Weight Loss and sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been together for a very long time. He should be more concerned with what's inside.

you don't get to decide that for other people, only yourself. If you fail to see the importance of that, you'll be doomed in your relationships going forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have been together for a very long time. He should be more concerned with what's inside.

No. Sorry but that's not really how it work in real life. It's possible that he's more attracted to larger women. Think about it, if he's tall and fit, then he specifically chose a larger woman because that's what he's attracted to. He will never tell you that but I suspect that's what's going on.

[Anonymous]

When a man says, "I will not have sex with you because I'm busy and tired" it's ALWAYS code for something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When a man says, "I will not have sex with you because I'm busy and tired" it's ALWAYS code for something else.

guy here - yes this ^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When a man says, "I will not have sex with you because I'm busy and tired" it's ALWAYS code for something else.

guy here - yes this ^

Nah. Usually it is. But I remember once working 18 hours per day for several days getting ready for a trial & turning down my wife. I was honestly busy and tired. But

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When a man says, "I will not have sex with you because I'm busy and tired" it's ALWAYS code for something else.

guy here - yes this ^

Nah. Usually it is. But I remember once working 18 hours per day for several days getting ready for a trial & turning down my wife. I was honestly busy and tired. But

Dude, we're not talking about extenuating circumstances like preparing for a trial.

[Anonymous]

Some people are change-averse. I knew one woman whose boyfriend freaked out when she lost weight because he didn't want other men to look at her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When a man says, "I will not have sex with you because I'm busy and tired" it's ALWAYS code for something else.

guy here - yes this ^

Nah. Usually it is. But I remember once working 18 hours per day for several days getting ready for a trial & turning down my wife. I was honestly busy and tired. But

Dude, we're not talking about extenuating circumstances like preparing for a trial.

PP said "ALWAYS" -- in all caps, no less. I took that to mean "always."

[Anonymous]

So you've lost 100 pounds and need to lose another 150? And now no sex? I hate to say it, but it does sound like he was only attracted to you because of the weight.

I'm sorry, OP. This is a worthwhile reason to end the relationship, in my opinion. The good news is many more men will be interested in you as a person, not a size!

And congratulations on your success so far. I know far too well how difficult massive weight loss is, so I am in awe!

[Anonymous]

Chubby chaser.

[Anonymous]

Has he admitted/showed signs that he is attracted to larger women? Have you asked him straight up if this is about your weight loss?

I agree with the PP that says it's better to end this. He won't be supportive of your goals while the majority of men would. Congrats on the weight loss and good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has he admitted/showed signs that he is attracted to larger women? Have you asked him straight up if this is about your weight loss?

I agree with the PP that says it's better to end this. He won't be supportive of your goals while the majority of men would. Congrats on the weight loss and good luck!

I have asked. He says " there are some cute thin women." I know he's attracted to plus sized women because I'm huge and he approached me at a grocery store. When he watches porn it's mostly big women. He says he likes the way they look (soft).
He's different towards me, I can feel it.

[Anonymous]

I don't mean to ask an insensitive question, but how's your skin? Doesn't losing that amount of weight cause stretch marks to show, etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you've lost 100 pounds and need to lose another 150? And now no sex? I hate to say it, but it does sound like he was only attracted to you because of the weight.

I'm sorry, OP. This is a worthwhile reason to end the relationship, in my opinion. The good news is many more men will be interested in you as a person, not a size!

And congratulations on your success so far. I know far too well how difficult massive weight loss is, so I am in awe!

I think you're right it's tough to hear. Ito hard to believe someone can be with you for nearly 4 years and only be attracted to your body. Bodies change. He does say that I should work out a little less. He says nearly 100 lbs in 4 months is extreme and I need a new hobby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you've lost 100 pounds and need to lose another 150? And now no sex? I hate to say it, but it does sound like he was only attracted to you because of the weight.

I'm sorry, OP. This is a worthwhile reason to end the relationship, in my opinion. The good news is many more men will be interested in you as a person, not a size!

And congratulations on your success so far. I know far too well how difficult massive weight loss is, so I am in awe!

I think you're right it's tough to hear. Ito hard to believe someone can be with you for nearly 4 years and only be attracted to your body. Bodies change. He does say that I should work out a little less. He says nearly 100 lbs in 4 months is extreme and I need a new hobby.