tell me what's odd about where you're staying

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 40 something BIL lives here in MIL's house with his 2 illegitimate children. The children's mother drops in and out of their lives. She is here now but has no car (we suspect it was relied) so people have to keep driving her places. When she shows up, she sleeps here so it has caused drama for us all.

BIL smokes (he does it outside) but smells like a chimney which is oh so much fun when I am dealing with a cold. Oh, and he has apparently ruined his insides with it and makes these awful grunting noises constantly.

Ugh, wish he had kept his dick in his pants. The kids are sweet and all, but the entire situation is just drama for everyone. Grandma is basically caring for kids in her retirement.

Trashy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Staying with MIL.

Everybody including adults must put a towel on their chair while eating at the kitchen table.

There is only bar soap in the entire house. Dishes are hand washed with a bar of Ivory soap.

There are decorative liquid soap dispensers in the bathroom but they are only for show. Decorative tissue box covers are also empty. She doesn't like for people to use the decorative hand towels but there aren't other towels to use.

The upstairs shower drain is clogged so you're basically standing in a bath by the time your shower is done. It's been this way for over 2 years. She doesn't think it's an issue.

Everyone is freezing but MIL won't turn the heat up.

Who the fu*k would wash dishes with bar soap?? And why wouldn't you check into a hotel?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:9 people and 4 dogs spending 4 days in a house with only 3 beds was...cozy.

19 people and 2 dogs here. Adults get bedrooms but all grandkids in sleeping bags in the den. Crazy town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 40 something BIL lives here in MIL's house with his 2 illegitimate children. The children's mother drops in and out of their lives. She is here now but has no car (we suspect it was relied) so people have to keep driving her places. When she shows up, she sleeps here so it has caused drama for us all.

BIL smokes (he does it outside) but smells like a chimney which is oh so much fun when I am dealing with a cold. Oh, and he has apparently ruined his insides with it and makes these awful grunting noises constantly.

Ugh, wish he had kept his dick in his pants. The kids are sweet and all, but the entire situation is just drama for everyone. Grandma is basically caring for kids in her retirement.

Trashy.

and this isn't the first psycho woman that has been in his life.

he also has an older child with his ex-wife. although, he and everyone actually know the kid isn't really his biologically - he just agreed to sign his name to the birth certificate. she never tried to come after him for child support after he moved back home after they finally got divorced and he had to declare bankruptcy because she knows damn well that a paternity test would prove what everyone knows.

his life could take up several weeks of jerry springer episodes.

Last week, my MIL wound up in the hospital and he couldn't be reached because he didn't pay his phone bill.

I just can't even imagine stumbling through life the way these people do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Staying with MIL.

Everybody including adults must put a towel on their chair while eating at the kitchen table.

There is only bar soap in the entire house. Dishes are hand washed with a bar of Ivory soap.

There are decorative liquid soap dispensers in the bathroom but they are only for show. Decorative tissue box covers are also empty. She doesn't like for people to use the decorative hand towels but there aren't other towels to use.

The upstairs shower drain is clogged so you're basically standing in a bath by the time your shower is done. It's been this way for over 2 years. She doesn't think it's an issue.

Everyone is freezing but MIL won't turn the heat up.

Who the fu*k would wash dishes with bar soap?? And why wouldn't you check into a hotel?

I don't know. But today I started loading the dishwasher because it's just ridiculous. She thinks running the dishwasher costs too much money. But I don't mind that as much as the fact that the same bar of decorative soap has been in the powder room for at least 2 years. And it's the only soap in the whole bathroom. There's not a hotel nearby and it would devestate her to have us stay somewhere else.

She thinks all of this is totally normal. And it pretty much all stems from her being incredibly cheap. I told her today that the bathroom sink also backs up while the water is running and she said that it's fine because she never uses that bathroom and it's not worth getting it fixed for the few times a year she has guests and we're family so she doesn't need to impress us.

