Weight Loss and sex

[Anonymous]

Sorry for the double post

[Anonymous]

100 pounds in 4 months is a lot and for that you should be so proud of yourself! Really, that's great.

I am concerned that maybe this guy is worried about holding on to you, but for the wrong reasons. I'm not trying to hurt any feelings, just thinking/typing out loud, but maybe he knows he's not been so good to you and once you feel you have more options you may recognize that too and leave him? I'm not saying it right but I think his "find another hobby" is really code for "I'm really insecure."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has he admitted/showed signs that he is attracted to larger women? Have you asked him straight up if this is about your weight loss?

I agree with the PP that says it's better to end this. He won't be supportive of your goals while the majority of men would. Congrats on the weight loss and good luck!

I have asked. He says " there are some cute thin women." I know he's attracted to plus sized women because I'm huge and he approached me at a grocery store. When he watches porn it's mostly big women. He says he likes the way they look (soft).
He's different towards me, I can feel it.

Total troll response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you've lost 100 pounds and need to lose another 150? And now no sex? I hate to say it, but it does sound like he was only attracted to you because of the weight.

I'm sorry, OP. This is a worthwhile reason to end the relationship, in my opinion. The good news is many more men will be interested in you as a person, not a size!

And congratulations on your success so far. I know far too well how difficult massive weight loss is, so I am in awe!

I think you're right it's tough to hear. Ito hard to believe someone can be with you for nearly 4 years and only be attracted to your body. Bodies change. He does say that I should work out a little less. He says nearly 100 lbs in 4 months is extreme and I need a new hobby.

OP, if you lost 100 lbs in 4 months, the sagging skin would be a major turnoff...much more unattractive than anything else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Has he admitted/showed signs that he is attracted to larger women? Have you asked him straight up if this is about your weight loss?

I agree with the PP that says it's better to end this. He won't be supportive of your goals while the majority of men would. Congrats on the weight loss and good luck!

I have asked. He says " there are some cute thin women." I know he's attracted to plus sized women because I'm huge and he approached me at a grocery store. When he watches porn it's mostly big women. He says he likes the way they look (soft).
He's different towards me, I can feel it.

Total troll response.

Go away

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you've lost 100 pounds and need to lose another 150? And now no sex? I hate to say it, but it does sound like he was only attracted to you because of the weight.

I'm sorry, OP. This is a worthwhile reason to end the relationship, in my opinion. The good news is many more men will be interested in you as a person, not a size!

And congratulations on your success so far. I know far too well how difficult massive weight loss is, so I am in awe!

I think you're right it's tough to hear. Ito hard to believe someone can be with you for nearly 4 years and only be attracted to your body. Bodies change. He does say that I should work out a little less. He says nearly 100 lbs in 4 months is extreme and I need a new hobby.

OP, if you lost 100 lbs in 4 months, the sagging skin would be a major turnoff...much more unattractive than anything else.

He's only seen me naked once. I look fine in my clothes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you've lost 100 pounds and need to lose another 150? And now no sex? I hate to say it, but it does sound like he was only attracted to you because of the weight.

I'm sorry, OP. This is a worthwhile reason to end the relationship, in my opinion. The good news is many more men will be interested in you as a person, not a size!

And congratulations on your success so far. I know far too well how difficult massive weight loss is, so I am in awe!

I think you're right it's tough to hear. Ito hard to believe someone can be with you for nearly 4 years and only be attracted to your body. Bodies change. He does say that I should work out a little less. He says nearly 100 lbs in 4 months is extreme and I need a new hobby.

OP, if you lost 100 lbs in 4 months, the sagging skin would be a major turnoff...much more unattractive than anything else.

He's only seen me naked once. I look fine in my clothes.

Lol now this is getting funny. He's only seen you naked once... good one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you've lost 100 pounds and need to lose another 150? And now no sex? I hate to say it, but it does sound like he was only attracted to you because of the weight.

