PTSD from baby with colic and reflux

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its def not baby having 1 bad night. Its one bad night that triggers extreme stess anxiety and depression from 7 months of hell. From week 2 to 4 months it took 3 hours to put baby to sleep, every single night bc she could scream literally non stop. And then wake up every 2/3 hrs. And nap for 30 mins after i have spent 1 he trying to get her down and scream and cry. It reminds me of not being to leave the house bc baby would scream in stroller, in carrier, in my arms all the time. If you have not had a colicy/reflux baby dont bother telling me what my mental heAlth diagnosis is. Thanks to those who wrote empathetic stoites. It helps to know i am not alone.

I couldve written this myself. I thought I was as losing my mind. I had no family help and felt so alone and desperate. And then I had a second baby and could not believe how incredibly different and easy and pleasurable a baby could be. I remember having after effects like you, months after we were out of the woods.

So why did you have a second baby if the first experience was so horrible?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had four terribly colicky babies defined as "purple crying." It is hard to even describe what it like to go through this. If I had not faith in God, it would be impossible. I think it did trigger something like PTSD because I developed severe anxiety and chronic fatigue syndrome afterward. Bedbound/housebound for years. My babies are grown a little older now and when I hear prolonged crying of a baby it's like someone instantly such all the life and energy out of all my cells. Crazy. I know many moms and hardly anyone can relate.

This is insane. Why on earth would you have *more* babies when you went through this experience even once??? That’s like saying I went through a horrific war that left me shattered, but when I heard there was another war, I signed up again????

[Anonymous]

My goodness this thread has taken a bad turn.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it's stress inducing for baby to have a bad night, but PTSD is an actual condition with defined characteristics. I think it's becoming the new catch phrase, and the flippant overuse of the term is annoying at best to many of us who have PTSD from actual life threatening traumatic events.

Just STFU. Why do you care if you have nothing to add that might help this new mom, please move along. OP, please call your OB or gp and ask for a prescription to an antidepressant. Colic can be awful. I have more than one friend who only has 1 kid because of it. Are you giving ibuprofen for the teething?i found it to be very helpful.

STFU yourself. You aren’t the board monitor and no one has to “move on” because you command them to do so.

Hey Ladies,

This thread is 6 years old. Swearing at this point is telling us you may be sleep deprived.

[Anonymous]

Oh give it a rest. You know what OP is trying to communicate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its def not baby having 1 bad night. Its one bad night that triggers extreme stess anxiety and depression from 7 months of hell. From week 2 to 4 months it took 3 hours to put baby to sleep, every single night bc she could scream literally non stop. And then wake up every 2/3 hrs. And nap for 30 mins after i have spent 1 he trying to get her down and scream and cry. It reminds me of not being to leave the house bc baby would scream in stroller, in carrier, in my arms all the time. If you have not had a colicy/reflux baby dont bother telling me what my mental heAlth diagnosis is. Thanks to those who wrote empathetic stoites. It helps to know i am not alone.

I couldve written this myself. I thought I was as losing my mind. I had no family help and felt so alone and desperate. And then I had a second baby and could not believe how incredibly different and easy and pleasurable a baby could be. I remember having after effects like you, months after we were out of the woods.

So why did you have a second baby if the first experience was so horrible?

Why did you dig up a 6yo post?

[Anonymous]

My baby was a great sleeper but I still shuddered and tensed up every time I heard a baby cry the first year and a half. So I can only imagine that would be intensified in a colic situation. It DOES get better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its def not baby having 1 bad night. Its one bad night that triggers extreme stess anxiety and depression from 7 months of hell. From week 2 to 4 months it took 3 hours to put baby to sleep, every single night bc she could scream literally non stop. And then wake up every 2/3 hrs. And nap for 30 mins after i have spent 1 he trying to get her down and scream and cry. It reminds me of not being to leave the house bc baby would scream in stroller, in carrier, in my arms all the time. If you have not had a colicy/reflux baby dont bother telling me what my mental heAlth diagnosis is. Thanks to those who wrote empathetic stoites. It helps to know i am not alone.

I couldve written this myself. I thought I was as losing my mind. I had no family help and felt so alone and desperate. And then I had a second baby and could not believe how incredibly different and easy and pleasurable a baby could be. I remember having after effects like you, months after we were out of the woods.

So why did you have a second baby if the first experience was so horrible?

Why did you dig up a 6yo post?

What is there to do at 4:30am except stir the pot?

NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's not PTSD.


Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder that is brought on by memories of an extremely stressful event or series of events that cause intense fear, particularly if feelings of helplessness accompanied the fear. That event may be war, physical or sexual assault or abuse, an accident (such as an airplane crash or a serious motor vehicle accident), or a mass disaster. You can develop PTSD if the event happened to you, or even if you witnessed it.

Having a baby is not PTSD inducing.

👏 👏 👏 louder for those in the back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's not PTSD.


Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder that is brought on by memories of an extremely stressful event or series of events that cause intense fear, particularly if feelings of helplessness accompanied the fear. That event may be war, physical or sexual assault or abuse, an accident (such as an airplane crash or a serious motor vehicle accident), or a mass disaster. You can develop PTSD if the event happened to you, or even if you witnessed it.

Having a baby is not PTSD inducing.

👏 👏 👏 louder for those in the back.

My goodness!

Are you the sane poster who is trying to make this thread happen?

I wish I had a "beat a dead horse" emoji.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Its def not baby having 1 bad night. Its one bad night that triggers extreme stess anxiety and depression from 7 months of hell. From week 2 to 4 months it took 3 hours to put baby to sleep, every single night bc she could scream literally non stop. And then wake up every 2/3 hrs. And nap for 30 mins after i have spent 1 he trying to get her down and scream and cry. It reminds me of not being to leave the house bc baby would scream in stroller, in carrier, in my arms all the time. If you have not had a colicy/reflux baby dont bother telling me what my mental heAlth diagnosis is. Thanks to those who wrote empathetic stoites. It helps to know i am not alone.

I couldve written this myself. I thought I was as losing my mind. I had no family help and felt so alone and desperate. And then I had a second baby and could not believe how incredibly different and easy and pleasurable a baby could be. I remember having after effects like you, months after we were out of the woods.

So why did you have a second baby if the first experience was so horrible?

I could have written what the PP said myself regarding my first and second. I had a second baby because I realized that (a) The madness ends and then you get a great kid and (b) I wanted another child. I'm pregnant with my third and hope that I get a baby like my second baby.

[Anonymous]

Is your baby on meds for the reflux?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In this boat now. I have a 3 month old 34 week premie with severe reflux. No crying fits but has random choking episodes 3-4 times a day. It can be at any tine no rhyme or reason. Saliva goes wrong way and everything gets blocked and the poor thing ia scared to death (as are we). We sleep with one ear open which us not really sleeping at all. It's hell. She's elevated at all times and it still happens every day

Has your child been evaluated for any of the malacias? Peds are notoriously under-educated about this and I even had one ped tell me that reflux isn't real and I just couldn't seem to care for a baby properly. She had the gall to ask me whether I had a baby knowing they would cry. He ended up having laryngomalacia and reflux was visible during the scope.