Are scented candles tacky?

[Anonymous]

I prefer a wax warmer. Despite the fact that they're MLM, Scentsy bars last long, smell great, and are inexpensive. I don't care what anyone thinks about using them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You clearly do not have children.

So?

[Anonymous]

Worrying if things are tacky is tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You clearly do not have children.

So?

yes please explain.

[Anonymous]

Headaches. Who cares if they're tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I prefer a wax warmer. Despite the fact that they're MLM, Scentsy bars last long, smell great, and are inexpensive. I don't care what anyone thinks about using them.

Yes, those are really nice. My only issue with them is that you have to stick with one scent until it's done and ready to be replaced. And then you have to get the melted wax out...

With candles you just pick the scent that you're in the mood for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op the real question is, why do you care what others think? Your home your rules? Are you trying to compete with the wealthy or something? Whenever I read a posted question like yours, I keep thinking the poster has an underlining self-confidence problem. Also some of the posters on dcum are socially weird. Don't ask for their opinions.

This is really important. Reading some of the threads here would have you thinking putting down the plastic divider on the grocery store conveyor belt is making a major statement about your life, values and upbringing. Several posters are normal but there seems to be a quite vocal neurotic/anxious group as well. Take everything worth a grain of salt.

[Anonymous]

Being wealthy sounds kinda dull. Entire classes of food, types of clothing, types of automobiles, brands of resorts and entire states and regions of the country are off limits diebto their tackiness. Sounds hard to keep track and awfully limito.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being wealthy sounds kinda dull. Entire classes of food, types of clothing, types of automobiles, brands of resorts and entire states and regions of the country are off limits diebto their tackiness. Sounds hard to keep track and awfully limito.

I don't know. I'm not "wealthy", but I know/knew a (very) few of the VERY wealthy, and they didn't talk about or care about any of the issues DCUM posters mention and fret about and analyze when they discuss what is "classy" or "tacky." The wealthiest family I've ever known mostly wore (dirty) riding clothes and tatty things that didn't look new, and their giant fridges were certainly stocked with some things that are considered "tacky" on DCUM. They had a house in Myrtle Beach, which has been deemed "tacky" by DCUM, and the mom collected squirrel figurines, which lurked all over their giant house (I'm sure squirrel figurines are "tacky"). They also had a house in Scotland, and I was invited there once in high school; the house was huge, but really, really cold and the furniture was actually threadbare and moldy in places, and we spent the entire time outside hiking, not going to balls or having high teas or grand dinners a la Downton Abbey. The daughter of the family was friends with me, even though my family wasn't "wealthy", and I was never made to feel "tacky"; the parents mom seemed to be best friends with our riding teacher, who was a nice lady but not "wealthy" at all. The dad was not very social but had "hunting buddies", some of whom were decidedly--wait for it--poor. I spent a lot of time with the family in my teens, and had no idea "tacky" was a thing: I just realized they had a lot more money.

I always think of this family when I meet or read about someone who is obsessed with labels and doing the "classy" thing because I think they really want to be like this family. The whole "classy" vs "trashy" debate cycle is fodder for the ASPIRATIONAL crowd, who might have some money, but who reallyreallyreally care about impressing others and being recognized as "classy."

I can't imagine anyone in the family I described using the words "tacky" or "classy" at all, ever.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't call them tacky, but to those of us with fragrance allergies, they can be quite problematic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op the real question is, why do you care what others think? Your home your rules? Are you trying to compete with the wealthy or something? Whenever I read a posted question like yours, I keep thinking the poster has an underlining self-confidence problem. Also some of the posters on dcum are socially weird. Don't ask for their opinions.

This is really important. Reading some of the threads here would have you thinking putting down the plastic divider on the grocery store conveyor belt is making a major statement about your life, values and upbringing. Several posters are normal but there seems to be a quite vocal neurotic/anxious group as well. Take everything worth a grain of salt.

I take fauxffense to that. I am both normal and vocal neurotic/anxious.

[Anonymous]

^^^ "Using too many "" is "tacky""

[Anonymous]

I think there's a big difference between the migraine-inducing scents of Yankee Candles, and the much more subtle and nuanced scents of Diptyque. I can't justify spending more than $50 on a candle, so a mid-range brand that I like is Archipelago Botanicals.

[Anonymous]

The scents from scented candles give me headaches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there's a big difference between the migraine-inducing scents of Yankee Candles, and the much more subtle and nuanced scents of Diptyque. I can't justify spending more than $50 on a candle, so a mid-range brand that I like is Archipelago Botanicals.

+1,000. The posters here decrying scented candles as tacky are only familiar with the Target/supermarket brands of scented candles. If you spend some time in the fragrance section of Neiman's you will find plenty of non-tacky candles. Jo Malone makes great scents and those candles last a while. The scents are subtle and unique, they also don't smell manufactured. That said, they will cost you $50 or so per candle. Many people from different socioeconomic strata here so I wouldn't expect everyone to be familiar with that market.