I'm sorry, OP. This is a worthwhile reason to end the relationship, in my opinion. The good news is many more men will be interested in you as a person, not a size!

And congratulations on your success so far. I know far too well how difficult massive weight loss is, so I am in awe!

I think you're right it's tough to hear. Ito hard to believe someone can be with you for nearly 4 years and only be attracted to your body. Bodies change. He does say that I should work out a little less. He says nearly 100 lbs in 4 months is extreme and I need a new hobby.

OP, if you lost 100 lbs in 4 months, the sagging skin would be a major turnoff...much more unattractive than anything else.

He's only seen me naked once. I look fine in my clothes.

Lol now this is getting funny. He's only seen you naked once... good one.

Not OP but why is this funny or not believable? I lost 60 lbs 2 years ago and was in a relationship with a guy. I would NEVER let him see me fully naked because I was so unhappy with myself. Anytime we had sex, id leave my shirt on and the lights had to be off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We have been together for a very long time. He should be more concerned with what's inside.

you don't get to decide that for other people, only yourself. If you fail to see the importance of that, you'll be doomed in your relationships going forward.

You aren't. You are specifically concerned about what is outside and are trying to change it.

Congratulations on your hard work, by the way. I'm sorry that you don feel supported. You are putting a lot of tough effort in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you've lost 100 pounds and need to lose another 150? And now no sex? I hate to say it, but it does sound like he was only attracted to you because of the weight.

I'm sorry, OP. This is a worthwhile reason to end the relationship, in my opinion. The good news is many more men will be interested in you as a person, not a size!

And congratulations on your success so far. I know far too well how difficult massive weight loss is, so I am in awe!

I think you're right it's tough to hear. Ito hard to believe someone can be with you for nearly 4 years and only be attracted to your body. Bodies change. He does say that I should work out a little less. He says nearly 100 lbs in 4 months is extreme and I need a new hobby.

OP, if you lost 100 lbs in 4 months, the sagging skin would be a major turnoff...much more unattractive than anything else.

He's only seen me naked once. I look fine in my clothes.

Exactly my point!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you've lost 100 pounds and need to lose another 150? And now no sex? I hate to say it, but it does sound like he was only attracted to you because of the weight.

I'm sorry, OP. This is a worthwhile reason to end the relationship, in my opinion. The good news is many more men will be interested in you as a person, not a size!

And congratulations on your success so far. I know far too well how difficult massive weight loss is, so I am in awe!

I think you're right it's tough to hear. Ito hard to believe someone can be with you for nearly 4 years and only be attracted to your body. Bodies change. He does say that I should work out a little less. He says nearly 100 lbs in 4 months is extreme and I need a new hobby.

OP, if you lost 100 lbs in 4 months, the sagging skin would be a major turnoff...much more unattractive than anything else.

He's only seen me naked once. I look fine in my clothes.

Exactly my point!

That was pretty mean

[Anonymous]

I think he likes you bigger. Plenty of people are more attractive to women with more curves. I am a skinny bi girl and I prefer "curvy" women. I just find it to be the epitome of femininity.

With that being said, do what's right for YOU and your health. Whatever weight you feel the best at (our bodies know) do that, regardless of whether your boyfriend is turned off by the skinniness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, and before anyone asks he's not insecure about his body. He's very tall, and fit.

Often the insecurity is not about their fitness. Their insecurity often lies within how they believe they can attract and keep women. Sometimes men will go toward a woman that they believe will not attract competition from other men. So, is it possible that your weight loss is a threat to his security? Just might be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he likes you bigger. Plenty of people are more attractive to women with more curves. I am a skinny bi girl and I prefer "curvy" women. I just find it to be the epitome of femininity.

With that being said, do what's right for YOU and your health. Whatever weight you feel the best at (our bodies know) do that, regardless of whether your boyfriend is turned off by the skinniness.

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