PTSD from baby with colic and reflux

[Anonymous]

Both of mine had horrific reflux - I totally understand but once we got to a year with the first (yes it took a year!) and 14 mos with the second it finally resolved ... I sleep trained with cio once it was under control and now I have two awesome sleepers. It was horrible though - I slept for like six months after the second started sttn

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Anonymous wrote:Oh please to the PPs who are questioning the definition of PTSD. Whatever. It's clear you have never experienced a newborn/infant with colic and reflux. I have. And I'm about the most strong-minded person around, it takes insane amounts of shock or stress to offset me. Having a baby with colic and reflux, day after day, hour after hour, will fuck with your mind so badly that you think thoughts you never thought you'd think. Like, throwing your baby out of the window, or throwing it onto the couch, or back into its crib, anything to stop the constant screaming. And it's not just crying. It's literal screaming. High pitched, wailed, red-faced, constant screaming. If you've never experienced it and want to argue about some stupid literal definition of PTSD, go to another sanctimommy forum and shut the hell up.

To the OP, it does get better, I promise. I can joke about it now and even had a third child after my second child had colic and reflux. Don't beat yourself up and think of yourself as weak or awful or anything less than who you know you really are, I think discussing this with a therapist is a good approach. You will come out of this fog, it's just hard to envision that happening right now. But it will. Hang in there!!

No one is questioning the definition of PTSD. It is in fact a defined condition. That does not mean that what the OP went through is not awful and that she should not seek help in order to process it. Perhaps you should take your misplaced anger move to another forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it's stress inducing for baby to have a bad night, but PTSD is an actual condition with defined characteristics. I think it's becoming the new catch phrase, and the flippant overuse of the term is annoying at best to many of us who have PTSD from actual life threatening traumatic events.

Just STFU. Why do you care if you have nothing to add that might help this new mom, please move along. OP, please call your OB or gp and ask for a prescription to an antidepressant. Colic can be awful. I have more than one friend who only has 1 kid because of it. Are you giving ibuprofen for the teething?i found it to be very helpful.

[Anonymous]

It is hard to raise a baby even if the baby is healthy and does not have colic and reflux. It will get better.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it's stress inducing for baby to have a bad night, but PTSD is an actual condition with defined characteristics. I think it's becoming the new catch phrase, and the flippant overuse of the term is annoying at best to many of us who have PTSD from actual life threatening traumatic events.

Just STFU. Why do you care if you have nothing to add that might help this new mom, please move along. OP, please call your OB or gp and ask for a prescription to an antidepressant. Colic can be awful. I have more than one friend who only has 1 kid because of it. Are you giving ibuprofen for the teething?i found it to be very helpful.

Wow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it's stress inducing for baby to have a bad night, but PTSD is an actual condition with defined characteristics. I think it's becoming the new catch phrase, and the flippant overuse of the term is annoying at best to many of us who have PTSD from actual life threatening traumatic events.

Just STFU. Why do you care if you have nothing to add that might help this new mom, please move along. OP, please call your OB or gp and ask for a prescription to an antidepressant. Colic can be awful. I have more than one friend who only has 1 kid because of it. Are you giving ibuprofen for the teething?i found it to be very helpful.

Wow.

You should STFU. No one is takking about a baby having a bad night. They're taking about the psychological effects of listening to a baby scream upwards of 8 hours a day for weeks in a row. These women have shaken babies or contemplated suicide in moments of sleep deprived depressed madness. That seems like a brush with death to me.

[Anonymous]

Its def not baby having 1 bad night. Its one bad night that triggers extreme stess anxiety and depression from 7 months of hell. From week 2 to 4 months it took 3 hours to put baby to sleep, every single night bc she could scream literally non stop. And then wake up every 2/3 hrs. And nap for 30 mins after i have spent 1 he trying to get her down and scream and cry. It reminds me of not being to leave the house bc baby would scream in stroller, in carrier, in my arms all the time. If you have not had a colicy/reflux baby dont bother telling me what my mental heAlth diagnosis is. Thanks to those who wrote empathetic stoites. It helps to know i am not alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it's stress inducing for baby to have a bad night, but PTSD is an actual condition with defined characteristics. I think it's becoming the new catch phrase, and the flippant overuse of the term is annoying at best to many of us who have PTSD from actual life threatening traumatic events.

Just STFU. Why do you care if you have nothing to add that might help this new mom, please move along. OP, please call your OB or gp and ask for a prescription to an antidepressant. Colic can be awful. I have more than one friend who only has 1 kid because of it. Are you giving ibuprofen for the teething?i found it to be very helpful.

Wow.

You should STFU. No one is takking about a baby having a bad night. They're taking about the psychological effects of listening to a baby scream upwards of 8 hours a day for weeks in a row. These women have shaken babies or contemplated suicide in moments of sleep deprived depressed madness. That seems like a brush with death to me.

You seriously need to get help for your rage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Its def not baby having 1 bad night. Its one bad night that triggers extreme stess anxiety and depression from 7 months of hell. From week 2 to 4 months it took 3 hours to put baby to sleep, every single night bc she could scream literally non stop. And then wake up every 2/3 hrs. And nap for 30 mins after i have spent 1 he trying to get her down and scream and cry. It reminds me of not being to leave the house bc baby would scream in stroller, in carrier, in my arms all the time. If you have not had a colicy/reflux baby dont bother telling me what my mental heAlth diagnosis is. Thanks to those who wrote empathetic stoites. It helps to know i am not alone.

I couldve written this myself. I thought I was as losing my mind. I had no family help and felt so alone and desperate. And then I had a second baby and could not believe how incredibly different and easy and pleasurable a baby could be. I remember having after effects like you, months after we were out of the woods.

[Anonymous]

I had a colicky refluxy baby, who is now two. I wouldn't wish that hell on anyone. She nursed every hour and if she wasn't nursing then she was screaming. It was awful. Luckily, I had lots of support from family but I still have nightmares about it.

[Anonymous]

LOLing at all these moms with PTSD.

[Anonymous]

To the pp who posted a video mocking those who had a horrible time listening to their baby cry inconsolably for months and months: you're a bad human being. What kind of person "LOLs" at someone's pain?

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[Anonymous]

I had four terribly colicky babies defined as "purple crying." It is hard to even describe what it like to go through this. If I had not faith in God, it would be impossible. I think it did trigger something like PTSD because I developed severe anxiety and chronic fatigue syndrome afterward. Bedbound/housebound for years. My babies are grown a little older now and when I hear prolonged crying of a baby it's like someone instantly such all the life and energy out of all my cells. Crazy. I know many moms and hardly anyone can relate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure it's stress inducing for baby to have a bad night, but PTSD is an actual condition with defined characteristics. I think it's becoming the new catch phrase, and the flippant overuse of the term is annoying at best to many of us who have PTSD from actual life threatening traumatic events.

Just STFU. Why do you care if you have nothing to add that might help this new mom, please move along. OP, please call your OB or gp and ask for a prescription to an antidepressant. Colic can be awful. I have more than one friend who only has 1 kid because of it. Are you giving ibuprofen for the teething?i found it to be very helpful.

STFU yourself. You aren’t the board monitor and no one has to “move on” because you command them to do so.