Loser Older Sister; Successful Little Sister

[Anonymous]

OP, are you impulsive? Do you want what you want in the moment, without stopping to pause and think about whether it's really something that will benefit you in the long term? Do you think about other possibilities? If not, then that's what you need to work on, especially when you are making decisions that can have a lifelong impact.

If you are jealous of your sister, just stop. Be happy for her when things are going well for her. Do you really want a deadbeat sister that will be an emotional and financial drain on you? That's the alternative.

Next, think about what it is you are jealous of. Use those as goals for you. If it's having more money, then take responsibility for that. Talk to your boss about how you can be a better employee, look into promotion opportunities. Get a different or second job, or go back to school for an advanced degree. If you want you lose weight, don't pick up the donut in the break room. It requires you to stop and think with every decision. That may be tough to do when you're impulsive, but that's what you have to do.

Also do something that makes you happy every so often. Whether that's buying a cup of gourmet coffee or traveling. Consider volunteering. You'll see you have something valuable to offer to others. And start keeping a gratitude journal. Every day, write down 5 things you are grateful for that day. You seem to be stuck in a negative loop; that will help open your eyes to the good things you have in your own life.

[Anonymous]

Lose some weight. You'll feel better. Whether she is more or less successful, you will have the same inlaws and job. Stop comparing.