If you have ever had a married AP, would you tell their spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am unmarried (no children) he is married (no children). I have imagined telling her, just to break up their marriage. However, I would never, ever do that in real life. I like my low-drama life. His wife is his problem.

You realize by being an OW you are not low drama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am unmarried (no children) he is married (no children). I have imagined telling her, just to break up their marriage. However, I would never, ever do that in real life. I like my low-drama life. His wife is his problem.

Low-drama life? In an affair? Please. It is clear you suck at real relationships. Go find yourself someone who isn't taken. What a POS you (and the cheating DH) are

[Anonymous]

I did. His wife saw pictures of me online with her husband and his best friend. She was calling on behalf of her friend, who thought I was dating her boyfriend (wife's husband's friend). She had no idea I was with her husband, she just thought we were friends. We talked for 20 mins while I assured her I wasn't dating her friends boyfriend. Realized how much I liked the wife and she ant he shrew her husband had described. Called her back 5 mins later and told her the truth. They divorced, we are friends now (wife and I).

[Anonymous]

'^ no kids

[Anonymous]

I thought about telling my APs wife but what good would it do? If she dumped him and he knew I was the one who told, I'd never end up with him anyway.

[Anonymous]

For those who had a spouse who cheated and told the AP's spouse - what if I didn't right away and I feel like I should have? Tell now, even though it's months later?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those who had a spouse who cheated and told the AP's spouse - what if I didn't right away and I feel like I should have? Tell now, even though it's months later?

How many months? I think it it's a few, you tell, because you're now complicit in the other spouse living a lie. Harder if it's been years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought about telling my APs wife but what good would it do? If she dumped him and he knew I was the one who told, I'd never end up with him anyway.

the point is to be honest not to win the prize of an a$$hole and besides, you are never going to end up with him, ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those who had a spouse who cheated and told the AP's spouse - what if I didn't right away and I feel like I should have? Tell now, even though it's months later?

Yes. I sent the email immediately but people have the right to know.

My email basically said.

You wife X is having and affair with my H Y. I am sorry if this comes as a surprise or if this is currently an arrangement that you know about. But, I thought it was best that everybody come clean. I wish you the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those who had a spouse who cheated and told the AP's spouse - what if I didn't right away and I feel like I should have? Tell now, even though it's months later?

Yes. I sent the email immediately but people have the right to know.

My email basically said.

You wife X is having and affair with my H Y. I am sorry if this comes as a surprise or if this is currently an arrangement that you know about. But, I thought it was best that everybody come clean. I wish you the best.

Good for you. What happened?

[Anonymous]

So you're mad your boyfriend is spending Christmas with his family huh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those who had a spouse who cheated and told the AP's spouse - what if I didn't right away and I feel like I should have? Tell now, even though it's months later?

Yes. I sent the email immediately but people have the right to know.

My email basically said.

You wife X is having and affair with my H Y. I am sorry if this comes as a surprise or if this is currently an arrangement that you know about. But, I thought it was best that everybody come clean. I wish you the best.

Good for you. What happened?

I divorced, they did not. But they were in the same social circle so the gossipy tarts she is "friends" with tried to tell me gory details of the whole mess and I cut them out of my life.

It's not pretty, she is bi-polar (I knew that), I hope she is getting the therapy she needs to be a good mom. Like I said, I knew her and she had been fired form many jobs and I know lots of bad stories about her as a mother, besides the ones she admitted to in the texts she sent my H. Like showing up wasted to a parent teach conference and missing college graduation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those who had a spouse who cheated and told the AP's spouse - what if I didn't right away and I feel like I should have? Tell now, even though it's months later?

Yes. I sent the email immediately but people have the right to know.

My email basically said.

You wife X is having and affair with my H Y. I am sorry if this comes as a surprise or if this is currently an arrangement that you know about. But, I thought it was best that everybody come clean. I wish you the best.

Good for you. What happened?

I divorced, they did not. But they were in the same social circle so the gossipy tarts she is "friends" with tried to tell me gory details of the whole mess and I cut them out of my life.

It's not pretty, she is bi-polar (I knew that), I hope she is getting the therapy she needs to be a good mom. Like I said, I knew her and she had been fired form many jobs and I know lots of bad stories about her as a mother, besides the ones she admitted to in the texts she sent my H. Like showing up wasted to a parent teach conference and missing college graduation.

Did you know when you sent the email you'd divorce him? I think that makes a big difference.

[Anonymous]

i have fantasies of telling the husband of the woman my DH had an emotional affair with and is now dating. he and i are on the road to divorce.