I Love My Son But.......

[Anonymous]

I'd let it go. I have an 18 year old who needs reminders to be clean-- his standards are just so much lower than mine, and a mess doesn't bother him. However, he's quick to clean up if he gets a quick reminder. Maybe that's all you need. "Hey son, can you load the dishwasher?" rather than a lecture on how his standards of cleanliness fall short might be all that is required here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd let it go for now. He will likely mature and start to get better about this as he gets older.
I would rather get time with him and deal with it than get less time because he doesn't want to come home to a nagging mom.

+1

[Anonymous]

I'd tell him to clean up after himself.

But I'm not afraid of my offspring.

[Anonymous]

You sound like a huge nag and that is why he doesn't visit you. Most likely he is a slob because you are a neat OCD person who stifled him for most of his life. Most likely you cleaned all the time and he never did as nothing was up to your standards. Now you are so OCD that you want to alienate him completely because few times a year he makes a mess in your house? I say go for it, happiness for all involved. Don't be sad when you need help and he has matured and becomes a neat person and never comes around.