Found out he's married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:honey, if he waited 3 months to tell you its because its a lie. Hopefully you have more self esteem than to get involved with someone like him.

Yup, there are probably more lies coming if you stick around....move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ugh.

We have been dating for 3 months. He is still technically married as his wife met a new man, kicked him (my current bf) out of the house and filed for divorce. Is there a difference in dating a married person who is actively divorcing vs dating a married person who is still going back home to his wife every night pretending he was working late? I feel like there is, but I also feel shocked that he is married.

Yes there is a difference, but thats not the issue here. The issue is he did not tell you the truth about his situation.

[Anonymous]

It's the lying part. He lied to you for months.

I'm sorry, OP. There are better men out there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there is a difference between the two scenarios you mentioned, but only if the person is up front about it. The fact that you just found out after 3 months does not speak well for his integrity.

I agree completely. If this is actually the situation, it's fine. The issue is why he didn't tell you.

[Anonymous]

He was a jerk that he didn't tell you.

[Anonymous]

OP- how serious are you guys after 3 months? I fell in love hard with someone after 2, but have also been in casual 6 month realtionships. Where are you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I just think its a bad time to get seriously involved with someone while they are in the middle of a divorce. Unless its very, very clean.

OP- I got involved with a guy in a similar situation but he was upfront with me about it early on, a couple of weeks in. The divorce was very ugly and stressful. I was there for him. Making sure that I was the perfect supportive girlfriend. Listening to all the drama, etc. He was very into me at the time and his actions and words pushed our relationship forward to a point I thought it was very serious and there would be a future. Once the divorce was over I noticed he was distant and he started backing off. He decided he wanted his freedom etc.... I think you get it. Not saying this will happen at all to you, just sharing what happened to me. Good luck.

+1. Same thing happened to me.

[Anonymous]

Run.

[Anonymous]

The only problem is he lied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I question why he waited so long to tell you. Was he hoping for a reconcilliation with her? If she kicked him out, what if she changes her mind and wants him back in a few months? I dont think you should invest any more of your time and heart into this person right now. You can stay in touch with him. But keep it casual until his divorce is completely over and then maybe you can get to know each other again.

OP - have you been to where he lives? You're sure he's separated?

[Anonymous]

He is untrustworthy. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Wow, everyone is in agreement! The issue is he lied to you for 3 months. You can speculate on why, but the fact remains. I would not trust him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP- how serious are you guys after 3 months? I fell in love hard with someone after 2, but have also been in casual 6 month realtionships. Where are you?

Op here. we have been casually dating. Never slept over at each other's houses.

I agree, he should have told me. He said he expected to sign the papers 4 months ago but his wife has been dragging it out in court because she wants money from him. I saw a text from her and she is requesting alimony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP- how serious are you guys after 3 months? I fell in love hard with someone after 2, but have also been in casual 6 month realtionships. Where are you?

Op here. we have been casually dating. Never slept over at each other's houses.

I agree, he should have told me. He said he expected to sign the papers 4 months ago but his wife has been dragging it out in court because she wants money from him. I saw a text from her and she is requesting alimony.

Get out hile you still can.

[Anonymous]

How do you know that he didn't get the boot from his wife bec he is a lying cheater? He lied to you. He could be a cheating liar and just tells you that his wife was the cheater. Liars lie.