so much better! We've got 2 bathrooms!

I don't get parents who put all the kids in one room when they have 3-4 bedroom homes. It seems very selfish to me. If you can afford it, you should move and at least separate by gender.

You have poor reading skills. We don't have 3-4 bedrooms. We have 2 bedrooms and about 1250 sq ft total. Could we 'afford' a larger house? Sure, if we moved out Loudon/PGC, gave up a yearly vacation, stop saving for college, no extra curriculars for the kids, the 3rd car and the dog. We have no 'outsourced' work, we pack lunch and coffee so there's nothing to be saved on that end. For our family, we believe it's best for the kids to share a room.

To the person who has such significant issues with this, all I can say is 'therapy'. My mother shared a room with her brother, her mother shared a room with 3 brothers, my paternal grandfather shared a loft with a number of his siblings....where I grew up, this wasn't uncommon. If you really hated it, you could always sleep in the barn.....

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It's a valid point that this question is basically one only Americans have the luxury to have. Face it, this only becomes an issue as kids reach puberty and begin to struggle with bodily changes, self Identity, hormones, and start to enjoy masturbation (sometimes very frequently). I'd say sharing is fine as long as there is some sort of partition in the room, bathroom time alone is also somewhat equal, and each child has a set amount of alone time to have in the entire room by him or herself with the door closed every once in a while.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:I shared a room with 3 brothers. My sister came every other weekend. Honestly, it wasn't that big of a deal. We had bunk beds and the only thing the room was used for was sleep. This idea of kids needing their own rooms is a luxury of an affluent society. We found ways to have privacy when needed. Doesn't matter if it's same sex siblings sharing a room or opposite sex. My 3 kids (2 boys/1 girl) share a room. The oldest is in HS, younger two in MS.

For our kids, we got bunk beds (same beds my brothers and I used!). I got some sheer curtains, some PVC pipe and I 'curtained' the bunk beds. Kinda looks like mosquito netting. Each kid has shelf/table that holds a clock/tissue/water bottle. Each kid has a bed lamp clamped to the headboard, similar to this https://www.google.com/search?q=clamp+light+for+headboard&rlz=1CAHPZY_enUS572US572&espv=2&biw=1366&bih=678&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwiEju7p88HRAhUC5SYKHVYJAYcQ_AUIBygC#imgrc=se8Qk3wGeJek7M%3A. The lamp is such that it shines only on the kid who wants it - it doesn't disturb the other kids.

The kids will lay on their beds, listen to music (thru headphones) or read a book on their bed but not much else. They've figured out how to get 'space' in our house that's not necessarily a bedroom. We have a homework table elsewhere in the house, kids aren't allowed to have laptops in their bedrooms, we have a cubby/staging area next to the homework table where backpacks, etc. go. That helps cut down on the clutter/junk. Definitely no TVs in the bedroom.

Do my kid wish they had their own rooms? Sure, they do. So did I growing up but it just wasn't going to happen. You know what was worse than sharing a room? Sharing a single bathroom! My kids have it so much better! We've got 2 bathrooms!

I don't get parents who put all the kids in one room when they have 3-4 bedroom homes. It seems very selfish to me. If you can afford it, you should move and at least separate by gender.

You have poor reading skills. We don't have 3-4 bedrooms. We have 2 bedrooms and about 1250 sq ft total. Could we 'afford' a larger house? Sure, if we moved out Loudon/PGC, gave up a yearly vacation, stop saving for college, no extra curriculars for the kids, the 3rd car and the dog. We have no 'outsourced' work, we pack lunch and coffee so there's nothing to be saved on that end. For our family, we believe it's best for the kids to share a room.

To the person who has such significant issues with this, all I can say is 'therapy'. My mother shared a room with her brother, her mother shared a room with 3 brothers, my paternal grandfather shared a loft with a number of his siblings....where I grew up, this wasn't uncommon. If you really hated it, you could always sleep in the barn.....

Why do you ask if you don't want to hear what someone has to say? There are many houses that size or smaller, like ours with three bedrooms. Our house is under 1000 square feet and has three bedrooms. Your house is poorly laid out. You don't need a larger house, you need a better designed house. And, you don't need vacations, a 3rd car or a dog. Its best for you kids share but it may not be best for them. At elementary school age, b/g should have their own rooms. If they were the same gender, fine.

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Separate rooms is a modern thing. You children are likely to be closer.

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Each member of the family shall have their own bedroom and bathroom.

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Why do you ask if you don't want to hear what someone has to say? There are many houses that size or smaller, like ours with three bedrooms. Our house is under 1000 square feet and has three bedrooms. Your house is poorly laid out. You don't need a larger house, you need a better designed house. And, you don't need vacations, a 3rd car or a dog. Its best for you kids share but it may not be best for them. At elementary school age, b/g should have their own rooms. If they were the same gender, fine.

Huh? The only question I asked was, "Do you know what was worse than sharing a room?" You have some seriously poor comprehension skills as well as a very narrow mindset. No vacations, no car for the kids to drive (which is who the 3rd car is for) and no dog? Compromise the quality of our lives just to give my DD her own room? You have issues. And, just because my house doesn't have 3 bedrooms doesn't mean it is poorly designed. I can't believe your criteria for poorly/well designed is the number of bedrooms a house has!

Just asked my DD if she'd rather have her own room or a car to drive - she chose the car!

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Anonymous wrote:Separate rooms is a modern thing of the affluent. You children are likely to be closer.

Fixed that for you!

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Why do you ask if you don't want to hear what someone has to say? There are many houses that size or smaller, like ours with three bedrooms. Our house is under 1000 square feet and has three bedrooms. Your house is poorly laid out. You don't need a larger house, you need a better designed house. And, you don't need vacations, a 3rd car or a dog. Its best for you kids share but it may not be best for them. At elementary school age, b/g should have their own rooms. If they were the same gender, fine.

Huh? The only question I asked was, "Do you know what was worse than sharing a room?" You have some seriously poor comprehension skills as well as a very narrow mindset. No vacations, no car for the kids to drive (which is who the 3rd car is for) and no dog? Compromise the quality of our lives just to give my DD her own room? You have issues. And, just because my house doesn't have 3 bedrooms doesn't mean it is poorly designed. I can't believe your criteria for poorly/well designed is the number of bedrooms a house has!

Just asked my DD if she'd rather have her own room or a car to drive - she chose the car!

What are you looking for but to belittle other posters? Why post at all? You clearly have no interest in what someone else says. Keeping a 3rd car is not that expensive. Nor, is finding a way to get an extra bedroom, especially with the size of your house. If the kids are elementary age, they don't need a car to drive. You keep that car for yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm female. Shared a bedroom with my brother (20 months younger) all the way through college. No choice there.

Our parents gave us the master bedroom so it was bigger, and set it up with tall desks (think desks with shelves attached) and shelves all the way down the room. Whoever had the half closest to the door had less privacy but we eventually solved that with a sheet tacked to the ceiling.

The "wall" between the two halves ended about two feet below the ceiling.

We would have killed each other without that separation.

Dangerous. Easy to knock over a large bookcase/shelves.

Yet *gasp* OP lived to tell us about it!

My sister survived driving while drunk. Good idea them to keep doing things that we survived.