The towels on the chairs are because her kitchen chairs are covered in a suede-like fabric and are hard to clean so she has people sit on towels in case any food gets on the chairs. When we eat in the dining room, which is incredibly rare, she covers the rug with towels as well. Of course she would have chosen an all white dining room. It makes total sense to her.

But that's how she lives her life in a nutshell--for appearances only.

#2morenights

-OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you have to sit on a towel at the kitchen table? Are you all eating while naked?

Lol! I just spit out my wine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 40 something BIL lives here in MIL's house with his 2 illegitimate children. The children's mother drops in and out of their lives. She is here now but has no car (we suspect it was relied) so people have to keep driving her places. When she shows up, she sleeps here so it has caused drama for us all.

BIL smokes (he does it outside) but smells like a chimney which is oh so much fun when I am dealing with a cold. Oh, and he has apparently ruined his insides with it and makes these awful grunting noises constantly.

Ugh, wish he had kept his dick in his pants. The kids are sweet and all, but the entire situation is just drama for everyone. Grandma is basically caring for kids in her retirement.

You sound completely awful. I hope those children never overhear you talking about them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents have chairs that spin in the family room and living room. But my dad gets annoyed with the kids if they try to spin in them.

I grew up in house with the coolest spinning chair that was kept in our finished basement that served as the kids playroom. My dad was incensed! Incensed! that we misbehaved children would dare spin in that chair and would scream at us for doing so. Cruel and unusual punishment. Happy to report I am in possession of said chair today and allow my kids to spin away...and they rarely do, likely because it is not forbidden fruit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's not a fruit or vegetable in this house. My parents.

Omg. What is with older people never having vegetables or fruit around. The only fruit at my IL's is from a fruit basket someone got FIL for Christmas from his work. Veggies are not to be found. Christmas dinner was basically meat and potatoes (and two different kind of rolls). I feel so gross by the time I leave.

Ugh, I wish FIL would keep fruit and veggies out of the house. He lives in our basement. He gets fruit and veggies from the salad bar for the week. He puts it all in one container, along with cottage cheese. Puts salad dressing on it. So it sits in the fridge, lettuce all soggy, fruit and cottage cheese juices all mixed together in this soupy mess.

He also does this weird thing where he cooks everything in the toaster oven. It cooks faster if it's defrosted. So he'll pull out the entire bag of frozen veggies and leaves it on the counter to defrost all day. Then he'll take out just what he's going to eat and refreezes the rest.

But the worst is ground beef. He'll let a pound thaw all day, pull off enough to make one patty and refreezes the rest. Won't even cover the open package. Just shoves the partially open container back in the freezer, dripping all that blood all over the place.

I don't know how this man hasn't died from food borne illness!!!

[Anonymous]

We're not there (DH finally has had enough and refuses to go there), but when we're at my in-laws their guest room closet is full of Two-Buck Chuck boxes. I don't know if they're FIL of wine (because step-MIL is an alcoholic and FIL thinks it's good wine and serves it whenever they entertain) or if they've just drunk that much of it and are storing whatever in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 40 something BIL lives here in MIL's house with his 2 illegitimate children. The children's mother drops in and out of their lives. She is here now but has no car (we suspect it was relied) so people have to keep driving her places. When she shows up, she sleeps here so it has caused drama for us all.

BIL smokes (he does it outside) but smells like a chimney which is oh so much fun when I am dealing with a cold. Oh, and he has apparently ruined his insides with it and makes these awful grunting noises constantly.

Ugh, wish he had kept his dick in his pants. The kids are sweet and all, but the entire situation is just drama for everyone. Grandma is basically caring for kids in her retirement.

You sound completely awful. I hope those children never overhear you talking about them.

I wouldn't say any of this to the children. It's not their fault that idiots conceived and birthed them. They didn't ask for this.

But this shit isn't normal. #1 was an oops. But then they went and "planned" #2 (yeah, right) and had to move back in with my ILs and go on welfare. They did this to themselves and I have very little pity for them.

