Depressed. Should have married ex boyfriend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Back to the depression. I miss him. I could have had a life with him. Now instead my life is in shambles.

Hindsight is 20/20 but not reality. You could have married him and either one of you could have become deeply unhappy. You will never know, so don't paint that life to have been perfect. Really. I know tons of couples who fall in love with the idea of a perfect marriage, but marriage itself isn't always what "saves" you.

Ok, it could have been fabulous, a horror story, or anywhere in between. But it didn't happen. It's water under the bridge. It's a huge and painful life lesson. Get into counseling and talk it out with a professional. Hit the gym and get your body and mind centered on you, not what could have been. You need to look to your future. You are the only person who can make the changes you need to move on. And as always, fake it until you make it. It's so easy to blame your current state to this one moment, but really, stuff like this happen all the time. Everyone has regrets.

Don't let this define you and your entire life- it's just doubling down.