Found out he's married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- how serious are you guys after 3 months? I fell in love hard with someone after 2, but have also been in casual 6 month realtionships. Where are you?

Op here. we have been casually dating. Never slept over at each other's houses.

I agree, he should have told me. He said he expected to sign the papers 4 months ago but his wife has been dragging it out in court because she wants money from him. I saw a text from her and she is requesting alimony.

Get out hile you still can.

+1

He is a liar, and that is all you need to know. He is withholding information to manipulate the situation to his liking. If he were a stand-up guy, he would have told you and let you make a decision. Run far and run fast from this guy.

[Anonymous]

you're sleeping with a married man? home wrecker.

[Anonymous]

I'm another person who dated while separated. I always told new people the basics of my situation before we met in person. He lied to you, and now he's basically blaming his (almost) ex wife for the lie. I agree with others that he could still be lying to you about the state of his relationship and the nature of the breakup, he's probably not ready for a relationship (I wasn't), and he generally sounds a little sketchy.

Under what circumstances did he end up telling you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm another person who dated while separated. I always told new people the basics of my situation before we met in person. He lied to you, and now he's basically blaming his (almost) ex wife for the lie. I agree with others that he could still be lying to you about the state of his relationship and the nature of the breakup, he's probably not ready for a relationship (I wasn't), and he generally sounds a little sketchy.

Under what circumstances did he end up telling you?

Yes OP, please give us more info. I am getting the impression you may be wavering on what to do still. We all seem to be in agreement that you should move on but tell us more.

[Anonymous]

I'm separated and have no problem dating or with my soon to be ex-husband dating. We are getting divorced. We wouldn't have separated if there was a chance we'd be able to work it out. So we are technically still married but the marriage is long dead. That being said, I am totally transparent about the situation. From the start.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:you're sleeping with a married man? home wrecker.

Did you read the post. OP didn't wreck anyone's home.

[Anonymous]

How can you believe anything he tells you at this point? He lied for 3 months. I would doubt anything he tells you about his marriage or his supposed divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How can you believe anything he tells you at this point? He lied for 3 months. I would doubt anything he tells you about his marriage or his supposed divorce.

Agree. 3 months is a long time. I was annoyed with DH when we were dating that he waited until our 3rd date to tell me he was divorced. It had been 5 years and he was married less then a year, but I thought it was significant.

[Anonymous]

Bye, Felicia!

Tell him to come back when he can show you the signed divorce papers by him and his wife and the divorce decree signed by the judge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you believe anything he tells you at this point? He lied for 3 months. I would doubt anything he tells you about his marriage or his supposed divorce.

Agree. 3 months is a long time. I was annoyed with DH when we were dating that he waited until our 3rd date to tell me he was divorced. It had been 5 years and he was married less then a year, but I thought it was significant.

3 dates? You sound high strung.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How can you believe anything he tells you at this point? He lied for 3 months. I would doubt anything he tells you about his marriage or his supposed divorce.

Agree. 3 months is a long time. I was annoyed with DH when we were dating that he waited until our 3rd date to tell me he was divorced. It had been 5 years and he was married less then a year, but I thought it was significant.

3 dates? You sound high strung.

NP - I dated a guy for a couple of months, knew he had been divorced, then found out he had been divorced TWICE. So pissed that he hadn't said so up front. Ditched him because he was all serious with me too quickly, which obviously was his MO, since he was divorced twice.

Also, I think 3 dates is plenty of time to tell someone you're divorced.