Scheduling sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.

You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).

You are on track to write the epic best seller- the statistics of coitus

[Anonymous]

I really hate the idea of scheduled sex. What if you are just not into on the day you are supposed to be on? There are seven days in a week - you cannot find one or two or even three times where you can be alone and make love/have sex? Be honest after so many years together it really doesn't not take that much time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really hate the idea of scheduled sex. What if you are just not into on the day you are supposed to be on? There are seven days in a week - you cannot find one or two or even three times where you can be alone and make love/have sex? Be honest after so many years together it really doesn't not take that much time.

*Warning, unhelpful comment above*

So, if you don't like it, and you are having regular sex, don't do it. It isn't for you. But it works for some people.
But if you can't find that one 20 minute period in the week to have sex, just try the scheduling. It isn't going to hurt to try something new.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.

You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).

This has to be the weirdest thing I've read in a long time. You have a spreadsheet of when you spread your legs - good god gross. Are you this anal about everything else in your life? Have you been doing this your whole marriage and does your husband know about your chart? Totally weird sorry. You are probably the same type of person who kept a poop chart for their kids - you should relax and enjoy life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.

You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).

This has to be the weirdest thing I've read in a long time. You have a spreadsheet of when you spread your legs - good god gross. Are you this anal about everything else in your life? Have you been doing this your whole marriage and does your husband know about your chart? Totally weird sorry. You are probably the same type of person who kept a poop chart for their kids - you should relax and enjoy life.

I'm a hot mess, thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really hate the idea of scheduled sex. What if you are just not into on the day you are supposed to be on? There are seven days in a week - you cannot find one or two or even three times where you can be alone and make love/have sex? Be honest after so many years together it really doesn't not take that much time.

*Warning, unhelpful comment above*

So, if you don't like it, and you are having regular sex, don't do it. It isn't for you. But it works for some people.
But if you can't find that one 20 minute period in the week to have sex, just try the scheduling. It isn't going to hurt to try something new.

I find plenty of time during the week to have sex - that's why I don't understand the need to schedule.

[Anonymous]

When we tried it DW would save up all her complaints for right before the allotted time (no doubt because she thought I would listen rather than argue so we could get on with the sex) which didn't do much for the mood but better than no sex I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.

You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).

You are on track to write the epic best seller- the statistics of coitus

PP (12:40) and I do the same thing.... in my case it's depressing, so I guess my book would be titled A man and his hand

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.

You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).

This has to be the weirdest thing I've read in a long time. You have a spreadsheet of when you spread your legs - good god gross. Are you this anal about everything else in your life? Have you been doing this your whole marriage and does your husband know about your chart? Totally weird sorry. You are probably the same type of person who kept a poop chart for their kids - you should relax and enjoy life.

You said anal. Heh heh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't schedule it, but I track it. OK, yes, I am a nerd. And I made sure we get it a few times a week, most weeks. There are weeks (travel, vacations, my period) when we have it once. Very rarely we have it not at all in a week. I checked my spreadsheet, and there were three weeks in 2016 that we didn't have sex at all. Two of them involved 6-7 days of travel for him, the third week ... I don't remember why we didn't have sex that week (no notes in my spreadsheet) but we had it 3 times the week before and 3 the week after. So, it seems reasonable. Our average is above 2 but below 3 times a week.

You may think I'm a dork, but I find that this is the way I can schedule and make sure we get enough sex to remain happy, and I don't feel pressured for sex (because I don't get asked for sex if I'm handing it out before he gets anxious).

You are on track to write the epic best seller- the statistics of coitus

PP (12:40) and I do the same thing.... in my case it's depressing, so I guess my book would be titled A man and his hand

I cant stop laughing at this! Thanks for making my day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We schedule. We have sex 2-6x per month. If its been a few days since last action, we will look at our calendars and pick a day when the kids are in school and meet at the house for a nooner. This generally keeps us on a once a week pace.

This scheduling really helps. It makes sure we have once a week sex. It takes the pressure off DW from having sex the other days of the week. We pick the day of the week that works for her schedule when she has the best chance of clearing her head so the sex will be decent to good. I can take care of myself the other days without getting pent-up frustrated at my wife for lack of sex.

Its not ideal, its certainly not what I pictured my sex life becoming but its way way better than what we had before.

I am soooooo jealous.

[Anonymous]

Other helpful suggestions in the title of the book- My dong in a desert, nerd banger's tales, every saturday 830- an erotic novel, fuck me at 9 in a 69

[Anonymous]

What variables do you track in the spreadsheet-

No of times, time to arousal, foreplay time, no of strokes, which nipple was bitten, which position, orgasm on a scale of 1-10

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What variables do you track in the spreadsheet-

No of times, time to arousal, foreplay time, no of strokes, which nipple was bitten, which position, orgasm on a scale of 1-10

Ouch, why are you biting nipples?!

[Anonymous]

The question should really be- when you schedule sex- how do you remember- put in on the calendar with a red marker, set a reminder on your smart phone calendar, send an auyo-post card note?