Help! my 10 yr old DD found porn on the internet

[Anonymous]

I believe OP's DD is 10 not 11?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My 9 yo SD was found to have been googling in appropriate things for months (started with boobs and progressed) on tablets their mom had purchased. When her dad found out, the last thing that she had googled was 'Anna and Elsa naked' -- good lord almighty that shit was terrifying! Her mom has since put on parental controls but I can't see how a kid can get some of those images out of her head.

Ohhhh wow.


OP, whatever you do don't embarrass her. Don't yell or chastise. At that age, they're curious and embarrassed.Gently talk to her about it in a calm voice

He handled it really well -- told her what he had found and that it was natural to be curious, but that the internet wasn't the right place to get that information and she should talk to him or her mom.

He was visiting them in another state when it happened -- so I was at home googling what he told me she had been googling. OMbabyjesus!

[Anonymous]

From OP - I had a very honest and loving talk with my DD last night. Thank you for all the good advice, minus the judgemental posts. I don't need advice about vaccinations. I have very good pediatrician I trust for those topics. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Something tells me that many of these PPs were promiscuous at a very young age, which is usually the direct result of parenting. News Flash - not everyone starts having sex as a tween. Many kids are raised with higher morals than that. That's not heads in the sand, that's just how we raise our kids. We also don't promote drinking alcohol as a tween. Our kids are kids. But they are not ignorant. They know these things exist. They know what things are all about, but they also know that they are for grown ups and they need to spend time being kids right now. That's how I was raised and that is how I am raising my kids. We're very involved and have many, many friends in our community who are of similar mind. Our kids are very healthy and happy kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:From OP - I had a very honest and loving talk with my DD last night. Thank you for all the good advice, minus the judgemental posts. I don't need advice about vaccinations. I have very good pediatrician I trust for those topics. Thank you.

OP: would you care to fill us in? Back story why she was looking at it? What was discussed? We all might learn from you. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something tells me that many of these PPs were promiscuous at a very young age, which is usually the direct result of parenting. News Flash - not everyone starts having sex as a tween. Many kids are raised with higher morals than that. That's not heads in the sand, that's just how we raise our kids. We also don't promote drinking alcohol as a tween. Our kids are kids. But they are not ignorant. They know these things exist. They know what things are all about, but they also know that they are for grown ups and they need to spend time being kids right now. That's how I was raised and that is how I am raising my kids. We're very involved and have many, many friends in our community who are of similar mind. Our kids are very healthy and happy kids.

I didnt lose my virginity until 25 to my grad school bf lol. I discovered porn and masturbation around 9/10. I'm happy I discovered the latter but perhaps less so the former. I only have myself to blame. Was curiosity and nothing more.

[Anonymous]

PPs have mentioned discussing the mechanics of sex, speaking up if someone touches you inappropriately, porn not reflecting real life, etc. but one missing piece of the puzzle is sexual desire. I engaged in some sexual behaviors at an an age that makes me sick to think about now, as an adult. When we talk about kids being too experimental, too young, we tend to focus on parenting and peers. I can assure you that my home life was stable, intact, and healthy, and my friends were fine. I still did things with boys I should not have done, because the feelings I felt were overwhelming. I felt powerless to stop myself - just incredibly, incredibly horny. Hormones can be so powerful. We need to send the message that this is normal - but it's better to walk away than give in.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No one is saying a lot of 11-year-olds are sexually active. The PP's point was that you want to give girls the HPV vaccine BEFORE they become sexually active, and 11 seems like a pretty safe age for most of us!

Also, OP, I think it's telling that you posted this in "Older Kids" instead of "Tweens and Teens." It kind of sucks, but you have to talk about these topics earlier now because of the internet.

10 is an older kid, not a teenager.

It's the beginning of the "Tweens," no?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No one is saying a lot of 11-year-olds are sexually active. The PP's point was that you want to give girls the HPV vaccine BEFORE they become sexually active, and 11 seems like a pretty safe age for most of us!

Also, OP, I think it's telling that you posted this in "Older Kids" instead of "Tweens and Teens." It kind of sucks, but you have to talk about these topics earlier now because of the internet.

10 is an older kid, not a teenager.

It's the beginning of the "Tweens," no?

Or the ending of Big Kid. It's a transitional time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No one is saying a lot of 11-year-olds are sexually active. The PP's point was that you want to give girls the HPV vaccine BEFORE they become sexually active, and 11 seems like a pretty safe age for most of us!

Also, OP, I think it's telling that you posted this in "Older Kids" instead of "Tweens and Teens." It kind of sucks, but you have to talk about these topics earlier now because of the internet.

Ummm, the forum is described as: Use this forum for discussion of issues related to older kids (i.e. elementary school-aged). I believe 10 is around 4th grade? That is elementary school-aged. PP, are you just searching for ways to flame OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something tells me that many of these PPs were promiscuous at a very young age, which is usually the direct result of parenting. News Flash - not everyone starts having sex as a tween. Many kids are raised with higher morals than that. That's not heads in the sand, that's just how we raise our kids. We also don't promote drinking alcohol as a tween. Our kids are kids. But they are not ignorant. They know these things exist. They know what things are all about, but they also know that they are for grown ups and they need to spend time being kids right now. That's how I was raised and that is how I am raising my kids. We're very involved and have many, many friends in our community who are of similar mind. Our kids are very healthy and happy kids.

