Scheduling sex

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Anonymous wrote:The question should really be- when you schedule sex- how do you remember- put in on the calendar with a red marker, set a reminder on your smart phone calendar, send an auyo-post card note?

Hobey can you squeeze me in (literally!) on 23rd june?

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Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.

You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).

You are on track to write the epic best seller- the statistics of coitus

PP (12:40) and I do the same thing.... in my case it's depressing, so I guess my book would be titled A man and his hand

It was typed one-handed...

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That spreadsheet is gold- give it to your kid when she / he is old enough to understand when his life's foundation was laid. Tuesday 14th march 2016, fucked at 930 in the evening, started in doggy ended in missionary, 22 strokes, 3.56 mins to ejaculation. That's when my son, you were conceived!

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Anonymous wrote:The question should really be- when you schedule sex- how do you remember- put in on the calendar with a red marker, set a reminder on your smart phone calendar, send an auyo-post card note?

So we don't forget I had a neon sign created that says "SEX TONIGHT, BABY" and had it put over our bed on a timer. So on the appropriate time the sign lights up. If we DON'T have sex it starts to blink. If we go 12 hours without sex, it starts to blink faster, and starts to emit a little buzz. Eventually it gets really annoying so we have sex and it goes back to it's happy, restful state.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The question should really be- when you schedule sex- how do you remember- put in on the calendar with a red marker, set a reminder on your smart phone calendar, send an auyo-post card note?

So we don't forget I had a neon sign created that says "SEX TONIGHT, BABY" and had it put over our bed on a timer. So on the appropriate time the sign lights up. If we DON'T have sex it starts to blink. If we go 12 hours without sex, it starts to blink faster, and starts to emit a little buzz. Eventually it gets really annoying so we have sex and it goes back to it's happy, restful state.

That is old school. Here is the cyborg version. There is an implanted frequency sampling chip in the sleep number bed that goes off if the bed does not sense action every 4 days. then it emits annoyong moaning sounds until the occupants copulate.

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You fuckers are having a ball at the expense of miss need lady here. What is this- high school locker room?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The question should really be- when you schedule sex- how do you remember- put in on the calendar with a red marker, set a reminder on your smart phone calendar, send an auyo-post card note?

So we don't forget I had a neon sign created that says "SEX TONIGHT, BABY" and had it put over our bed on a timer. So on the appropriate time the sign lights up. If we DON'T have sex it starts to blink. If we go 12 hours without sex, it starts to blink faster, and starts to emit a little buzz. Eventually it gets really annoying so we have sex and it goes back to it's happy, restful state.

That is old school. Here is the cyborg version. There is an implanted frequency sampling chip in the sleep number bed that goes off if the bed does not sense action every 4 days. then it emits annoyong moaning sounds until the occupants copulate.

And THAT is why I won't buy a sleep number bed! I'm old school, all the way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DW and I are in a sex drought that we are trying to work back from. Just life and work and kids and all else and it ended up on the back burner, then kind of gone. We have talked about it and discussed it.

I have read that some people found the spark by scheduling sex which sounds so unromantic but has apparently been effective.

Would love to hear real-life experiences with this and how you guys set it all up.

Scheduling sex is less romantic than not having sex at all?

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Anonymous wrote:We don't "schedule" it per say and we've never talked about it but I always make sure we do it at least once a week. Good marriage maintenance.

+1 Us too (DW here). And if we skip it for whatever reason, I make a big deal out of it like 'Hmm maybe I can finally get some action tonight..' so he knows I'm aware that we've missed our "quota" for the week. I think it's important for the DH to think/know that sex is important to you too.

Isn't it just naturally important?

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Anonymous wrote:I really hate the idea of scheduled sex. What if you are just not into on the day you are supposed to be on? There are seven days in a week - you cannot find one or two or even three times where you can be alone and make love/have sex? Be honest after so many years together it really doesn't not take that much time.

*Warning, unhelpful comment above*

So, if you don't like it, and you are having regular sex, don't do it. It isn't for you. But it works for some people.
But if you can't find that one 20 minute period in the week to have sex, just try the scheduling. It isn't going to hurt to try something new.

I find plenty of time during the week to have sex - that's why I don't understand the need to schedule.

You do find plenty of time? Do you and your partner both work full time, is one of you an early bird, the other a night owl, and do you have teenagers at home? If no, yeah, you probably do have a boatload of time. Us? We talk about it in the morning, so we both know it's going to happen that night.

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Before we were empty nesters, Sunday was generally a guaranteed night and we would do our best to fool around one other evening during the week. Now that we are empty nesters there is less scheduling but still at least once and ideally twice a week. If I can get her in our hot tub that improves the odds.

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You need to schedule sex only if you are having sex with multiple partners

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.

You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).

This has to be the weirdest thing I've read in a long time. You have a spreadsheet of when you spread your legs - good god gross. Are you this anal about everything else in your life? Have you been doing this your whole marriage and does your husband know about your chart? Totally weird sorry. You are probably the same type of person who kept a poop chart for their kids - you should relax and enjoy life.

Hey, at least she is getting laid..

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My husband would go "oh boy" "oh boy" "oh boy" as the scheduled date nears.

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Everyday after work first thing. DD is in her room doing computer stuff. We call it "taking a time out".