Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It is normal, I think; they feel like they are with their nuclear family, even though that's not necessarily how you see it.
Pick your battles, but set some boundaries. And set a schedule and communicate!
Two days out, call them: "Mom, during your visit, I've prepared lasagna for Friday, chili for Saturday, and we will do Thai take-out for Sunday. I've also gotten your basics: cottage cheese, low fat yogurt and Raisin Bran. If you want to bring more food, let me know now because I don't have a lot of fridge space left."
Before the TV goes on: "We can check headlines for half an hour, then I need the TV off in the den. If you want to watch more, feel free to go to the rec room."
Give where you can, but speak up if you need to! How will they know your boundaries/preferences if you don't set/communicate them?
HAHAHA
OP, go ahead and make this announcement to your ILs. You will indeed have the TV off and more quiet. Then you will have 25 years of hurt feelings, chilliness, and possibly gossip in your extended family and drama with your DH. But so what! You told them.
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