Man wondering about sexuality

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sexuality is fluid for many people. You might be gay or you might me bi and prefer men or any variety. You don't have to feel exactly the same every day - most bisexual people don't. I sure don't.

Gay woman here. This is exactly why I WON'T date bisexual women. A person looking for a serious commitment, doesn't want to deal with this.

Then don't. Not feeling the same every day doesn't mean not being committed. Just like a straight woman won't be attracted to every guy on every day. If you think bisexuality or sexuality being fluid means that when someone is in love with someone, it's only on certain days, or that a bisexual woman is going to marry a woman and say "oh, but today I feel straight," you're the one who is confused. That is no more likely than a lesbian woman saying, "well, today I'm more attracted to that girl over there than you."

[Anonymous]

I generally consider myself to be straight, but I do feel some same-sex attraction to a small subset of men. I have never had any sexual contact with a man, and I don't intend to.

I think I feel the same way many "straight" women do. They prefer the opposite sex, but feel some attraction and connection with occasional members of their own sex.

I wouldn't mind being open and honest about this, but the reality is that our society only accepts 100% gay and 100% straight men. If you are in any way deviant from those two paradigms, you are viewed as untrustworthy and promiscuous, and a spreader of STDs, etc. You are discriminated by both gays and straights.

One need not look past this thread for evidence of this mentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I would consider you gay.

As a woman, I would consider you just you. You may like women, you may like men or you may like both. Either way...you were the same guy yesterday as you will be tomorrow.

Thank you for that. I've so tired of the homophobic comments from women on DCUM.
- another woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I generally consider myself to be straight, but I do feel some same-sex attraction to a small subset of men. I have never had any sexual contact with a man, and I don't intend to.

I think I feel the same way many "straight" women do. They prefer the opposite sex, but feel some attraction and connection with occasional members of their own sex.

I wouldn't mind being open and honest about this, but the reality is that our society only accepts 100% gay and 100% straight men. If you are in any way deviant from those two paradigms, you are viewed as untrustworthy and promiscuous, and a spreader of STDs, etc. You are discriminated by both gays and straights.

One need not look past this thread for evidence of this mentality.

I think it's hot!
- DW

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I would consider you gay.

As a woman, I would consider you just you. You may like women, you may like men or you may like both. Either way...you were the same guy yesterday as you will be tomorrow.

Thank you for that. I've so tired of the homophobic comments from women on DCUM.
- another woman

+2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I generally consider myself to be straight, but I do feel some same-sex attraction to a small subset of men. I have never had any sexual contact with a man, and I don't intend to.

I think I feel the same way many "straight" women do. They prefer the opposite sex, but feel some attraction and connection with occasional members of their own sex.

I wouldn't mind being open and honest about this, but the reality is that our society only accepts 100% gay and 100% straight men. If you are in any way deviant from those two paradigms, you are viewed as untrustworthy and promiscuous, and a spreader of STDs, etc. You are discriminated by both gays and straights.

One need not look past this thread for evidence of this mentality.

I think it's hot!
- DW

Me, too. PP, please don't let a subset of fear-mongering homophobes make you feel like there are no women out there who will accept you as you are!