If you're a mom and you have a mom, does she give you a card on Mother's Day?
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Anonymous
| I didn't get anything from mom or MIL this year. I can't remember last year, which was my first Mother's Day. |
Anonymous
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My MIL gives me cards, and I don't like it really - she's not my mom! My mom happened to bring some flowers to plant in the yard this year, but she knows we need to plant stuff (new yard) - she doesn't usually.
We send them both cards, and get flowers if we'll see them. |
Anonymous
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My MIL, who is normally one of the most self-centered and ungracious of people, always gives me something for Mother's Day - usually a card and a pretty plant or flowers. I have to say, it means the world to me. She says she is thanking me for being a mother to her grandchildren. I think its one of the sweetest and kindest things in the world.
The odd thing is my mother, who is generally the more thoughtful and gracious of the two, does not and doesn't even wish me Happy Mother's day. It is all about her and she is generally not that kind of person. Very odd. When my kids have spouses I will recognize both DD and DS's wife and thank them for being a mother to my grandchildren (God willing they have kids!!!). |
Anonymous
No, YOU are odd. You honor your mother on Mother's Day, and not the other way around. It's nice that MIL goes out of her way to do something for you, but that's "extra credit," it's not "the way it SHOULD be." YOU are very odd to expect otherwise. |
Anonymous
My MIL and I exchange "Happy Mother's Day" texts. It's perfect. 
I get my mom a card or a little something. She wishes me a happy mother's day too when I call her. And one year she was taking great, great care of me on Mother's Day because I had had my second child a few days earlier. |
Anonymous
| No. She will wish me a Happy Mother's Day, but no card, I'm not her mom! |
Anonymous
| It's sweet but I wouldn't be hurt. I'm also not hurt DH posted to his on fb re: mother's day. I'm not his mother. |
Anonymous
But Mother's Day is to celebrate all the mothers in your life! (Not as an obligation, obviously, but a nice gesture.) If you had a living grandmother, wouldn't you also send her a card, even if she's not your mother? |
Anonymous
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It's nice when other people celebrate Mother's Day, but the only people I'd be "hurt" by if they didn't acknowledge me were my kids--and, during the very early years, my husband "helping" my kids.
Of course I don't get a card from my mom! It's my job to honor HER, not the other way around! |
Anonymous
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I personally see it as a day to honor moms. All moms. I personally think sending a card is such an easy and cheap thing to do, and can mean so much to the person receiving them. I send them to my mom, my MIL, living grandmothers. I also send them to my two SIL and close friends (especially on their first mother's day). My mom and MIL send me cards.
This probably sounds crazy, but I honestly try to send actual cards in the actual mail as much as I can. I think it is such a pity that more people don't. And p.s., I am a work outside the home mother with three young children. Does not take a lot of time, organization, or money. |
Anonymous
| YES, but I am a single mom (choice) and my daughter is a 2 and a half, and there is no dad in the picture to do it!! She does not send cards to her 2 daughter in laws who have husbands (my brothers.) |
Anonymous
| If we remember, sure. Her birthday is just before and we visit a lot so honestly, its just minor for us since we do a lot of other things together. I forgot to send one on time this year so I am getting her a little something fun at Sephora when I see her this weekend. |
Anonymous
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My mom sends me 2 dozen roses every year, which sounds OTT, but I think it's her way of supporting me, since I wasn't supposed to be a SAHM and ended up as one and find it challenging (no woman in my family has really ever SAH)... And am doing a good job in her eyes.
Of course, she also gives my husband a nice Father's Day gift. Not that it's required in either case! But by contrast, his mother, a narcissist, doesn't even send him a card on his birthday... Nor has she ever acknowledged our DC's birth or birthday with even a card... And yet she considers the family "close." Poor DH-- he "joked" to DC that his mommy doesn't love him. But he does feel a lot of love from my parents and grandparents... Wow, I went off on a tangent, didn't I? |
Anonymous
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Yes
I am a mom so my min sends me card . If you want something from your mom , ask her! You can do it in a non confrontational way. Not a big deal. |
Anonymous
| Not a physical card, but I get texts and emails from both my mom and MIL. |