What tells you that? Please explain.

The HPV vaccine series is at age 11 for both boys and girls because that's BEFORE most kids become sexually active. Waiting until the kid is sexually active to give the HPV vaccine series is like waiting until the kid has been in a room with a kid with measles to give the measles vaccine.

Also, explaining the mechanics of sex to kids before they hear misinformation from other kids on the playground does not promote teenage (or tween-age) sexual activity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something tells me that many of these PPs were promiscuous at a very young age, which is usually the direct result of parenting. News Flash - not everyone starts having sex as a tween. Many kids are raised with higher morals than that. That's not heads in the sand, that's just how we raise our kids. We also don't promote drinking alcohol as a tween. Our kids are kids. But they are not ignorant. They know these things exist. They know what things are all about, but they also know that they are for grown ups and they need to spend time being kids right now. That's how I was raised and that is how I am raising my kids. We're very involved and have many, many friends in our community who are of similar mind. Our kids are very healthy and happy kids.

What tells you that? Please explain.

The HPV vaccine series is at age 11 for both boys and girls because that's BEFORE most kids become sexually active. Waiting until the kid is sexually active to give the HPV vaccine series is like waiting until the kid has been in a room with a kid with measles to give the measles vaccine.

Also, explaining the mechanics of sex to kids before they hear misinformation from other kids on the playground does not promote teenage (or tween-age) sexual activity.

There is a panic here, that's why. Were your kids sexually active at age 11? Doctors recommend the vaccine at age 11 so that is what we will do, but wow, there is a panic here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something tells me that many of these PPs were promiscuous at a very young age, which is usually the direct result of parenting. News Flash - not everyone starts having sex as a tween. Many kids are raised with higher morals than that. That's not heads in the sand, that's just how we raise our kids. We also don't promote drinking alcohol as a tween. Our kids are kids. But they are not ignorant. They know these things exist. They know what things are all about, but they also know that they are for grown ups and they need to spend time being kids right now. That's how I was raised and that is how I am raising my kids. We're very involved and have many, many friends in our community who are of similar mind. Our kids are very healthy and happy kids.

Holy defensive, Batman!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something tells me that many of these PPs were promiscuous at a very young age, which is usually the direct result of parenting. News Flash - not everyone starts having sex as a tween. Many kids are raised with higher morals than that. That's not heads in the sand, that's just how we raise our kids. We also don't promote drinking alcohol as a tween. Our kids are kids. But they are not ignorant. They know these things exist. They know what things are all about, but they also know that they are for grown ups and they need to spend time being kids right now. That's how I was raised and that is how I am raising my kids. We're very involved and have many, many friends in our community who are of similar mind. Our kids are very healthy and happy kids.

What tells you that? Please explain.

The HPV vaccine series is at age 11 for both boys and girls because that's BEFORE most kids become sexually active. Waiting until the kid is sexually active to give the HPV vaccine series is like waiting until the kid has been in a room with a kid with measles to give the measles vaccine.

Also, explaining the mechanics of sex to kids before they hear misinformation from other kids on the playground does not promote teenage (or tween-age) sexual activity.

There is a panic here, that's why. Were your kids sexually active at age 11? Doctors recommend the vaccine at age 11 so that is what we will do, but wow, there is a panic here.

Who is panicking, and about what?

Some parents resist HPV vaccination of their 11- and 12-year-olds because they are not sexually active. How should I counter this position?

Explain to the parent that vaccination starting at 11 or 12 years will provide the best protection possible long before the start of any kind of sexual activity. It is standard practice to vaccinate people before they are exposed to an infection, as is the case with measles and the other recommended childhood vaccines. Similarly, we want to vaccinate children before they get exposed to HPV. Studies of HPV vaccine indicate that younger adolescents respond better to the vaccine than older adolescents and young adults. Finally, there is no evidence that receipt of HPV vaccine increases the chance that a child will become sexually active.


http://www.immunize.org/askexperts/experts_hpv.asp

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Something tells me that many of these PPs were promiscuous at a very young age, which is usually the direct result of parenting. News Flash - not everyone starts having sex as a tween. Many kids are raised with higher morals than that. That's not heads in the sand, that's just how we raise our kids. We also don't promote drinking alcohol as a tween. Our kids are kids. But they are not ignorant. They know these things exist. They know what things are all about, but they also know that they are for grown ups and they need to spend time being kids right now. That's how I was raised and that is how I am raising my kids. We're very involved and have many, many friends in our community who are of similar mind. Our kids are very healthy and happy kids.

Something tells me that someone is way up on her high horse!

And, newsflash, no matter high up you are you aren't going to be controlling your kids sexuality.
Though really you seem to be trying really hard. I'll bet when your kids do grow up and have sex they'll see flashes of angry high horse mommy and
her strong morals during the act. Lovely gift to give.