Should we discuss our estate with my son in law or just my daughter.

[Anonymous]

Just your daughter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Daughter. She can bring in the husband if she wants. You never know what is going on in a marriage. You are leaving money to her, not them.

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Yes this. Let her bring him into the conversation if she wants to. The money is for your daughter and the grandchildren, not him.

+1

[Anonymous]

Your daughter may have different feelings about the duration of her marriage that you do. She certainly knows more about it than you do. What if she's contemplating divorce? Or just unsure about the future? Tell her. It's then her choice to decide when/if to tell her husband.

[Anonymous]

If you really had that much money you would be smart enough not to ask on an anonymous forum. Hire a lawyer. Under the law, inherited money belongs only to the blood relative. So you may jeopardize your dd by including her dh. Be more private and do hire experts to go over this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He handles the finances as she is a SAHM. We have four grandchildren but they are all under 15 years old. Yes only child.

You make it sound like she isn't qualified or allowed to handle finances since she isn't contributing to them. Please say this isn't the case

If he works in finance or tax he might be more qualified to deal with specifics. If she was in architecture, med, insurance etc she might be more qualified. That doesn't mean she doesn't manage cash flow- etc.

[Anonymous]

I also say ask your daughter.

For the "fuck that" poster, I would repeat what another poster said, that you never know what is going on in a marriage. It was an inheritance that gave me the freedom/confidence to leave my abusive husband. And he tried to get control of the money (luckily I did not allow that to happen before I was able to leave).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Daughter. She can bring in the husband if she wants. You never know what is going on in a marriage. You are leaving money to her, not them.

+1M

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Daughter. She can bring in the husband if she wants. You never know what is going on in a marriage. You are leaving money to her, not them.

+1M

Another +1 here. This is what my dad does - my siblings and I are all married but we meet with him annually about this without our spouses. I come home from that meeting and tell my husband everything, but I wouldn't if I didn't want to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ask your daughter what she would prefer.

Obviously, this!

Agreed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Daughter. She can bring in the husband if she wants. You never know what is going on in a marriage. You are leaving money to her, not them.

+1

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you really had that much money you would be smart enough not to ask on an anonymous forum. Hire a lawyer. Under the law, inherited money belongs only to the blood relative. So you may jeopardize your dd by including her dh. Be more private and do hire experts to go over this.

+1 Seriously!!