You may think I am horrible and callous, but we have considered filing for custody of the children multiple times. Neither my BIL or the twit he impregnated twice is a fit parent. And while grandma is a great person and the only stable influence in their lives, it sucks for her to have to deal with this shitshow on a daily basis. We'd do more if we were closer, but we live too far away to be of any real help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 40 something BIL lives here in MIL's house with his 2 illegitimate children. The children's mother drops in and out of their lives. She is here now but has no car (we suspect it was relied) so people have to keep driving her places. When she shows up, she sleeps here so it has caused drama for us all.

BIL smokes (he does it outside) but smells like a chimney which is oh so much fun when I am dealing with a cold. Oh, and he has apparently ruined his insides with it and makes these awful grunting noises constantly.

Ugh, wish he had kept his dick in his pants. The kids are sweet and all, but the entire situation is just drama for everyone. Grandma is basically caring for kids in her retirement.

You sound completely awful. I hope those children never overhear you talking about them.

I wouldn't say any of this to the children. It's not their fault that idiots conceived and birthed them. They didn't ask for this.

But this shit isn't normal. #1 was an oops. But then they went and "planned" #2 (yeah, right) and had to move back in with my ILs and go on welfare. They did this to themselves and I have very little pity for them.

You may think I am horrible and callous, but we have considered filing for custody of the children multiple times. Neither my BIL or the twit he impregnated twice is a fit parent. And while grandma is a great person and the only stable influence in their lives, it sucks for her to have to deal with this shitshow on a daily basis. We'd do more if we were closer, but we live too far away to be of any real help.

Glad you don't say any of it to the kids, but would you consider also dropping the "illegitimate " label when speaking about them to others? It's not really relevant that their parents are unmarried and comes across as derogatory and disrespectful. As you said, they didn't cause the shitshow so don't add to their burden.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 40 something BIL lives here in MIL's house with his 2 illegitimate children. The children's mother drops in and out of their lives. She is here now but has no car (we suspect it was relied) so people have to keep driving her places. When she shows up, she sleeps here so it has caused drama for us all.

BIL smokes (he does it outside) but smells like a chimney which is oh so much fun when I am dealing with a cold. Oh, and he has apparently ruined his insides with it and makes these awful grunting noises constantly.

Ugh, wish he had kept his dick in his pants. The kids are sweet and all, but the entire situation is just drama for everyone. Grandma is basically caring for kids in her retirement.

You sound completely awful. I hope those children never overhear you talking about them.

I wouldn't say any of this to the children. It's not their fault that idiots conceived and birthed them. They didn't ask for this.

But this shit isn't normal. #1 was an oops. But then they went and "planned" #2 (yeah, right) and had to move back in with my ILs and go on welfare. They did this to themselves and I have very little pity for them.

You may think I am horrible and callous, but we have considered filing for custody of the children multiple times. Neither my BIL or the twit he impregnated twice is a fit parent. And while grandma is a great person and the only stable influence in their lives, it sucks for her to have to deal with this shitshow on a daily basis. We'd do more if we were closer, but we live too far away to be of any real help.

Glad you don't say any of it to the kids, but would you consider also dropping the "illegitimate " label when speaking about them to others? It's not really relevant that their parents are unmarried and comes across as derogatory and disrespectful. As you said, they didn't cause the shitshow so don't add to their burden.

Not the poster, but why drop the "illegitimate"? They are. And it's a description of their sad existence.

It's almost 2017. No one has to have kids unless they want them. Either take birth control or get an abortion if you're pregnant (sorry if I offend any pro-lifers).

[Anonymous]

My MIL has no door handle on the ONE bathroom door. My husband went to Home Depot to fix it and she got all pissed off. She also does not believe in buying garbage bags. She just uses the small plastic grocery bags.

We checked into the local Marriott.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:9 people and 4 dogs spending 4 days in a house with only 3 beds was...cozy.

19 people and 2 dogs here. Adults get bedrooms but all grandkids in sleeping bags in the den. Crazy town.

If all the adults have bedrooms, what's the issue? I think it sounds like a cute bonding experience to have the kids all together like a big sleepover.

OP- You win so far. Your inlaws are odd.