How much unresponsiveness to email do you tolerate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CC'ing the principal after only 24 hours is kind of intense

And makes you look like a whack job. It might be wrong- but we laugh about parents like you.

Honestly, I don't care if you laugh at me; it just reflects your lack of professionalism. I can assure you that supervisors above you take note of your lack of response and snickering and it is a detriment to your career progress and opportunities.

[Anonymous]

Now they don't. The supervisors do an eye roll and we all wait for your kid to leave for private. Being an ass is not 'assertive' it's disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Now they don't. The supervisors do an eye roll and we all wait for your kid to leave for private. Being an ass is not 'assertive' it's disrespectful.

+1

[Anonymous]

God, I just wish the teachers would just leave this forum. Do they have any idea what we go through? Really? The fears, the appointments, all the unknowns? See the behind the scenes version of the teachers here just makes me sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Less than 10 kids in my DC's class and I'm getting so tired of his teacher not responding to emails. She never works off the clock. Emails are sent only during her planning period or at the end of the day if at all. I've sent a few--direct questions--that have been totally ignored. School has in general been resistant to putting a communication plan in the IEP. She is always super friendly to your face.

Less than kids can mean more work than if there were 20+ kids. If she's not responding to you during the teaching day, that means she's busy teaching your child.

OP, if she doesn't respond to your questions, type them out and the next time you see her, hand her the list, and say, I'd like you to review these questions I have. Let me know by next week your thoughts or sooner if you don't understand what I'm asking. Thank you.

She may not responding to your one off questions about curriculum b/c either you're not clear in how you're wording them or she doesn't know how to answer them. First, seek to clarify if you're unclear. Second, if she can't answer them, find out why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God, I just wish the teachers would just leave this forum. Do they have any idea what we go through? Really? The fears, the appointments, all the unknowns? See the behind the scenes version of the teachers here just makes me sick.

We do. I'm a SN teacher and a SN mom. You/me are not martyrs, we are parents. And your posturing/demanding on dumb things like 24 hour turn around Time for emails makes me aware that you have not accepted your child. Hyper parents = in denial parents. As a parent you can huff and puff, but we all know you are fighting a battle against yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God, I just wish the teachers would just leave this forum. Do they have any idea what we go through? Really? The fears, the appointments, all the unknowns? See the behind the scenes version of the teachers here just makes me sick.

We do. I'm a SN teacher and a SN mom. You/me are not martyrs, we are parents. And your posturing/demanding on dumb things like 24 hour turn around Time for emails makes me aware that you have not accepted your child. Hyper parents = in denial parents. As a parent you can huff and puff, but we all know you are fighting a battle against yourself.

They can also be SN parents. Being scattered, impatient, and ADHD doesn't stop when you're a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:CC'ing the principal after only 24 hours is kind of intense

And makes you look like a whack job. It might be wrong- but we laugh about parents like you.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God, I just wish the teachers would just leave this forum. Do they have any idea what we go through? Really? The fears, the appointments, all the unknowns? See the behind the scenes version of the teachers here just makes me sick.

Some of us are here because we're also parents of kids with SN.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For all the teachers on her quick to judge--the lack of response has been a pattern and the most recent email was sent early this week with break not starting till yesterday. Of course I don't expect a response during Xmas vacation. I've been waiting 5 days to get her opinion on an issue about my child that is directly related to school. So sick of this. Last year we had a teacher who was great with email. I really think she's just collecting a check.

Unless the opinion is about a very discreet issue and can be conveyed in three sentences or less, you should be requesting a phone call to discuss the matter.
Writing an opinion sounds like a potentially time consuming task.

With SN children and the schools, you need a "paper" trail.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God, I just wish the teachers would just leave this forum. Do they have any idea what we go through? Really? The fears, the appointments, all the unknowns? See the behind the scenes version of the teachers here just makes me sick.

We do. I'm a SN teacher and a SN mom. You/me are not martyrs, we are parents. And your posturing/demanding on dumb things like 24 hour turn around Time for emails makes me aware that you have not accepted your child. Hyper parents = in denial parents. As a parent you can huff and puff, but we all know you are fighting a battle against yourself.

Not the person you're responding to but I'm highly suspect of your claim to have kids with SN. "Hyper parents = in denial parents"? Yeah, it sounds like you have limited experience in all areas.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Less than 10 kids in my DC's class and I'm getting so tired of his teacher not responding to emails. She never works off the clock. Emails are sent only during her planning period or at the end of the day if at all. I've sent a few--direct questions--that have been totally ignored. School has in general been resistant to putting a communication plan in the IEP. She is always super friendly to your face.

Less than kids can mean more work than if there were 20+ kids. If she's not responding to you during the teaching day, that means she's busy teaching your child.

OP, if she doesn't respond to your questions, type them out and the next time you see her, hand her the list, and say, I'd like you to review these questions I have. Let me know by next week your thoughts or sooner if you don't understand what I'm asking. Thank you.

She may not responding to your one off questions about curriculum b/c either you're not clear in how you're wording them or she doesn't know how to answer them. First, seek to clarify if you're unclear. Second, if she can't answer them, find out why.

You're either the "Hyper parents = in denial parents" PP or someone with similar, limited experience. Your post is ridiculous. Emails should be acknowledged within 24 hours of receipt. The acknowledgement may be 'I got your email and will respond tomorrow'; 'I'm not the right person to respond so I've forwarded it to Ms. Larla', 'I'm unclear about what you're asking', or with the answer. If the teacher is unable to do so, her professionalism should be question and/or her ability to organize her work.

And, as a PP noted, anyone with any kind of experience with IEPs knows you need a paper trail. I can tell you that we've won significant concessions from the school system because of untimely responses from school staff. Lack of clarity in a parent' email does not absolve the schools system from responding to an email in a timely fashion. What would an independent 3rd party view how long it takes you to respond to an email? The ones that have reviewed ours determined 24 hours /next business day was reasonable.

[Anonymous]

The reason OP is getting so much pushback is her tone -- even in teh subject. How much do you "TOLERATE"

It comes off as if the teacher is her personal employees who should be at her beck and call.

If she were truly seeking information she would have said something like -- "I am finding it challenging to communicate with my daughter's teachers via email. What kind of response time do you expect and receive from your teachers for routine and non-routine questions."

[Anonymous]

I think it's ironic that people state that they'd be fired if they didn't respond to customers, clients or consumers, because I can't tell you how often I email parents and get a bounce back message that they are out of the office for a meeting, or at court or something, and thus can't reply.

An out of office message IS a response. What do you think the purpose of an automatic - out of office reply is for? It is to manage the expectations of the sender that the recipient is not in a position to respond within normally expected time frames. The out of office message typically indicates when the person will be back in the office. It allows the sender to determine if she can wait until the recipient returns to the office or should contact someone else. The out of office message should communicate who to contact if the sender cannot what until her return.

I'm surprised so many seem to have such limited knowledge of professional norms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think it's ironic that people state that they'd be fired if they didn't respond to customers, clients or consumers, because I can't tell you how often I email parents and get a bounce back message that they are out of the office for a meeting, or at court or something, and thus can't reply.

An out of office message IS a response. What do you think the purpose of an automatic - out of office reply is for? It is to manage the expectations of the sender that the recipient is not in a position to respond within normally expected time frames. The out of office message typically indicates when the person will be back in the office. It allows the sender to determine if she can wait until the recipient returns to the office or should contact someone else. The out of office message should communicate who to contact if the sender cannot what until her return.

I'm surprised so many seem to have such limited knowledge of professional norms.

So, that's all I need to do, set an automatic email that says I'm teaching, and so not able to respond? And parents will be good with that?