Rescheduled wedding ettiquette question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Flush these turds and be done with them. You can do better in the friends department.

+1.

This is a total turd move.

[Anonymous]

It's tacky to even send out invites again - especially to another destination! I can't even begin to imagine the eye rolls when people opened the invite.

At this point, they should just be doing a small, quiet wedding with 20 people (one "best friend" and family only) near their home.

It sounds to me like they are fishing for "free" gifts from their spurned friends.

[Anonymous]

I've never had someone cancel a wedding that had a set date/venue and reschedule. I would say whatever you decide to do, do it from the heart, don't do it begrudgingly. Like the pp said, if your gift the money spent the first time, decline with a best wishes and genuine excitement for them but don't send a gift. If you are really excited to send a gift in lieu of attending, then do so. If you really want to go to Mexico or feel you can't miss this wedding, then make wedding attendance plans a second time but make sure either the arrangements are refundable and/or you can easily make a vacation of it just in case.

Bottom line is you can't get back the $2500 and you don't know why they called it off and later got back together - it may not be something they want to share widespread and there may be a reason why they are choosing a destination weddings instead of justice of the peace/small gathering. So it isn't about deciding if it was a "worthy reason", it's about if it is personally worth it for you to go. The answer can be no for lots of reason and that's okay. I have missed two destination weddings because we couldn't get our parents to watch the kids and in one case my job situation was precarious. Now we could have decided for just one of us to go but it wasn't worth it factoring cost, and the work for the person both working and running after 2 kids under 3.