SIL intentionally hurts my feelings

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here's a crazy thought. Maybe when you stop using her brother as a free meal ticket she'll lighten up.

You must have married someone poor.

[Anonymous]

OP ignore electronic communications. Never defend or explain yourself. If she says something in person smile and walk away. If she persists say "wow you've spent a lot of time worrying about this!"

[Anonymous]

Don't engage and just give very short responses: "this works for us!" or "interesting perspective!" or "hmmmm" or "that's certainly one way to look at it." Don't get substantive, keep it superficial, become emotionally disinterested in her and her opinions. You'll be happier and it's also your best revenge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Here's a crazy thought. Maybe when you stop using her brother as a free meal ticket she'll lighten up.

You must have married someone poor.

I seriously died laughing. Someone's life is so pathetic that they get on the internet to start fights.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't engage and just give very short responses: "this works for us!" or "interesting perspective!" or "hmmmm" or "that's certainly one way to look at it." Don't get substantive, keep it superficial, become emotionally disinterested in her and her opinions. You'll be happier and it's also your best revenge.

I'm going to start working on this. I don't ever say anything to her but it does hurt my feelings. That's a me issue and I need to disengage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't engage and just give very short responses: "this works for us!" or "interesting perspective!" or "hmmmm" or "that's certainly one way to look at it." Don't get substantive, keep it superficial, become emotionally disinterested in her and her opinions. You'll be happier and it's also your best revenge.

I'm going to start working on this. I don't ever say anything to her but it does hurt my feelings. That's a me issue and I need to disengage.

I'd take a similar route except I'd try to convince her of the polar opposite of her behavior. All the time... so when she mentions this again I'd say "I've been wanting to talk to you about this... why DO you work? Are you poor? You really should sit home and do NOTHING... I really mean it... It leaves so much more time and energy to be a good mother and have a lot of sex, too... it is life changing... more veal...?"

[Anonymous]

I would ask her flat out "I'm wondering why exactly you think you have a say in this?" Repeat as necessary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Title covers it. Her most recent example being she was texting me about how it's time for me to stop being a stay at home mom and get a job. DH is blessed with a high paying job so I'm able to stay home but her reasoning is that being a stay at home mom is lazy. Well then I get on Facebook and she had shared a meme about how awesome stay at home moms are. Should I say something to her or just let it go? I try not to let her get under my skin and usually go out of my way to be nice to her because she's my husband's sister but she does this sort of thing constantly. It's frustrating. I'm on my phone so I apologize for the runons.

Screenshot, post it as a comment on her meme.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Title covers it. Her most recent example being she was texting me about how it's time for me to stop being a stay at home mom and get a job. DH is blessed with a high paying job so I'm able to stay home but her reasoning is that being a stay at home mom is lazy. Well then I get on Facebook and she had shared a meme about how awesome stay at home moms are. Should I say something to her or just let it go? I try not to let her get under my skin and usually go out of my way to be nice to her because she's my husband's sister but she does this sort of thing constantly. It's frustrating. I'm on my phone so I apologize for the runons.

Screenshot, post it as a comment on her meme.

Hahaha just spit out my drink laughing. If I wouldn't look like the immature one I totally would.